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09-3-2009 - Mother May I

My mood while writing this blog:
Pissed

Ladies yes it was the weekend from hell and I was in the devils kitchen this weekend. I have a 2 year old step child. He is a cutie, very smart and can express himself like a 7 year old. The problem is my husband and his x. My step son turned 3 this past week and we had a party etc. We picked him up early and the x asked could my husband drop him off on sunday at 8 pm instead of 6 pm. My husband doesnt tell me anything..... Let me just say my husband is wonderful, wonderful and wonderful. He will take my kids to school and pick them up.....But I always ask him first, you know check his schedule etc. I never just assume he can watch, pick up or drop off without asking him.....Well my husband works on Sunday... my step son has never stayed with me not even a moment....... My husband babies this 3 year old..... He is not potty trained...... He is not potty trained....... He is not potty trained. At the zoo my husband told his son to stay with me until he can get the car; what is that 3 minutes... the little boy whiness and crys for his dad and my husband doesnt make him stay. He picks him up and says come on....

Well I did not think it was fair to leave my step son with me... I felt he should have asked me first.. I had to cancel my business appointment and church.... This child woke up and laid in bed and messed all over himself. It smelled so bad.... He woke up crying for his dad.... Wheres my Dad Where is my Dad Daddie Daddie...

I cleaned two dirty diaper full of #@*%! Gave him a bath and dressed him. I also cooked him breakfast.

The question is When should a 2 now 3 year old be potty trained? How can I tell my husband that he needs to check my schedule before he agrees for me to watching my step son? And also if I try to potty train him will it work if I only have him the 1st 3rd and 5th weekend of each month. Will they let him grow up?

No one is trying to help this child drink from a cup, share his toys, dress himself ( button a shirt and put on pants), or when he has to poop and is squatting in a corner no one is putting this child on the potty..... Our child is due in 4 months and does my husband think it will just work out.... Or will his son be jealous of his little sister..... RESCUE ME!!!!

Just a Note I have 5 kids all recieved potty chairs at 6 months and potty trained at 1 year completly trained..... they could dress themselves at 2 and tie their shoes at 3 to 4...... and my 5year old is autistic.

4 Comments on Mother May I

bellas-mum - Saturday, 14 Mar
And also if I try to potty train him will it work if I only have him the 1st 3rd and 5th weekend of each month. Will they let him grow up?.....................Our daughter had 3 different homes,her mum,her nans where her father lived n our house where her father would comes 5 days out of the fortnight,B was 18mths when i started potty training n off the bottle,but when she left her mum n then her nan would put her straight in to a nappy(mum it was to much of a hassle to potty train n the nan said i was started to young n she needed to stay a baby)but every time B came she would go to the potty,sleep in her big bed n drink from a cup during the day n a bottle at night.
B lives with us fulltime n i never ever call her my step child she is my daughter even thou only sometimes she calls me mu.from day one i treated her like my one n still do,we have 5 children between us n we both treat the children like they are all ours.we have 5 children n # 6 on the way,our close friends know that we have his,mine n ours but everyone else its just our children

BlackRussian - Monday, 9 Mar
One of these days we need to all have a rant about our men's X's.. I have some absolute HORROR stories that will drop a few jaws.

All you can do is just try to do best for that child while its with you, forget what mama is talkin bout, when the little boy is with you, train him as you see appropriate, since no one else is!

dinahmite425 - Monday, 9 Mar
well you are married so you must treat this child as your own. so with that being said, what you expect your bialogical child to do is the same of what you should expect of your stepson so if you started potty training your kids at 1 1/2 years then when he comes over you make ever effort to potty train your step son, you dont worry about what his mom does with him all you can do is do your very best when he is at your house , so start potty training him the second he comes over to the second he leaves and keep it up, if he wines for his dad it's becuase he is not used to you and if your married now he has to get used to u and feel comfortable with you so i say try to keep him more often, i say when the dad says its ok come with me you insist the boy stays with you and learn to be without his dad, teach him that you are new to his life but your here to love him... if you think of your stepson as a chore you will never get his respect and you two will never have a bond,... and he will get worse as he is older...

i have a 7 year old step-son his mom is crazy... she does no dicipline she blames anyone and everyone for his bad behavior... i give her respect as his mom, but that does not mean when he is at my house waht ever his mom teaches him goes... hell no...

so when he comes to my house he reads books, something he doesnt do at his moms, and he let me know and me and my husband that " I dont read books"! me and my husband explained to him that at our house you read, you do chores etc etc and he does!!!!! his mom dresses him in very baggy clothes which i woulod never put my own children in so at my house he doest wear those clothes... i dont call up him mom and argue i just put his clothes in his bag and put clothes that i feel are decient on him!! hes at my house and im also responsible for raising him uo to be a decient young man... i go to his school and sit in in class because he does have a behavioral problem... as stepmoms we have to step up and not just let our husbands raise the kid we have to also...

You have to have the support of your husband though, he needs tro support you and teach his son to respect you more!! and you shouldnt have to ask your husband to do the natural things like potty training your stepson because you wouldnt ask him if its ok to potty train your other kids, just do what you would do naturally as a mom...

my stepsons mom would down grade his bad behaviour so at school if he gets kicked out of class his mom did not teach him that he was bad, so when he comes to my house he's on punishment or gets talked to about what is making him do these things and he would say my mom says it is okay and there are times when you dont tell the kid there mom is wrong but there are times you do!!! and that situation i would say nothing about his mom but i would say that what you did is not acceptable etc and me and your dad will not tolerate it and that's that ...

spaking is different I dont feel comfortable to spank him only if he did some really extreme, but small stuff i just tell him to go to his room or take things away, i probably spanked him 2 times in 4 years!! my husband does that type of stuff

I really try as his stepmom even when i dont want to, i dont want my daughter to feel like her sftepdad loves my stepson more and i dont what my stepson to think the same... even when we go out the kids tend to hold on to there biolagical parent so my daughter wants to sit by me or hold my hand and my stepson wants to sit with his dad or hold his hand and sometimes we make them switch and they get upset but they need to know we are a family and not this is my daddy and this is my mommy and they learned to love each other and us... but both kids still migrate to there real parent more its natural!!!
let me know if you got anything from my words

sorry for witing so much, i always do!!

chocolate mami - Monday, 9 Mar
You def should have a sitdown with your husband and talk to him about that...My older sister and I kinda gained up on my bro in law...bc he saw his son as a baby still and is about to be 3...bad thing was when i noticed...this lil boy said..."aww man...I shit"....now if he can say all that...your butt need to be on a pot....so now he's working on it...just have a talk with him and he should do the same with the X..

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