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11-8-2009 - Sex ? What's that ?

My mood while writing this blog:
Frustrated !

Ok Ladies.....I'm really gonna need some input on this one!

So, as some of you may know, earlier in my pregnancy I had an issue with my cervix. Basically my doctor was a little concerned that my cervix could weaken and send me into preterm labor. I had to be put on bedrest and one of the main restrictions was NO SEX !!! That was around week 20 and she didnt want DH and I to be intimate until about week 28 (yes I know...thats a long time to go without some loving). Of cousre after that appointment me and DH cheated and snuck in love sessions here and there. Everything was cool until about week 24. We went back to the doctors and this time the space between my cervix and uteras looked about a half inch wider, so once again I was put on bedrest and was told NO SEX until week 28. From then on we stuck to the rules and didnt cheat at all. Now i'm at week 31 and guess what ...STILL NO SEX!!!! Its not because of the doctor but because of DH!!!! I dont know whats wrong with him....he just doesn't seem to want do it. I'm not sure if he's just scared about hurting me or that he'll cause more problems with my cervix. I'm just pretty frustrated about the whole situation. Theres two sides to how I feel. Realistically, I dont really want to have sex either. It's uncomfortable....my stomach is in the way...the baby is moving....it's just not that romantic. On the other hand, I want him to at least act as if he has the desire to have sex. I want to feel wanted sexually. Maybe things will change after the baby comes....hopefully :(

Well, thanks for lending an ear ladies...and let me know if any of you can relate. Til next time Baby Dust and Baby Dance for everyone :)

4 Comments on Sex ? What's that ?

supaflychick1982 - Wednesday, 12 Aug
I know exactly how you feel. When we found out I was prego my bf basically tried to stop cold turkey. It was horrible. How can we just stop when we can have sex almost everyday. And he knows that I love the sex with him. I know he really wanted this baby, esp since it's his boy. But I really started to resent him and I know I needed that extra boost cause my body is changing all kinds of ways and I just wanted to feel as if I was still desirable. We recently began working on things and like you said it's not that I really want it (big belly, uncomfortable, positions are very limited) but it does make me feel good that he still tries. It'll get better after, good luck

cdra - Tuesday, 11 Aug
I feel your pain!!! I have had very little sex this pregnancy. But the sad part is that I've had a very healthy pregnany and no reason to stop sex at all :( my bf isn't into pregnant women and doesn't find me attractive anymore. It really sucks. My sex drive has been higher now than ever before and I just can't get any. Not to say this is why ur guy doesn't want to do it. Just venting cause the sex topic really bugs me nowadays and I understand how u feel. Hopefully it will get better after the babies come.

normalee - Tuesday, 11 Aug
It'll get better after you have thebaby. he might just be scared to hurt you and your baby. I wish i could say what is sex. If its up to my hubby it would be everynight and everymorning. but i do have to put my foot down and say i'm tired or something. if it was up to me i'd wait until after she comes, but i know soon enough he wont want to do anything for awhile but that wont be until like week 36 or 37. oh well good luck.

dinahmite425 - Tuesday, 11 Aug
we probably did it 7 times my whole pregnancy i was gettinjg scared becuase it was boring and not how it used to be well amani is 3 months and the sex is wild so dont worry its just the pregnancy... you will both be freaks soon to come

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