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20-4-2010 - NEED ADVICE!!!

My mood while writing this blog:
Frustrated

So here is the situation. In September 2009 a volunteer where I use to work at lent me some maternity clothes. I tried them on and they didn't fit, so I took them back to where I work because I didn't know her last name, phone number, address. I put a thank you note in the tote saying how much appreciated her letting me use them but that my belly was way to big to use them! My co-workers left them on a bench in the front entry way for her husband to pick up when he came in...he volunteered with us once a week.

WELL...I ended up joining a library group with this girl and she asked about the maternity clothes. I explained I had left them at my office for her husband to pick up back in September. It is now APRIL. I came home today to a nasty message from her and her husband saying that the organization had gotten rid of the clothes last month because they hadn't been picked up and assumed that they were a donation at that point since they had been sitting on the bench for 6 months and her husband was there weekly to volunteer.

I don't know what to do...I do plan on calling them back, but what do I say other than, i am so sorry for this misunderstanding. I don't know why her husband didn't pick them up and take them home (this is a really small office, and the workers there (there are only 2 employees) told her husband to get the maternity clothes several times. Do I need to offer her some of my maternity clothes? I do have extra but we aren't the same size. I really can't offer her any money...we live on one income. Other than my heartfelt apology I don't know what to say! I mean, it's been 7 months. Plus I wasn't a big fan of the nasty message they left!!! If I was trying to be spiteful I would have taken them to goodwill myself! Any ideas? Now that I have a baby, my life has changed so much and I don't want to burn any bridges...especially since I like this girl and we have baby's close in age...any suggestions would be appreciated!

4 Comments on NEED ADVICE!!!

morgn - Tuesday, 20 Apr
I agree with everyone else. You just need to apologizes for the misunderstanding. Its not like you just got rid of the clothes.

MamaRancourt - Tuesday, 20 Apr
Awe, that's too bad that the clothes never got picked up! Especially seeing how you told the husband to pick them up a few times! It's totally NOT your fault, but they are probably upset about it and pointing the finger at you. I think the nasty note is VERY childish of them. I would get a I'm Sorry card or something of that sort (even though it's not your fault) and just explain. Plus it sucks, because you have to see her regularly and no, you don't want any unnecessary tention! I agree, NEVER lend clothes or accept clothes if someone wants them back! My husbands best friend and his wife had a baby 3yrs about- a boy. They wanted to "lend" us their boys baby clothes. I actually told Dave that I didn't want them, I was too worried they'd expect me to give them DJ's clothes if they have another boy or what if DJ stained or ruined something...

newmommyx2 - Tuesday, 20 Apr
i think she overreacted and an apology should be enough. If it isnt then she probably isnt worth your time in my opinion :). p.s. you dont owe her money. it was a misunderstanding.

heathert - Tuesday, 20 Apr
wow what a situation. Sad she felt she needed to leave a bad message. Well, if her and her husband knew where they were left and were asked several times to take them then I would say that was there fault not yours. If you decide to call her make she you tell her the 2 names who reminded him to get the clothes. If she is still rude to you explain how you feel and value her friendship and see where that goes. If she still is not understanding just say again I am sorry but I left them where I said I would and they were never picked up and leave it there. Hopefully she will see your point and that it was not your fault and let it go and continue the friendship. Good luck.

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