16-6-2009 - Weekly update

My mood while writing this blog: pretty good

Hey ladies it's just me. Just thought I'd fill you all in on what's been going on.

Well as I told you ladies on my last blog Evan has got so big he's 2 months now.WOW! time flies I tell ya. His first round of shots will be next week, poor boy. My 8 week checkup is on monday finally. Hopefully everything goes as planned and I get released to go back to work, momma broke.lol For some reason over the past couple days my scar has been sepping, so that's why I say hopefully. I don't know why but everyday when I'm in the shower and run the washcloth over it, there is dried blood on it....so I don't know what's going on down there. I guess I'll find out monday when I go back to the doctors. It was also burning again over the weekend, so I don't know.

Anyways, I still haven't got Evans medicaid card with his proper name. I guess the 900 messages I have left must not be getting listened too or something. My case worker just SUCKS!!!!. She hasn't called, she never answers her phone, she never returns calls either. So now I'm going to have to go to the doctors next week for Evans shots with the wrong Medicaid card again. The way I look at it is if I start getting any hospital/docotrs bills in the mail I'll just take them down to the DHS office. My worker is the one who screwed up not me.

Now onto the next subject----Steve and Bev. So apparently they decided over the weekend that Evan needed to have his formula changed without calling me and asking or telling me. I went on sunday to pick him up, walked in ond sitting there on the counter is a new formula can. I asked why did you change his formula? Their answer was because he spits up to much and this formula is for babies who spit up alot. Then she continues to argue with me about how I just need to take my formula back and exchange it for that type because he supposely hadn't spit up all weekend. Well as she is telling me this what is Evan doing.....spitting up. And Steve is sitting there hearing the whole thing between me and her and all he is saying is the same thing as she is. I was trying to get them to understand with me getting the formula from WIC, it had to be exactly what they have me down for getting, I can't just go and exchange it. Neither of them could understand why I had such a problem with this, so I had to explain everything to them. Now Steve won't listen to what I have to say period, because he thinks I'm making a big deal of this. Well once I figured out that I wasn't getting anywhere I packed Evan up and came home. Now once I got home I looked at this new formula, it looked differnet so then I looked at the ingrediants. Then is when i really had a fit, my poor dad he had to listen to me bitch. This new formula may be to make babies spit up less, BUT it has double the amount of sodium. I have 4 different cans of fomula----(I tried differnet kinds when I brought Evan home and found what works for him), anyways I looked at each of them and they all have the same amount of sodium, but the one they changed it too is so high. I would rather do laundry daily than to have a baby with high blood pressure because of the amount of sodium per bottle. 40 grams per 5ozs, know do the math-----6 to 8 6oz bottle per day = 1 bottle @ 6ozs is 48 grams of sodium, times that by @ least 6 bottles a day, 48 grams x 6 ozs = 288 grams per day. Know I understand to most people this wouldn't be such a big deal but I already have to deal with his little butt being broke out in a rash everyother week because Steve uses differnet diapers and wipes. Steve doesn't boil his water for the bottles. Evan is always and I do mean always fussy/cranky/cries when he comes back home because he has a HUGE belly filled with gas because they don't burp him enough. I actually had to tell them just because he burps once during his bottle doesn't mean he's done burping. I'm not by any means saying I Know It All, but I do know my baby. I know what each cry means, and his cry when he's got gas in there makes me feels so bad for him. Evan knows when he's got a gas bubble and can't get it out. So my question is why can't his dad or his girlfriend figure these little things out.....oh I know because Steve sucks that's why.

So on monday morning Evan wakes up screaming---he never screams, he'll cry or fuss, but doesn't scream. So me and my dad are trying everything to fugure out what's wrong. Well little man was having a problem pooping. Gee I wonder why... He was straining so hard to poop. Needless to say I ended up doing the whole themometer thing----didn't like to do it but at least he finally pooped. So anyways from him straining so hard he popped a few blood vessels under his eyes....poor little man. Well i picked up the phone and called Steve once Evan was calmed down. I asked him if he pooped at all over the weekend, he said no not that he knew. Now this is where I got an attitude. Evan poops twice a day everyday never skips a beat, I can set my clock by it. Well once Steve heard my voice change he knew they done screwed up by changing the formula. He honestly felt terrible because he knows that Evan doesn't have a problem going poop. After talking to him for awhile he finally told me that it was Bev's idea to change the formula because she doesn't like doing laundry daily when Evan stays the weekend over there. My answer to that was to bad. Or better yet, have her stay at her house when you have him.

See this is why I had such a reaction to these two being together. I knew she was going to start out being good about Steve having a baby. I also knew sooner or later she was going to start not wanting Steve to see or have Evan. And finally I also knew "playing" mom was not going to be as much "fun" as she may ahve thought it was going tobe. Don't get me wrong Steve is not off the hook either. He thought "playing dad" was going to be all fun and games. He never thought it would be as hard on him. He makes too many comments on how hard it is when "they" have Evan. He also needs to stop listening to her when it comes to making choices about Evan. He's finally starting to figure out "She's NOT God". Know I don't think she knew what a big deal it would be to change his formula, I honeslty don't think she did it with the intention to hurt Evan in anyway.

So that's the update for this week. I'll fill you guys in next week. Too all of you who have had your Little Ones...congrats and to those of you who are sitting around waiting....good luck.