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|09-9-2009 - Dresser drama...
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So I know this is going to sound so so so so dumb, but I think I just need someone to remind me not to worry about the small things. So my husband and I were given a house as a wedding gift...mind you, it's VERY small, really run down, etc...but it's ours, with no mortgage, we just have been doing work on it slowly but surely. My husband did a great job putting wood floors down, painting the room yellow (i love yellow i find it very soothing), and putting up new trim, curtains, and shades. We found a gorgeous crib that I love at a great price (Walmart!). I got a new crib set (jungle tales).
However, i'm a strong type A personality and really like everything to be perfect. We were given my great-grandmothers old rocking chair...it's really really old, but it means a lot to me. My mom is making new covers and pads for it to match the room, but the problem is that it doesn't match the crib. AND we were in need of a dresser...the dresser i wanted was expensive ($250) but it matched the crib and I liked it. However, husband found a dresser at a yard sale for like $5 and bought it...and now I sit here pondering what to do. The dresser doesn't match the crib, the rocker doesn't match the crib, and i'm in no position to paint and sand it all down to try to make it match. So, during an emotional moment I ended up crying and complaining.
My husband is such a great guy and he reminded me that that 1) the baby won't notice that it doesn't match, and that the nursery is fine 2) that the dresser i wanted wouldn't have been able to hold all of his clothing (which is true). 3) I'm going to be leaving my job as a CEO and become a full-time stay at home mom, which means our family budget is cut in half, so the $250 for the dresser will come in real handy for diapers...he also reminded me that stuff (like a new dresser) isn't as important as being there for our son...
So now I feel ridiculous even crying at all because all that stuff is true...so to make me feel better, does anyone else out there have none matching nursery stuff? Does any of that stuff even matter??? Or will I not settle until I get the dresser I want...I keep looking at other people's nurserys and I keep thinking how nice everyone's looks and that mine sucks (i'll take pictures once I get the curtains up, and pics on the wall, a stuffed giraffe, etc)...any input would be great!
7 Comments on Dresser drama...menja
- Sunday, 13 Sep I think your husband is a smart guy, don't worry - I would blame the crying on your hormones :) You will need to train your eye to find some harmony in the decor ;) I am big on matching as well, but 'nursery' is something I don't need to worry about, thankfully :)
I don't have a nursery. This is my second baby. The first one, who is six now, still sleeps with me. We have a spare bedroom, but he hates to sleep away from me. I am wondering what to do. The new baby will be here soon and I don't want my first one to feel like he's being pushed out.
Anyway, did you know it is a culture thing? - almost everyone has a nursery in the US, but here in India, if you put your baby in another room, you are considered *weird* LOL. "Oh, how horrible she is, she put her tiny baby in another room! All by himself/herself!" Are the kind of comments you get to hear.
And I always wonder - won't it be a pain to keep going into another room to care for your baby? Especially in the nights? I don't get it.
We normally move children into another room only when they are a little older - 5 or 6. They move into their own room only when they are old enough to not get scared.
BTW, smaller babies are always put in a cradle in the hall or dine during the day, so that any available adult can rock/change the baby etc. Ours is a joint family - my husband's parents, his brother and wife and their kids also stay in the same house. I am sure you will find this as weird as the Indians find the concept of a nursery. :) Lorelaismom (Amanda)
- Wednesday, 9 Sep I completely understand where you're coming from too. It drives me crazy knowing that I'm going to have a nursery that doesn't exactly match, yet again. But I will tell you that an "eclectic" look is very in right now! :) For this baby's nursery, we're reusing my daughter's crib which she chewed on so there are teeth marks and scratches all in the bars. I decided to go with just a color theme instead of a design theme this time so that it would make it a little easier to make things match (black, white, and red). But everything is going to be second hand and I've become ok with that. Your husband is exactly right. And honestly, once you get you're precious baby in that room, you won't notice the mismatch either! :) jennlea
- Wednesday, 9 Sep I had the same issue because my mom bought me this BEAUTIFUL cherry wood crib with matching changing table attached, and I had a cheap dresser from craigslist that didn't match at all, a rocking chair that didn't match, a bookshelf that didn't match, and a side table that didn't match. And none of them matched each other! So...my sister sanded and stained the chair and the side table because they were real wood, and even though it isn't an exact match to the bed, it is pretty close. THen my mom painted the dresser and the bookshelf brown with green polka dots (that is the theme of the room) so they match each other, even though they don't necessarily match the wood. It ended up looking great! I totally understand, I am a matching person too :) soon.to.be.mom.of.three (Meghan)
- Wednesday, 9 Sep Nursery? What nursery? I dont have one for this baby :(. And my son's nursery was part office part baby's room, no theme, no paint (renting), we had just gotten married so we didnt have the funds to fully furnish a matching nursery. We do now but, our new baby has a bassinet I found at a garage sale for 15 dollars, great condition, as he will be spending the first few months in our bedroom. Otherwise he will be using his older brothers old crib and changing table. Not sure yet whether the boys are going to share a room or put the baby in the office, that has no window. The dresser we have for him is an old one that my hubby sanded and stained for me last summer. And thats about it. We do have 3 bedrooms in our place right now, and I'm sure that our landlord would let us paint, but there are so many other things I feel I need to do first. I have all joshies old clothes washed and separated by 6 months, in seperate tubs. I've got my breast pump cleaned and ready for use. Blankets and burp cloths are clean. I cant really remember how I crazy I was when I was preggo with joshie, but I'm sure I was a little freaked out like you. This time around I'm trying to be little more pratical. That doesnt mean that I'm not drooling over that ad in parenting magazine. *sigh* Long story short....(too late)... I do not have any matching nursery stuff. Yours does not suck, its all full of love. :) Your baby is so lucky to have an amazing mommy like you. jrsully24
- Wednesday, 9 Sep I completely understand how you feel! I have been there myself right now. I cry over everything and my husband is constantlt reminding me that the baby has no idea. We are not ready to move until this Spring so my little boy is going to have to share a room with his little sister for awhile and I have been so sad about it. But they won't even remember and I have finally come to peace with that. Although with my hormones, I am sure I will cry again. i didn;t mean to ramble, I just wanted to let you know that I feel the same way! Only half is pink and half is blue! Yikes! reeree01
- Wednesday, 9 Sep I feel the same about everything needing to match. Everything in my nursery matches except the dresser its just a little lighter. I am fine with it, but my bf wants it all to match more than me. So I told him if its that important he can buy it.your hubby did make some good points however. baby bake oven
- Wednesday, 9 Sep I would want it all to match as well... but it's just how I am too. That's why we returned the crib bought for us on Monday actually. However, I do think your husband made some great points in his side of the argument. If it's not going to fit your budget than you absolutely shouldn't stress about it at all because later you will stress about money and that will be much worse! I hope you find a happy medium on this! Maybe you or your hubby can find some friends to come over and sand and stain the other items to make them match your crib??