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24-9-2009 - Whew

My mood while writing this blog:
Not sure

First I just want to thank all of you for the comments on my last blog. Not that I want anyone to have to go thru what I did, but its nice to know I'm not alone. And that others have been there and worked thru it.

Justin and I sat down last nite and had a loooong talk. I found out that he is worried about having another baby. Mostly scared that things are going to change drastically and he will no longer be able to do a lot of the things he can now. He told me he didnt want to say anything because he didnt want to worry me.

All I could do was stare at him with my jaw on the floor! I asked him what he thought would worry me more- him saying he was scared or him turning into Mr Hyde and me thinking there was a chance my marriage was ending??!! Only a man would think that made any kind of sense lol

I promised him that even though we will be busy when the baby comes that I will make sure he also has some time to do the things he enjoys (playing video games & being lazy) ;)

We also talked about the way he has been treating Sophia. He says he has just felt so stressed lately and he must have been taking it out on her with out realizing it. He actually cried when I told him he was acting just like his father. I think that truly bothered him more then anything. He has so much resentment towards him and has always tried so hard not to be anything like him ( a know it all, nasty, jerk).

He promised he would really make an effort to help me more and last nite he even started cleaning, and did the laundry. Now we will just have to see if it lasts.. He also made sure to spend some quality time with Fia while I got to take a nice hot bath (it was wonderful!!)

I am taking him to a Yankees game next week for his birthday, just the 2 of us, and I am hoping that spending some time alone will help bring the 2 of us back together.

I always thought that having a baby brought people closer together, but I guess sometimes its just the opposite. Your life starts to revolve around your child and you forget to make time for each other.....

Well Lesson Learned.. Please keep us in your prayers

6 Comments on Whew

boyoboy - Thursday, 24 Sep
Great news!

hopefully3 - Thursday, 24 Sep
i am so happy things went well with the 2 of you! i am sure it will all work out. And i think alot of what you said was true. i will keep you in my prayers hun! Oh and i am soo jealous that you are going to a Yankee game! Lol! Have fun! i think some time alone is just what you guys need!

refinnejlee - Thursday, 24 Sep
I feel such a sense of relief for you!! I am sure that with issues being talked about and ironed out, that you and he will be able to continue on with your partnership and marriage with a bright future along with your children...communication is vital to a healthy relationship as well as quality time alone as adults...you and he will be alright!!!!!!! :)

katied716 - Thursday, 24 Sep
I am so glad y'all were able to sit down and talk. Try to keep the communication up and express yourself freely. Men tend to fall back into old habits after things are going well for a while. I have learned that as I long as I constantly share my feelings with him..he is aware. He doesn't always act on it right then, but eventually he will. Best of luck!

ashes~is~blessed - Thursday, 24 Sep
There must be something in the water that our men have been drinking.....lol. I am glad you guys talked!! I have learned that without communication we are all just lost in assumption and fear. I hope things continue to progress for you in a positive way sweetheart! :) HAVE FUN AT THE GAME and get that good quality time you two need and deserve! :)

R-N-E-Bump - Thursday, 24 Sep
What a wonderful answer to prayer just a few minutes after I replied to your last blog. LOL! I'm sooo glad you were able to talk things over. I really had a feeling it was the same way as with my husband. Having one baby is one thing but having to worry about feeding and clothing and caring for a second is another. I had no idea my husband would freak out like that! I'm glad you're going out next week for your husband's birthday. Sounds like a much needed date night! You and hubby can both relax and feel refreshed.

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