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26-8-2009 - Melt Down Coming On...

My mood while writing this blog: stressed/annoyed

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So...I feel like I have a huge melt down coming on and probably going to swing into full effect this week! I am a "planner" and like to have everything figured out way in advance so I don't stress in the long run. Well I have spent a lot of time and paper trying to figure out what we are going to do after the baby is born regarding jobs and day care. I stayed home with my daughter until she was 6 months old and I can't imagine having to leave this one after 6 weeks of UN-PAID maternity leave. Then I think about the cost of having 2 children in day care....yuck! Then I had this brilliant plan...I would work MWF 9-4 and only put the kids in day care part time and come back from maternity leave after 8-10wks. My company thought that was a good idea and were totally supportive on this (but not for the better of me...so not a family vaules kind of company). So I call day care and find out the part time rates. To my surprise, it is only a $23 difference a week from full time!!! UNBELIEVABLE!! So that threw the whole part time idea out the window. So now I have no idea what I am going to do. I really don't want to commute 105 miles round trip 5 days a week and miss out on that time with my kids, but living off one income is not my ideal situation either. Neither of them really work out in our benefit. Any suggestions??

Second thing - my husband is driving me nuts! I almost lost it last night! We work the same exact hours, but when we get home...I do EVERYTHING. I clean, cook, baths, laundry, etc. Well he told me last night that he just needed to "relax." Are you kidding me??!!! Relax?? You can't hang up your clothes b/c you need to relax!!? I am pregnant, leave the house at 6:30, don't get home until 6:15, cook, dishes, feed the dogs, bathe our daughter, read her a book, pat her back, and put her to bed! Am I out of my mind? Does he have life so hard? He works, eats, watches sports. On occasion he will help out, but usually after I have completely lost it and go into break down mode. Why does it take that kind of behavior before they get it? Am I being too hormonal? I don't mind doing all those things when he takes my feelings into consideration or offers to help to let me rest for a few minutes, but when he acts like that...I want to pull my hair out!

So I thought....maybe we need just a weekend away together before the baby is born so we have some us time. So I mention taking a weekend trip to the Hill Country. He told me he would rather build a deck b/c it will be more useful in the long run. Wow...nice blow to the heart.

Okay, promise I am done venting now. :) thanks for listening!!

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8 Comments on Melt Down Coming On...


angelicb1437 - Thursday, 27 Aug
I was actually going to make the same suggestion as sandistar and tell you to look into in home daycare rates in your area then see if you can't offer the same or slightly less. I figured out when I got laid off from my job last year that calculating in what I WASN'T spending in daycare, commuting, and eating out all the time I only needed to take 3 daycare kids a week to make up for my prior income. Add a 4th and I was actually doing better. We found a cheap used mini-van that was still in good shape to drive during daycare hours (tax writeoff!) and enrolled my daughter in a preschool close to home so she still got the social interactions of kids her age and got the experience with leaving the house.

pregowithnum3 - Wednesday, 26 Aug
Everything will work out... just stay postive... Its hard to get these men to understand what we have to go through. I wish you the best..Keep your head up!!!!!! Stay strong for you and the lil baby and your daughter.

andbabymakes6 - Wednesday, 26 Aug
Regarding daycare, can you find someone who does in home daycare and see if that would be cheaper? Usually if you ask around, you can find a good reliable sitter and save some money by going that route. Just use your judgement, you don't want someone watching your kids that already has 8 other kids to look after! There are good honest loving people out there that babysit for a living... you just have to find them!

rockdoggy - Wednesday, 26 Aug
I COMPLETELY understand! No, you're not just being hormonal. But the hormones and exhaustion don't help these days on top of everything else you have going on. I am in the same boat as you and hoping to go back to work 3 days a week after the baby is born. Doing the same type of financial calculations. I would love nothing better than to live off one income so I could stay home with the babes, but I don't think that's an option right now. I tried giving my hubby a book to help him understand everything a woman goes through physically and emotionally while preggo and he didn't like me trying to impose someone else's thoughts on him. Sometimes he thinks my aches/pains and complaints are just because I have read about it somewhere.... that drives me up the wall! I would love to see how they handle being in our shoes... just for one day! :) Hope things get better for you soon!

hopefully3 - Wednesday, 26 Aug
OMG you sound so much like me!! LOL These are the things I think about everyday! But the things is I have a meltdown about once everyday!!! LOL! Good luck hun i hope it gets better for you!

larryslady - Wednesday, 26 Aug
Girl I feel you!!! I was just like that.. Hubby waited until I bugged out to life a hand. So for now on I just bugg out all the time..LOL!

sandistar03 - Wednesday, 26 Aug
ok on the job and daycare issue maybe u can do home daycare at ur home that way u are home with ur kiddos and u can bring money in as well daycare is expensive and maybe if u can do it for cheaper then others then u will have a good turn out just and idea i wish u the best

chrissi10990 - Wednesday, 26 Aug
I swear it was like you were describing MY life lol. I get up 2 hrs b4 hubby to get myself and DD and everything else ready in the morning. The when we get home he plays playstation while i do everything else and doesnt understand why I go to bed so early- HA! I tried explaining that if he got up just a little earlier to help in the morning then I could sleep a bit later and then go to sleep later at nite.. Yea ok, rite over his head lol