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24-10-2009 - some people are rude

My mood while writing this blog: happy at the moment

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I just wanted to get this off my chest. As some of you know me, while I was pregnant, I was planning on breastfeeding my baby so he can get the best nutrients. My boobs grew to a 42DD so I figure it was enough to make plenty of milk, well I was wrong. Due to alot of stress I went through with my pregnancy as some of you read my blogs, I didn't even leak while being pregnant. My mom told me I would be leaking by the 8 month but nothing happen. Gave birth to a 7 pound 6 oz boy and tried to breastfeed at the hospital, nothing was coming out. I did finally got alittle milk coming in but it was not enough to feed him. After giving birth I went through the worse post paturm depression and it sky rocket my blood pressure so I end up back in the hospital for 4 days for them to get it down. Then they put me on blood pressure medication because it was still kind of high so I couldn't breastfeed at all. Plus I am on anti depression medicaton. I am no longer on the blood pressure medication because its back to normal but I am now still talking anti depression and now birth control.

Sometimes coming on this site and reading about how well other women are breastfeeding makes me jealous so I limited myself of coming on here. But I got a reminder from a dude at walmart the other day and it pissed me off.

The conversation started out friendly as he was asking me about my son but then he asked was I bottle feeding or breast feeding. I told him bottle and he went on to lecture me about how I should be breastfeeding him because its the best nutrients. I told him why I couldn't breastfeed and he got disappointed at me. WTF! I did not asked to be depressed with high blood pressure. My life was in danger and all he could say is I need to breastfeed! Its hard enough to except that I am bottle feeding only but I don't need someone to remind me how good breastfeeding is. Yes I could of been rude to the guy but I didn't and finally walk away. Yet to this day when I think about that man, I still get mad. Maybe in the future when I have my second baby, I will be able to breastfeed. For now I am just glad I am alive and thank god for allowing me to raise my son and continue doing what I am doing best. I need to stop being so sensitive towards people's opinion but that hurted what he said.

Tell me what you ladies think please:)

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8 Comments on some people are rude


saraandgabriel - Wednesday, 28 Oct
yes it is good to breastfeed but at the same time some people can be ignorant. it amazes me how people lecture women on breastfeeding even if the mom is taking medication that can harm the baby but they don't think of that and they don't think of all other complications that can come up where you need to bottle feed. i didn't make enough colostrum at the hospital so i had to supplement with bottle because he wasn't gettign enough and my baby had jaundice so he needed enough milk to help the jaundice get out. you would think that this era, this generation would be more understanding than judgemental.

charlihadley - Saturday, 24 Oct
i could not wait to breastfeed myson....well he was born, and i tried sooo hard, and could not feed him much, as i couldnt make much milk.....and he ended up in the hospital at 4 weeks old, so i had to pump, and he wasnt allowed to drink anything for two days since he had surgery on his tummy. i couldnt ever pump aymilk, ad completely dried up ....i was very dissapointed, but hes so healthy now....i am pregnant agin, 19 weeks, and i plan to do everything i can to breastfeed this baby,....we will see...i just didnt ake enough milk....its not always our faults.....theres a reason for everything i say!!...maybe with your next..........wht do guys know about breastfeeding ayways??? lol...creep...haha

cuddlebunnymeg - Saturday, 24 Oct
look you don't have to prove anything to anyone. I wanted to breastfeed too but due to other circumstances I am unable too. My daughter is healthy and had breastmilk for the 3 weeks she could. No one has the right to judge you do what is best for you!

KristinaA - Saturday, 24 Oct
Ericka - I'm sorry you had to deal with that guy. It's so frustrating how as soon as you become pregnant or have a baby, suddenly everyone is an expert and thinks they can tell you what to do. At least you tried to breastfeed. On the bright side, your baby has a huge advantage many others don't get - a 2 parent family. No kid is every going to have every single thing perfect and by the book, but as a parent, we give as much as we can give and that's all anyone can ask. I know you're doing a great job. Try not to let other people who should be minding their own business anyway bother you.

eve2ndbaby (blue) - Saturday, 24 Oct
That is so annoying and don't feel guilty at all. Neither myself, my husband or my nieces and nephews were breastfed and we are all fine and didn't get sick more than anyone else. I agree that there are benefits, but not worth stressing over. I am also bottlefeeding my daughter and at her check-ups she is the perfect weight and size and she eats so well and is doing great. I agree that you shouldn't explain yourself and I always avoid that question when asked.

tassie-mum - Saturday, 24 Oct
I couldn't breastfeed either, my milk just never came in as well.My son has a syndrome and you would be surprised how many professionals lecture me about not breastfeeding him and use his syndrome as a tool to make me guilty.People are just plain ignorant! And at the end of the day you don't ask them what they feed their kids so why is it any of their business what you feed your kids.Try not to let it get you down, I know what the jealousy is like too =(

kjslover - Saturday, 24 Oct
Wow! I think I would have just told that fella that it was none of his business and that is kind of a personal thing! Some people have no manners!

dancingtoast - Saturday, 24 Oct
honey 1) you should've kicked him in the nuts ;D 2) Don't explain yourself to anyone you already know the reason you should've told him where to go. I still have trouble breast feeding and Aidan is almost 2 months old...I think the hospital didn't tell you what to do because I couldn't breast feed at all in the beginning my nipples were inverted but I spoke to the lactation lady and she told me to keep massaging my breast so eventually my milk would come in now I have a good milk supply but breast feeding for me is a hassle towards the end of a feeding I have to change the sheets my baby my clothes I leak too much so now I just pump and give him a bottle...you do what works for YOU fu*k everyone else and what they think