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12-5-2009 - Whos In Charge

My mood while writing this blog: Concerned but Happy

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Ladies as you all know I am having my 6th c-section.... Which I could do by myself with my eyes closed..... I just know my body and I know how I behave in a hospital..... I question and research all information before going forward blindly..... After all this is my 6th c- section..... For example I will only let a nurse try to put in an I V only once... If she misses then I refuse to allow her a second chance.... this is because I have only one arm that do not roll..... any who... This is my husbands fourth child he has only attend two births both were "normal" births were his x went home the same day or the next day..... He Has No Clue!!!! So here is the question..... Should I tell him everything to expect???? Get him some information..... Or let him be surprised.... He has never seen me in pain and I just dont want a blow up at the hospital

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3 Comments on Whos In Charge


mbispham - Tuesday, 12 May
LOL. I keep putting baby story on the tv...its always on I think I have finally desensitized him about c-sections! It will be his first one. I know what you mean about...getting the kids up and out and then sleeping until 10 I do that do without fail. I don't really want to have my tube tied again...but the dr. is urging me strongly. I am with you on the IV thing...they may only put a catheter in if it is done after the epidural. I am not going thru with the discomfort before hand. :)

imdondee - Tuesday, 12 May
I think you should forewarn him. This is another day in park for you, but for him a surprise party. Men arepreotective and you dont want him to become irate & crazy then miss out. Prepare him

hayley-france - Tuesday, 12 May
Ask him if he wants to go in with knowledge or if he'd rather not know what was happening till the day.

I think I must be like you, I want to be as prepared as possible for every eventuality and I like to know exactly what's going on. I'vebeen reading up on pregnancy and birth, talking to everybody I know and asking as many questions as I can whenever I'm at the midwife or Drs...(I feel as though I could pass a midwiffery exam with all the "studying" I've been doing!)

Yesterday I breeched the subject with my husband and asked him if he wanted me to get him some information to read or if he wanted me to tell him more about what is going to happen on "the big day." He suffers from anxiety and told me he'd rather not know a thing 'till he's there because if he knows what will happen/could go wrong in advance he will be paniking on the day...he thinks that if he "goes in blind" he will be able to cope with any suprises the labour and birth hrow at us and wont feel as anxious as if he knows...

Hmmm..I'm waffling now, sorry...what I'm trying to dsay is different people feel differently about it I suppse...just talk to your haby and ask him if he wants to be educated before the big day!

Good luck! :) x