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18-1-2010 - oppinions on parents holidays

My mood while writing this blog: hungry and ill

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hi girlies!!!!

im just really wanting oppinions here as im getting VERY close to snapping at a friend of mine. i met up with her yesterday and she was saying how she wants to go on holiday this year which is fair enough. im a tad irritated that she can afford a holiday coz she doesnt work and the council and government pay for ehr and her son to have a decent standard of life but never mind that (always in designer clothes got a nice house shich she doesnt have to pay for coz shes a single mum etc)

ANYWAY

she was saying that shes already booked 2 holidays and wants to book a 3rd as she "wants a proper holiday with decent company" and when i asked what she ment she said "well a trp without the baby, every adult needs time alone!"

now i was jsut wondering ladies.... do any of you think this is normal? id HATE a holiday without amy at the moment, shes a huge part of my life and i couldnt go a week or a fortnight without her, it would really upset me, if i wated to go toa "decent place" (in this case we were discussing egypt) id wait till amy was old enough to enjoy it and take her with me and her dad, when shes 16 now thats a different story lol i wont be forcing her on holiday with me then but when they are 2 (her son will be 3 by their holiday) would you go away and leave your children at home with a minder?

the only time id consider it would be if i was to go on honey moon but andy and i have already talked about that and decided if we do get married the honeymoon will be a family holiday coz its not fair on the children

am i snob thinking this lol xxxx

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11 Comments on oppinions on parents holidays


ElliottnDeclans-mummy - Thursday, 21 Jan
I think the only holiday I would be willing to have without Elliott would only be like a weekend away. I would feel bad not seeing him for more than a couple of days.

EloiseAndHarrys-Mummy! - Monday, 18 Jan
i agree it takes the piss and they wonder why some people get pregnant just to get money. Ill admit we couldnt live without the ones we get but we both work so its only a small amount a week but it makes that little bit of difference but 3 holidays a year sheesh, maybe i should kick paul out lol. We cant even afford one, in this country. As for gonig away,, i agree every parent needs some time off but they dont need to go away for a few weeks abroad. a weekend maybe. My parents went on holiday by themselves once a year from when we were about 8/9 which is fine for us and im sure besides our honeymoon we wont be going without the children, but im not sure that it makes her a bad parent. Its a personal choice as long as shes not just dumping the poor child on someone. We would have granparents etc and as long as shes paying them for food etc i think its probably okay but not my personal choice.

bethk - Monday, 18 Jan
i do agree everyone needs some time to themselves. So i dnt think shes a bad parent at all. Maybe ur lookin into it a bittoo much hun! But the fact shes wantin 3 holidays pisses me off wen shes a doll bum! My taxes r payin for her arggggg! X

mommy-to-Noah-and-Runa - Monday, 18 Jan
I couldn't possibly go without my son. My husband on the other hand.....

**MOLAR**SURVIVOR!! - Monday, 18 Jan
Glad to hear your tax dollars are going to something useful!! yeah right! If we cant bring our kids with us on a holiday then we dont go. I am not one for holidays though anyways, maybe cause I havent been on many and therefore dont know what I am missing. I think every parent needs their time alone but when your living off Government assistance to raise a child, a holiday is not of priority! I scrapbook every evening when the kids are asleep, that time alone is good enough for me. My BIL ans SIL have 2 kids aged 3 and 4 that they are forever dumping at each of their parents house for every reason you can think of just so they dont have to watch their own kids. She works full time and he has no job and yet they pay for daycare every day while he goes out with his Daddy because he could not care less to watch his own kids. They even drop the kids off at Nan and Pops house so they can go to the grocery store to buy a bucket of icecream like we seen them one day doing. I disagree with them completely and think they are not fit parents to put it nicely!!

lgk616 - Monday, 18 Jan
To each their own but I can't believe she has already booked 2 holidays and wants to book another - courtesy of the Government! Unreal - she should thank the tax payers for her travels! Anyway - I am a mum who wants her child with her everywhere we go. My IL's are all I have here but I am not keen on leaving her with them as I'm afraid I'll have a spoiled girl on my hands very soon. I've seen it happen with the 2 nieces - they get everything they want because the grandparent's just can't say no. No manners either. But....to each their own as I said! I think she should be ashamed of herself however for even booking ONE holiday while collecting money from the Government! She sounds like she needs to grow up and become a responsible adult and parent. xox

baby-bump-number-two - Monday, 18 Jan
3 holidays lol!!!!!!how the bloody hell is she affording that loli want in on her secret lol!i couldnt leave addison 4 two weeks id miss her two much,id feel mean if i left her with someone else whilst i was having fun and lapping up the sun!ur not a snob hun,like u say nites out to cinema etc are good cuz every mom and dad need a bit of 'me time' but i think 2 weeks is OTT! i enjoy every minute of my girls company i wouldnt even consider leaving her behind.

IZZIEBO - Monday, 18 Jan
thats ment to say she "doesnt want to...."

IZZIEBO - Monday, 18 Jan
oooh im not saying a random night or working is a bad thing, its just her tone and thinking it ws completely normal to want to be away from her son for 2 weeks think it mainly annoyed me coz she refuses to work coz she and i quote "soesnt want to miss him growing up"where the logic is is beyond me loli leave amy with my mum if andy n i are going for a meal or to the cinema aand sometimes my mum just wants to see her lol xxx

kaysfamily - Monday, 18 Jan
When Eddie and i went to Eygpt we took Eric with us he was 9 months then! When i went to Greece to see my granfather(rip) Eric came with me. from my exprince and seeing other families in Egypt on holidays their children were all 4 and up. Caz they understand more and can do more. We went that Early caz Eddie's parents live there and they need to see Eric. If i have to work early in the morning i'd sleep over at my moms so she can watch Eric for me for the day and then we'd go home after that. I don't think theres nothing wrong with leaving our little one with my parents. I don't dump him there ! so i;m not one of those girls. Eddie and i do wanna go away but we're just gonna wait and see. All pepople are different. i hate when people abouse the stuff they have.

rubydarcey - Monday, 18 Jan
no you're not a snob. Dont worry i get all this crap with my so called friends. They are quick to have the babies but dump them on their parents or a child minder continuously so they can party all weekend and have adult time alone. Ruby has never been apart from me and mark, its far more fun to include her in what we are doing like you and Andyroo do with Amyroo.I would love to know why some people actually have children in the first place xxx