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02-7-2009 - bad mom?

My mood while writing this blog: happy

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I dont care if i get any crap for this blog because im writing it for myself and to keep track of things going on in the pregnancy.. But i got sick on monday with sore throat and coughin all that good stuff.. and pretty much had to take this opportunity to quit smoking.. Its the only way I was going to be able to do it. Some people say "oh i quit cold turkey the moment i found out i was preggo" well kuddos to you! I just couldn't do it, I don't know why. I hate mothers on here that say "women who smoke during pregnancy are bad mothers" . How dare anyone judge me and call me a bad mother.. It is an addiction that we can get no outside help with.. only support and positive words... can't go on the patch, can't take the pills... I just think its completely wrong to call someone a bad mom when they are just having a difficult time quitting their addiction. However.. it has been three days and I have had one cigarette.. Its not really official that i quit yet. I'd say after two weeks no smoking then its official, but for now I AM WINNING!! anyone who knows me on here knows i have really been trying to quit, i just find it extremely difficult and I'm not one to quit cold turkey, just impossible for me. Now when i crave one I usually feel the baby move a lot and I just remind myself that I'm doing it for her, im doing it for her lungs, im doing it for her weight, im doing it for a healthy baby.. and it doesnt hurt that its helping me to!! So all the mothers out there who do smoke during pregnancy I know your pain. I know you want to stop but you just cant find the means to.. Seriously if you get sick during pregnancy take advantage of it! Thats the time where you don't want to smoke and it makes it much easier to quit since you already started detoxing it out of your system. Good luck to all... and for those of you who are quick to point fingers Im sure there is something you do, that the next person wouldn't approve of. But that never gives them the right to call you a bad mother.

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5 Comments on bad mom?


aprilmcspadden - Saturday, 26 Sep
Honey Im hear to tell ya... I smoked with ALL 3 of my pregnancies and every single one of my babies were HUGE. LOL. My last baby DID have some siezure and breathing issues and I asked the doc in the hosital if it was from smoking and he said no, My OB actually told me NOT to stop, but to cut back cause by me stoping cold turkey thats adding more stress to the baby than the actual smoking. And I couod give a rats ass who thinks Im a bad a mom for smoking while pregnant. LOL. But in the heyday our mothers drank and did drugs and smoked, and the majority of us came out fine. LOL. No but I do agree with u about how hard it is to quit, and if your not ready to quit then dont.

lovinmyryatt - Thursday, 2 Jul
I know how freakin hard it is to quit, I quit pretty quickly after I found out, but still took a drag here and there, and once you get used to not smoking and not having the taste, hopefully it will get a lot easier cuz you don't want it all the time. And with me, I quit getting little colds all the time cuz of it, so it helps with that too. GOOD LUCK!!!! &and F**K anyone who says you're a bad mom!

happyforest - Thursday, 2 Jul
good job!!

robynder - Thursday, 2 Jul
smoking during pregnancy does NOT make anyone a bad mom. There are much more important things that someone could think of as being a bad parent. I understand your pain. I actually did worse with my first daughter. I actually quit smoking for the first 4 months and then I started again for the end of my pregnancy!! I know what a f 'in idiot. I had a healthy baby at 9 pounds 3 ounces though and she came rigt on her due date. It was way to much for me to not smoke I was really young and super stressed and felt like it was my only relief. So enough about me but I just wanted you to know I don't agree with anyone who calls you a bad parent just becasue you smoke cigerettes. I mean it could be crack now that is much worse.

normalee - Thursday, 2 Jul
I not think your a bad mom. at least you are tring to quit you know.everyone should be happy or pround of you that you are at least tring to quit, because it is really hard for people to to do in reality. good luck .