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What is it with guys having to be so thoughtless.
7 Comments on guys....
*Baby-Mine* - Wednesday, 14 Jan
hey honey, came across your page and had to stop and say how adorable you are! you are simply gorgeous!
i read this blog and want to tell you, you are not alone! you're always gonna get crap from friends about not being "the same" anymore or getting mad bc you dont wanna go out, or whatever the case is, simply bc they just dont understand. You two have something that they dont, and until they're married and have a baby coming, they wont get it, they may NEVER get it. my SIL just had a baby 2 months before me and when we went to visit she was all over my Husband to go out to clubs and go drink, bc she was perfectly content leaving her baby with someone else and didnt understand that he's different and would rather be with us. I wanted to go dancing SOOO badly, but didnt bc i couldnt bring myself to leave the baby (i'm breastfeeding and she's never been away from both of us at the same time before) but surprisingly i was ok with it. Small sacrifice compared to making sure she's well taken care of...there'll be other nights to go out. no loss.
i know this is months too late! but just so you know, you're not alone! the best thing to do is grit your teeth and ignore their immature comments, or slowly distance yourself from them, and stay around positive people.
i'm here anytime you want to talk, believe me i'm there with you!
jen - Wednesday, 12 Nov
Okay, so I just read this blog and believe me, your guys friends aren't the only ones out there that act like this. Hell, you lucky you got this far without them trying to come in between you two! My issues with my hubby's friends started when we were just dating! We were getting serious and his buddies were all worried that he wasn't going to be around as much anymore....which I didn't understand because I was always partying with them too! People do have to grow up and some point, but usually single bachelors never figure this out. While most of his friends have settled down a bit, he still has one guy that will call at 2 in the morning wanting to know if my hubby wants to meet him at a titty bar. I could just strangle that guy!
Breeze Flowers - Monday, 10 Nov
well first o you are right, this is not theend o the un it IS onlyu the beginning of amazing times that are soon to begin. And secondly there is nothing wrong with wanting to stay in and be together and watch movies or cuddle or hange out with each other, that is exactly the reason you were married because you are best friends and lovers. SOme people are just so jealous and they are also clueless as to what true love and what the real meaning in life means. That is why they say such absurd comments. THey have never had what you two have nor waht you are about to have. Their version of life is much more shallow and that is sad for them. YOu two have just entered the start of great and amazing things to come. COngrats to you both. *smiles* It is just so amazing. I am really happy for you and that you have someone great there sharing it with you too. *hugs*
preggiewright - Friday, 7 Nov
they are young and immature. they think that partying and girls are all there is to life...and the thought of someone their age being settled and happy about it is beyond them. the best thing he can do is find some friends that are young and married too...preg and/or kids is a bonus! kandy im sorry they are making you sad...and if you want we can take our pregnant selves and beat them up :) they only wish they could find girls as sexy and fun as us to settle down with...they are just jealous! call me!
Boobah815 - Friday, 7 Nov
Hey please don't let them get you riled up... that is the mentality of boys... like you said.. they don't have kids and they aren't married so really they don't know anything about the subject. My boyfriend would rather hang at home with his child then go out and get fucked up at a party. Some men just have different priorities. Life doesn't end once you have a child.. if anything that's when it really gets interesting. As long as your husband isn't complaining let their immature comments roll off your back.
mommyjojopethel - Thursday, 6 Nov
aw sweets, don't let them bother you, they are still silly little boys, and arent men yet. They arent mature enough to understand how wonderful it is to be a parent.
liz82 - Thursday, 6 Nov
maybe they are just jelous that he isnt hanging out with them much and spending most of his time with you . but i dont belive that everything will be over once you have your baby things will change but not end
| 06-11-2008 - guys.... |  My mood while writing this blog:disapointed |
What is it with guys having to be so thoughtless.
My husbands friends have really upset me. All they keep doing is telling him how his life is gonna end when we have this baby and that he needs to get out more and party cause he's not gonna have a chance too later on.
This really hurts my feelings,ive never stopped him from going out,in fact i encourage it, but for some reason they seem to thing i have him on a leash and never let him out.
What is this all about?
Do all guys think like this cause ive had this problem with some other friends of his before.
We like spending time together, thats why we got married and i assume most married couples are like us, we'd much rather stay in and watch a movie together then get fucked up at a house party....is that so weird?
And i personally dont think having a baby is gonna be the end of all fun for us, i think its just the beginning.
How someone who has never been married or had kids can possibly give us this unasked for advice is beyond me.
I know i shouldnt take it so personally but im emotional and scared right now and would expect our friends to be supportive, we dont have a lot out here so when things like this happen it really upsets me.
rant over
xox
7 Comments on guys....
*Baby-Mine* - Wednesday, 14 Jan
hey honey, came across your page and had to stop and say how adorable you are! you are simply gorgeous!
i read this blog and want to tell you, you are not alone! you're always gonna get crap from friends about not being "the same" anymore or getting mad bc you dont wanna go out, or whatever the case is, simply bc they just dont understand. You two have something that they dont, and until they're married and have a baby coming, they wont get it, they may NEVER get it. my SIL just had a baby 2 months before me and when we went to visit she was all over my Husband to go out to clubs and go drink, bc she was perfectly content leaving her baby with someone else and didnt understand that he's different and would rather be with us. I wanted to go dancing SOOO badly, but didnt bc i couldnt bring myself to leave the baby (i'm breastfeeding and she's never been away from both of us at the same time before) but surprisingly i was ok with it. Small sacrifice compared to making sure she's well taken care of...there'll be other nights to go out. no loss.
i know this is months too late! but just so you know, you're not alone! the best thing to do is grit your teeth and ignore their immature comments, or slowly distance yourself from them, and stay around positive people.
i'm here anytime you want to talk, believe me i'm there with you!
jen - Wednesday, 12 Nov
Okay, so I just read this blog and believe me, your guys friends aren't the only ones out there that act like this. Hell, you lucky you got this far without them trying to come in between you two! My issues with my hubby's friends started when we were just dating! We were getting serious and his buddies were all worried that he wasn't going to be around as much anymore....which I didn't understand because I was always partying with them too! People do have to grow up and some point, but usually single bachelors never figure this out. While most of his friends have settled down a bit, he still has one guy that will call at 2 in the morning wanting to know if my hubby wants to meet him at a titty bar. I could just strangle that guy!
Breeze Flowers - Monday, 10 Nov
well first o you are right, this is not theend o the un it IS onlyu the beginning of amazing times that are soon to begin. And secondly there is nothing wrong with wanting to stay in and be together and watch movies or cuddle or hange out with each other, that is exactly the reason you were married because you are best friends and lovers. SOme people are just so jealous and they are also clueless as to what true love and what the real meaning in life means. That is why they say such absurd comments. THey have never had what you two have nor waht you are about to have. Their version of life is much more shallow and that is sad for them. YOu two have just entered the start of great and amazing things to come. COngrats to you both. *smiles* It is just so amazing. I am really happy for you and that you have someone great there sharing it with you too. *hugs*
preggiewright - Friday, 7 Nov
they are young and immature. they think that partying and girls are all there is to life...and the thought of someone their age being settled and happy about it is beyond them. the best thing he can do is find some friends that are young and married too...preg and/or kids is a bonus! kandy im sorry they are making you sad...and if you want we can take our pregnant selves and beat them up :) they only wish they could find girls as sexy and fun as us to settle down with...they are just jealous! call me!
Boobah815 - Friday, 7 Nov
Hey please don't let them get you riled up... that is the mentality of boys... like you said.. they don't have kids and they aren't married so really they don't know anything about the subject. My boyfriend would rather hang at home with his child then go out and get fucked up at a party. Some men just have different priorities. Life doesn't end once you have a child.. if anything that's when it really gets interesting. As long as your husband isn't complaining let their immature comments roll off your back.
mommyjojopethel - Thursday, 6 Nov
aw sweets, don't let them bother you, they are still silly little boys, and arent men yet. They arent mature enough to understand how wonderful it is to be a parent.
liz82 - Thursday, 6 Nov
maybe they are just jelous that he isnt hanging out with them much and spending most of his time with you . but i dont belive that everything will be over once you have your baby things will change but not end
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