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| 25-2-2010 - Circumcision or no circumcision? |
My mood while writing this blog: Debating |
Since this is my first baby boy i haven't really read much about circumcisions. Also, we are all mostly girls in my side and his side of the family so we are very unfamiliar with the whole thing. I hear its painful and unnecessary and on the other hand i hear its unsanitary/unhygienic and that its in the bible that it should be done. I don't know i'm just confused. The hubby would rather not but i'm undecided.
So for you mommies of lovely boys whether they are or not, please HELP =]
- How is the whole process like?
- What is that ring thing they talk about?
- How long does it take to heal?
- What does you baby's pediatrician say about it?
Thanks a bunch ladies!
25 Comments on Circumcision or no circumcision?CaraBella -
Friday, 2 Jul I decided to circ my boys mainly for cosmetic reasons. When i was pregnant with my oldest son i went to my ex's sisters house. She had 2 little boys and they were running around naked, they were not circd and i thought it looked soooo ugly. My boys all did great and had no problem healing. My husband is not circd and other than being ugly the only problem he has with it is it kinda smells down there sometimes. But no matter what you decide someone you know will be against it so try not to let anyone make you feel bad. Your baby boy will be ok no matter what. Good thing about the whole pain part is at least he wont remember. tayazmom -
Wednesday, 23 Jun my son is circed. i am an ob nurse who frequently assists with them. they look pretty red and angry but usually heal in about a week. we don't use the plastibell though. newmommyx2 -
Friday, 30 Apr i know this is old but thought i would add! lol my two boys are circ. and their father is NOT! and he said he wanted them to be before i even said it. Iknew i wanted them to be also though. i wasnt in the room but they were in the nicu the whole time i was there so they did it when they were 3 days old and i didnt see them right after.my sons had the plastibell (ring) to me it was kind of gross because it seemed the urine stayed within the ring (its not like u could exactly clean under it) i probably would have prefered they didnt use the plastibell. i think it took almost 2 weeks for it to fall off. I think it looked like it hurt when i changed their diaper but it didnt seem to bother them. *mommy*ashley*of*2*little*ones -
Wednesday, 14 Apr My husband is circumsized when my little man came in to this world we did not get him circumsized, and it is just fine, i cant put my tiny baby down were they strap his arms and legs down and hes crys his eyes out while they cut it off, there are no resons for it we are clean ppl now unlike back in the day ppl had problems cuz they weren't clean so thats why they started doing that to them, not only that there cutting of 2-3inch off them so ppl that are circumcised there pines would be bigger if they wouldnt of go circumsized , ppl say u have to pull the skin back when they are not cercumsized there wong u dont do anything u just wip and that it when they get older they clean it a little better when they know how but just never pull the skin back its a myth. alot of ppl are starting to not circumcise anymore, not only that alot of little boy end up were they cut off to much skin witch happens alot alot and it hurt them when they have a boner cua there not enough skin and alot of time end up looking cricked and wut not, sso if u think about it when they mess up theres no going back!! i think my baby was born perfect just the way he is , lol, i wish u luck hun hope everything works out for you!!
http://www.smh.com.au/national/more-boys-go-under-knife-as-parents-opt-for-kind-cut-20100220-omqn.html
watch this video after i got home i was like should i have got it done, and after this i new i did the right thing!! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XmX6RdRNoqk silvertree -
Tuesday, 2 Mar I have 2 cousins who weren't circumsized at birth, both had complications later and had to be circumsized at 3 years old, and 7 years old....Much much worse for them at that age...so if you have any worry about infections, cleaning...etc... It is completely up to you. Of course the procedure sounds and looks somewhat horrible, but they get over it rather quickly. A friend of mine had it done for her son and said he pretty much slept through the procedure. wowgirl -
Saturday, 27 Feb Go with your gut instinct. I felt strongly for circumcision so we did it, however we had a tough time with the healing process. phatbaby57 -
Saturday, 27 Feb My ds is circumsized b/c my husband wanted it. He thought it would look better. We gave birth at a birth center instead of a hospital, so we took him to an urologist to have it done. They used the cap on his. It stayed on about 10 days before it fell off. The procedure is quick, and the urologist that I went to used tylenol and locals to eliminate as much pain as possible. My son was about six weeks when we had it done, so if you're still unsure at birth you have time. You don't have to have it done in the hospital and to be honest I'm not sure I would. I think you get whoever is on call at the hospital. I chose the urologist I did b/c both my midwife and pedtrician said he was good. I'm not sure I agree with the father and son should look a like. I think it is more important for him to look like his peers, since that is who he will be comparing himself to when he gets old enough to care. Unfortunately (or fortunately) only about 60% of babies are getting circumcised in the US, so either way your son will be in good company. As far as what the AAP says, last year it was consider cosmetic and unnecessary...this year it is good b/c it helps with the prevention of the spread of STDs to their partners. Either way the decision you make will be the right one for you and your son, so good luck. oliversmama -
Friday, 26 Feb Oh, I just wanted to add that I also really like what heidismummy said about it! That's another thing for me. Even though I'm not too religious, I do feel that if God made us a certain way, why mess with it? Especially on a baby. When I was preg, I said nothing is getting cut but the umbilical cord! Unless of course anything was medically necessary. Just do what you feel is right and don't do anything you are unsure of or uncomfortable with. oliversmama -
Friday, 26 Feb I say no circumcision. I'm against it personally. I agree it's painful and totally unnecessary and I think it must be horrible to come into the world and have that done. Now I do understand that some people do it because other boys in their family have it done or some for religious reasons and in no way at all do I judge anyone for it cuz everyone has their opinions, but personally I feel it's wrong. I hate to offend people, so I'm so sorry if I do. As for hygiene purposes, I don't see any reason to cut something off just so it'll be easier to keep clean. I mean we don't remove our finger nails and shave our heads or anything like that...lol. I guess we kinda get use out of our nails for things, but you know what I'm saying... If you're truly undecided it might be better to leave it and opt for it if you really want in the future I guess since there is no going back. Of course it's easier when they are newborn cuz they are small and can't fight back and maybe they forget about the pain when it heals, but it doesn't make it any less traumatic. My sis had her newborn son done a couple weeks ago and said they never heard a baby scream like that. I obviously didn't do it for my son. Good luck in making your decision and congrats on the boy! :-) AllyCat62683 -
Friday, 26 Feb I had my son done the day after he was born and like all the other moms it was about 10-15 minutes and he was totally fine. I think it is more sanitary personally and in my opinion easier on the eyes. Not that appearances are the #1 thing in life but I had a personal experience when I dated a guy who was not circumsized and it was a huge awkward surprise because I was not accustomed to that. agatamay13 -
Friday, 26 Feb My son and DH are both done, we got DS done the day after he was born and he was gone for 15 mins, not even crying. It is a very personal decision, some people are very against it because you are altering your baby's body. IF your DH says he would rather not then I wouldnt. It IS a risk to get it done, sometimes they're done wrong so just be aware and read up on it. heidismummy -
Friday, 26 Feb Firstly i wouldnt believe everything written in the Bible but thats because im a person who naturally questions things, i dont just accept and go along with something. i honestly think God made us this way for a reason, there is nothing wrong with little boys willies, its what us humans have decided is 'wrong' and have therefore taken to cutting off bits and bobs they dont like and for what? the bible and hygiene reasons? to me thats never a good enough reason to operate on a little boys willy. however i can see how parents are scared into thinking its their only option, its never been done in my family or extended family and all the males are clean, healthy and never had any trouble, and i think they personally like the fact that they are all there still!!! im sure they do it to babies because if they did it when boys had their own mind and the right to say 'no' they might come into a bit of trouble with their parents say so! juandrea -
Friday, 26 Feb my husband is not and he is perfectly fine. i did not circumcise my son so he would look like daddy. i think the infections and grossness that people are taking about only happen if the person doesn't clean his penis properly which is disgusting anyway!!!!!!! if you know how to wash properly there is not much difference... MrsStrickland74 -
Friday, 26 Feb I had my son circumcised. He was out of the room about 15 min. When he came back in he wasn't happy at all, but neither would I. He was also ready to eat. After that he was fine. The ring is used only by some doctors. It helps keep the foreskin back. My LO didn't have it so all I had to do is keep it pushed back. Also use a lot of vasaline. It healed in about a week or so. cassiebaker2009 -
Friday, 26 Feb i would get it done i got my son done and i have seen the when they are not done the child can get an infection from not having it done. lisad11784 -
Friday, 26 Feb also, I have no clue about the ring thing, never heard of it! It does heal quick and its not painful after for them at all, I have never been in the room when they do it so I have no clue how they do it, but I know they are perfectly fine after and everything looks great down there (like no mess ups) lisad11784 -
Friday, 26 Feb Well, I have 2 boys and they are both circumsized... they were 1 day after they were born and guess what! They dont remember a thing lol :) When its done, (if you get it done) they do it and my boys came right to my room after and seemed fine, you just put loads of Vasiline on it each diaper change. I hear its a lot more cleaner and stuff with it done! I thought it was for the better, hope you come up with a decision! Insomnia -
Thursday, 25 Feb My husband preferred that he not be circumcised, and I did not argue, because a. I was afraid of any possible complications, and did not want to cause him pain b. because I was a little scared that my son would be angry with me later in life, and it seems that if he ever wants to be circumcised, he can make the decision himself, instead of me making it for him, and c. because I heard that there could be a possible issue later in his life in terms of sensitivity. I will leave it to my husband to teach him how to keep himself clean down there, it can be done :) trinity -
Thursday, 25 Feb my husband is so he wanted my son to be. my son had where they cut it away. i just kept vasiline on the area and and we never had any issues. charlihadley -
Thursday, 25 Feb our son had a circ....they numbed his penis first...the only reason he cried is because they strap him down on a body board...so he wouldn't move druing the procedure...it was quick & fast about 5 min's after the dr. went in to do it....my son was back in my arms....my dr. uses a Mogan Clamp....he heal just fine & never seemed bother by it...to took a week or so to heal up competely ...just kept it clean & lubercated....my mom is a surgical nurse...she says they do circ's on all ages from months old to old men....mostly due to phimosis...which is an infection...discharge, redness, swelling which can be tender to painful....most cause of phimosis is not cleaning properly, retracting the foreskin cleaning well then bringing the foreskin fully forward...also paraphimosis can happen which if you don't pull the foreskin all the way forward...leave it retracted the head of the penis can become restricted & swell up to the point the foreskin can't be pulled back forward....that is an emergency!! .she says some have stenosis....the foreskin isn't properly used & it becomes a small slit & the penis isn't able emerge from it's foreskin....so ooo but i'm sure there is scary stories about newborn circ's too...but none that she can recall at the hospital she works at & she has been a nurse there for 17 years... good luck w/your decision... styx -
Thursday, 25 Feb I am having a boy and it was never questioned his dad is so he will be. From what i have read and my ped said its better as a newborn mommy-ofa-boy -
Thursday, 25 Feb i have one boy and he is 5months now, so i rememaber very well i know every baby is different but mine balled he sceamed it was heart wrenching but i must say the doctor said majority of parents dont stay in the room but we did even though very quick it was pretty grusum (sp?) anyway i somewhat agree with "if the father is he should be" but idk see i was some what against it because noone i knew had been but my husband but i didnt want there to be a question "why am i different" plus another reason why i am glad we did is because my husband (27) has a friend who decided to get it as a man because of insecurities and hygiene, another is because my pediatricians son got urinary tract infection a lot from age 4-7 and then he gave in aand got him circumsized but imagine the pain like yah they feel it at new born but it heels within a week and they dont remember oh and my friend just circ-ed he 5 yr and 1yr old becasue her eldest has diabetes and his pepe would get swollen with every episode so she got them both done and from what i hear (godforbid you would have to get it later) it is much more painful good luck reila -
Thursday, 25 Feb I'm not hundred percent sure, but I think they numb them so they can't feel it?? I would definitely ask the doctor or look it up. But I know my son did great and didn't cry. And the healing process was quick as long as you care for it well. bubblez23 -
Thursday, 25 Feb I hear you do what their father is. So if the father is circumsized I would do it too. But If i ever have a son I will be getting it done. My little brother had it done and the healing process was quick, plus it looks better aesthetically lol. Stay@HomeZOOKeepa -
Thursday, 25 Feb Both of mine are. The process is so quick. They take the baby for about 20-30 min. and they do it while they are awake and it is very quick and hardly any blood. One of my boys didn't even cry. The ring is the cut they make which makes the head of the penis without the extra skin, which makes it easier to keep clean. It heals soo quickly I don't even remember, a week or less? I do know that all you do is keep vaseline or ointment around the cut (which won't even look like a cut after the first day) to keep it from sticking to the diaper. The only reason why we did it was because my husband is and wanted them to be and the majority does it. BUT that isn't really a "good" reason so either way good luck! You finally got a penis, yay!!! :)