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| 20-3-2010 - In need of some help and advice |  My mood while writing this blog:Down |
Hi everyone,
Am feeling so down and fed up! I've never felt like i've needed your help and advice so much as i do now.
The first month went by in a breeze- Aimee was feeding every 4 hours and most of the time i would have to wake her for feeds. She would sleep mostly between feeds and could be put down as soon as her wind was up, and at night i would feed her at say 9pm and then give her a top up after 2 hours and she would be settled and asleep usually by midnight. Then she would sleep through until around 6 or 7 am sometimes 8am! We felt blessed and everything seemed to just slot in to place.
Then this week it all changed. Aimee has had a cold - i think? She has a stuffy nose and sneezes quite alot and she had a temperature for one day too. I was advised to give her some warm suger water (cooled boiled water with a tiny bit of sugar dissolved in it) to quench her thirst as being poorly she would need more fluids and plus breast milk isnt always a refreshing drink for her. Plus her mouth was dry and hot quite alot so seemed to make sense. She will take say an ounce once in a while but isn't really that keen on it, but does help keep her mouth moist. I am giving her the fluid in a tommee tippee closer to nature bottle to avoid nipple confusion. So in some ways this is good because i know now she will take the bottle. I expressed 2ozs of breast milk today and she drank it straight down inbetween her feeds without even needing to warm it up. It was just room temperature. I am introducing the bottle because she will be staying overnight with my parents so will need some milk and it also helps when we take her out because as im about to explain she is getting to be quite unpredictable.
Instead of going a full 4 hours between feeds she sometimes crys for a feed after 3 and sometimes just 2 hours! There is no pattern to it she just chooses sometimes to go 2,3 or 4 hours and i never know which its going to be. She has also been really clingy and wants comforting and cradeling alot, and sometimes even this doesnt comfort her she just crys crys and crys. Sometimes im at a loss as to what to do. I try everything and she is just miserable. She is also getting really difficult to settle after feeds. She doesnt want to sleep but also doesnt really have any interest in anything - she is only 5 weeks old after all. Shes happy to watch a little tv or listen to music but wont sit in any of her musical or vibrating chairs for long. At night as well when she wakes for a feed she is impossible to settle sometimes and you can be awake 2 hours trying to get her to go to sleep in the middle of the night.
Ah i'm getting really worn down and i just feel like im failing at everything. Is this all because she has a cold, or am i not providing enough milk anymore (she did put on 13ozs in the last 2 weeks on just breast milk?) or do you think something else is to blame? I just dont know what to do anymore? This week has been the slowest and hardest since she was born.
Im sorry if this seems really pathetic but i just dont know what to do?!
Advice and thoughts would be much appreciated
Kate x x x
9 Comments on In need of some help and advice
NinaBo-Bina - Tuesday, 23 Mar
Kate, My Jack is unpredictable too. He never sits content in a vibrating chair or his swing, always needs to be held and screams in between feedings. This has to be common. I know he's a little gassy too so I just pull as much patience I can. As you know, the breastfeeding isn't going the greatest. Wish I never introduced the bottle, but I really felt he wasn't getting enough milk from me. I am now on that Fenugeek and I think it's working. He feeds longer from me but I still need to top him off with a bottle. I try not to let any of this bring me down but I know it's hard. At least you can pump ounces, me no way! lol So think of the story about the guy with no shoes feeling bad fro himself until he crosses the guy with no feet. ;)
Jakes-mummy - Sunday, 21 Mar
jake has been this way since birth, it sounds like those inconsolable hours could be colic. jake has this and its so draining and it generally starts early evenings. theres nothing that can be done its just something they grow out of and will end by 3 months. my health visitor said that feeding like that is normal and is healthy. just wish it wasnt so damn tiring!!! xx
LiamsMummy(no2onboard) - Sunday, 21 Mar
Hey, liam is exactly the same, but he has been like it since he was born, hes 6 1/2 weeks now and last nite, he had me up every 2 hrs, whereas the night b4 he went 5 hrs without a feed between 8pm- 1am then every 3 hrs, there is absolutley no way i could get him in any type of routine...lol... i thought that b-cuz i was breastfeeding that was why he is so sparatic all the time and wakes 3-4 times a nite, but my friend whos baby is a day younger than mines baby sometimes sleeps 7-8 hrs a night, it all depends, all babys are different it appears, your not on your own and you seem to be doing great, things will get easier, well thats what im hoping 4 anyway, i know its tough belive me, but were women we can cope...lol... good luck xxxx
dreemajic28 - Saturday, 20 Mar
I totally agree with all the ladies- this is all completely normal! I also felt like I was failing when Sydney did this- out of the blue- went from a content newborn to a baby who cried and cried and cried! My partner and I were at a loss- but we tag teamed her and gave each other a MUCH needed break! The hardest part was not taking out our frustration on each other- we were both doing our best. This will pass- just hang in there!!
sianlouise - Saturday, 20 Mar
Hi, if you are feeling stressed and tired dont put too much pressure on yourself to breastfeed on demand...if you are happy and more rested then you will find coping with your baby girl much easier. I would try the formula at night, you can express your breast milk to stop you from drying up. You are doing so well to have breast fed this long, with my first I did it for 2 weeks and I couldnt cope any more, my son was constantly hungry and he wouldnt settle then my midwife actually suggested topping him using formula....so I introduced it at night at first and began expressing so he could take my breastmilk off my mum and his dad then eventually I stopped breast feeding altogether. Good luck.
emauk - Saturday, 20 Mar
all that you have just said is absolutly normal..she is just a typical newborn hun..your doing everything right...remember I told you that this would happen with the feeds too..she is probably going through a growth spurt..so don't be suprised if she goes for only 30 mins then wants another feed..that's why you can't breastfeed by the clock..(only bottle fed will do it by the clock...breastfed babies feed on demand..that is how they bring your milk in..if you feed her a bottle of formula then your milk will start to dry up...so try to not feed her any formula).....also around the 4-5 week period..some babies get colic...and you have to remember that newborns brains haven't fully connected together...there are still new pathways being created in your babys brain..and sometimes when a new pathway is being created..they will go through a real fussy patch..(Marks auntie is a health visitor and she gave me this sheet of the typical newborn fussy patches..i will try to find it and i'll pop a picture of it up..)..but trust me it is normal..and it does get better..just lots of love and attention at the minute...try infacol before you feed her...burp her really really well before putting her down anywhere..and feed her on demand...that's about all you can do...oh..and when she is napping..you take a nap too..try to eat as well as you can..drink plenty of fluid..and take all the help that people offer you...that is the only way to survive..haha...take care hun....just think..if I can do it with a 2 1/2 yr old tantruming monkey a 19 week old clingy baby a boisterouse puppy and a very hyper kitten..then you can deffinatly get through this..☺..speak soon..Xxx
mummychell - Saturday, 20 Mar
sorry to hear things are hard at the moment i remember the feeling so well too with my daughter to start with she was so good the around 5 weeks she was like a different baby, she fed more frequently and suffered colic really badly as she constantly had trapped wind we tired dentinox wow it worked a treat she was able to feed and her wind came up so much easlily, im sure it wont be like this forever, im gonna have this all again in 8 weeks when my baby comes along with a very active toddler im sure i will find out how hard things will be again lol but like i said not forever try to rest as much as you possible can xx
steph mom of 3 beauties x - Saturday, 20 Mar
Hey sweetheart! First of all, You have been and are doing really well! You have took to this like a duck to water and i am so very proud of you especially when you have kept with the breastfeeding too, that in itself can be very tiring and very restrictive which in itself can get you down, Im so sorry that you have been feeling really worn down our little one's certainly do make us feel like this from time to time and when your not getting a full nights sleep its bound to make you feel more and more tired and anxious and everything becomes harder, I really would suggest trying to add formula as well as breastfeeding i know you may not want to but i have come across this on this site and on a couple of occasions with my friend and family and the problem is that breastmilk although its the best it is not a filling as formula and doesn't settle them as good, I know a lady who was struggling so bad that she wasn't getting no rest with her son he was feeding every 2 hours day and night and she was in tears absolutely shattered and wasn't coping, She topped him up with formula then fazed out breastmilk altogether after a week and straight away he slept more and was genuinely a happier baby! I mean it's just a thought you see breastmilk is quite watery and they do have growth spurts around this sort of age and where your milk was enough she may want that bit more, I'd keep up the breastfeeding but give her one or 2 of her feeds formula and see how you get on, it's worth a shot it won't hurt her at all! I just put Danyal straight on formula from the breast and he slept through the night every night then from 4 weeks old!!! Also if she is poorly it may be making her grumpy and more unsettled but after a week the most but i'd say at least a few days realistically she should of been back to her old ways, Im certain the formula will work but its up to you, I had a bad night with Dan the other night and like you i am blessed with a fab baby and you know what hun i felt so in despair i wasn't used to it everything i tried it failed to the point i thought what the hell can i do to make him stop screaming, Me and Mo don't argue really at all but we was frantic and i told him to fetch the calpol and he couldn't find it being half asleep and i was balling at him to hurry up, I tell you what it worse at night when you've only had an hour and you feel wrecked, I hope you can get her back to being a superstar cause i know she is! You'll do it hun! Sometimes i feel in despair when he's hard to settle but i know its hardly ever and sometimes no matter what you do it won't help, All the best hope she's all better soon x x
tracy108 - Saturday, 20 Mar
Hi, Sorry to hear things are a little difficult for you at the moment. My lo was exactly the same, she was an angel to start with then by 6 weeks she turned! lol They say they have a growth spurt at 6 weeks which could be why she is feeding more often then usual. I did find every few weeks we would feed a lot more than normal and some days I felt like I did not more off the sofa for feeding or not wanting to put her down in case of waking her up. This carried on till she was about 4 months by which time she was waking every hour for feeding and I was shattered having to bring up 3 kids and do the school run on my own, only when I was advised to introduce baby rice did it calm down! All I can say is be patient it really does not last forever (although it seems like it is never ending!) but if she will take a bottle then maybe you could give her formula as her last feed just to keep her full for longer and hopefully give you some sleep. Sorry if I have made it sound like things will not improve for a few months but just try to rest and enjoy each other, the time passes so quickly. One other thought is if she is stuffy nosed then you could try getting a humidifier to put in her room at night as I find this has always helpped mine breath and sleep better. Good luck and hope you getting it sorted. xxx
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