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14-6-2009 - PARENTHOOD

My mood while writing this blog:
Annoyed

Okay, time to vent!

Being a first time mommy-to-be I CAN NOT STAND IT when people who have children complain or try to lecture you about how much work it is and/or how hard it is to have a child. They say things like "Good Luck" sarcastically. Or they'll say "everything will be different" or "you and your husband will never be the same". Then they'll proceed to give you examples like you have no clue what you are getting into and they are some master at it. It is so annoying!

Of course things will be hard, difficult, challenging, and I know I'll probably cry from time to time out of frustration, and of course things will be different! That's why David and I have waited till this time in our life to start a family. We've been together for 10 years and have had PLENTY of alone time together! I have never had a full-time job in my life, so I personally have had PLENTY of time to myself and days where I never did anything but move from the bed to the couch!

People have children all the time for the first time and then guess what... THEY DO IT AGAIN! So is can't be all THAT bad, come on! It it was people would say; "Holy shit, we're never doing this again" or "I can't imagine having another"

And after 2 loses I think my husband and I are more then ready for what-ever parenthood brings our way! I know you can never be prepared for it, but we are welcoming it and are so excited and happy for this new chapter in our life!

Thanks, just needed to get that off my chest!

11 Comments on PARENTHOOD

waiting for my flower to bloom - Monday, 29 Jun
AMEN sister! I can totally relate and now more now that I am a new Mother with a 3 week old and you know Oscar and I are in the same boat with being together for the same amoutn of time.. we were MORE than ready and you know what Cheryl it is what you make of it... there have been frustrtaing times with trying to figure out what our daughter's needs are but we have BOTH helped eachother and discuss EVERYTHING (whether we agree or not on some issues we have had-formula-he thinks it is one way I think it is another-lol) but we have always come to an agreement..and this is what makes our relationship even better sharing such great moments with us as a family in our lives. WE are both learning! So you and Dave do what YOU and DAVE think is right or wrong..it is YOUR lives NOT others!!!! xoxoxoxo

grace27 - Tuesday, 23 Jun
I agree with you, I also have received the same crap comments. My best friend had her two year old at my house the other day, and she was throwing a tantrum, and she asks me "And you want one of these?". But yet, it didn't stop her from having two kids!! I try and ingnore them and know that motherhood will also be an extremely wonderful experience.!

minkymoo78 - Monday, 15 Jun
Well said! I feel exactly the same. Me and my hubby have been through 3 losses and it took us 2 years to get where we are now and it bores me when people say oooh you'll be so tired, you don't realise how hard it will be etc. YEAH I KNOW! I am not going into motherhood thinking it'll be a piece of cake, it's common sense to know that it's going to be hard work and I'm not scared of a bit of hard work to have the baby I have longed for for so long! So glad you wrote that blog xxx

chellechelle - Monday, 15 Jun
Wait until you have the baby or are in labor. EVERYBODY will tell you their birth story and try as hard as they can to make it sound as if what they went through was soooo much more difficult than you. It is so irritating and you want to scream at everyone to shut the hell up!! And when you guys decide to have another baby it will start all over again, except they're all the same stories fom the same people!! Maybe one or two stories are bearable, but enough! I guess I needed to vent a little, too!!!
I can tell you that I have never been happier in my life since I had my son. He gives everything meaning it seems and I honestly feel like everything I do is for him and his benefit. The good and the bad, we deal with it but at the end of the day I feel like I am the luckiest girl in the world because I have my son in my life. I love him so much I can't even describe it (tear!!!)! You'll LOVE being a mommy ; )

joshandconorsmommy - Monday, 15 Jun
That is so funny. You sound like I did when I was pregnant with my first son. So much of "well just wait until..." Ahhh.... The advice is really annoying as well. The only advice that I kept from when I was pregnant with joshie was from a friends mom, she told me to teach my child self confidence and follow through with disapline. It made so much sense to me, that I still follow the advice. I just ignored everyone else, even my mom! The only thing I will say to you honey, YOU ARE GOING TO HAVE SO MUCH FUN! Nobody EVER tells you how much fun your children will be. But they are. Its the best time of my life. :)

shea-elizabeth - Monday, 15 Jun
Oh man, so funny that you wrote this because I can totally relate. I've heard all of those statements - plus others including how I can say goodbye to my perky boobs and other things. It is wicked annoying. I have wanted to be a mom forever. I know what I'm getting into. I may not know all the stresses that go along with it yet, but I'm prepared for them and can't wait! Just try to smile back at them....as frustrating as they may be.

ninjababe - Monday, 15 Jun
I seem to have found somethings that works against this "friendly advice". Whenever someone starts going on about how I'll never get another full night's sleep, my figure back, my sex life back, etc, I just give them the BIGGEST smile and I enthusiastically reply "I KNOW! I CAN'T WAIT!!" Seriously, it works, and it's so much fun to see their jaws hit the ground LOL

faith09 - Sunday, 14 Jun
OMG I totally agree with you that is SO freaking irritating LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

numom2b - Sunday, 14 Jun
Preach On SistA! You sound like a Proud Mommy-to-be. Aaaaaaand you are going to be a darn good one too. Because unlike these other whiney desperate housewives -You guys can't wait to be parents to share the love you have for each other - with a baby that you made together. Chalk up those woman to a bunch a busy-body know-it-alls who love to hear the sound of their own voice. Aren't you glad you're not them.

gixxerbabe08 - Sunday, 14 Jun
being a mother is the best thing in the world and if anyone who says that shoudnt have children. cause they r not a chore its a responsiblilty for life that is wonderful. i swear i hate people in this world lol. anyways you'll be fine and dont listen to anybody cause its the best thing you'll ever do!

aileenc0 - Sunday, 14 Jun
I'm a mum already and I wold never put anyone off likr that of course it's life changing but it's great and whatever you lose out on you gain 10fold so it's all worth it. Tell them anything worth doing is going to be difficult, if you're feeling like being polite that is. if you're not then telling them to take a f**k to themself should get the message across. lol. You can always blame it on hormones lmao.

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