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	Age: 19 Country: USA Province/region: NY City: Private Partner: Children: Yes, 1 Pregnant: No Due date: 04 Jan ,2009 Occupation: Full time Momma
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22-6-2009 - I hate people telling me what to do with my son.......

My mood while writing this blog:
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My MIL says that when krystian takes naps i should try to be noisy so that he sleeps through loud stuff when he gets a bit older.......i mean i know where she is coming from, but we have been going about our normal business(dishes, music, etc.) since he was born because apparently this keeps him from being a light sleeper...well that was up until he was 3 months old because we lived with MIL and FIL for a while.but moved out into our own place....well, he is still light sleeper.The littlest noises wake him up...so obviously it wasnt working.He was practically sleep deprived as a newborn because all the MIL & FIL did was bang shit around(sorry for the language). Well anyways.....i think this is just wrong....the other day when we went up to camp, there was some chainsaws down the road but were still pretty loud...and krystian woke up.So she started bitching and saying, "oh he still isnt used to noises?"..i was like "No, because i try not to be too loud while he naps." and she went on about how he has to get used to loud noises during naps and how his cousin carmen who is 7 months old is able to sleep through anything and blah blah blah. im like did it ever occur to you that maybe he just IS a light sleeper(i am a very light sleeper )....I mean, if i was taking a nap, i wouldnt want people banging shit around and making a ton of noise....am i right?? cuz i'd be ripping peoples heads off if they woke me up from sleeping(im a monster when i wake up hahaha)...so i dont know what to do...its not like i turn off all the lights and stuff and dont make a peep when he's napping...i do dishes sometimes, the tv is usually on..so its not ever quiet here...can anyone help me with this?? does anyone see where i am coming from???

Another subject.....

Whenever my mom comes over...and it's time to feed krystian his bottle...she's always saying why dont you feed him some "real" food....and i always say he doesnt need "real" food, and that the formula is all he needs right now...except for the few solids he eats(green beans, banana's, etc.)..she goes...give him a bite of your strawberry(dont get me wrong, i'd let him have a taste of it, just a lick to see what he would do) but a "bite"??he doesnt even have teeth yet!! she just gets annoying sometimes...she had some cake the other day and kept giving him the frosting....so i told her to stop and she kept giving it to him....so he had all that sugar in him..i was so angry. i dont know what else to do....

On another page...my dad bought krystian a jumperoo last night...and he LOVES it...he knew exactly what to do when he got in it...it was so cute....i have a video im going to try to post...i dont know if it will work though...ill try....if it works, then im sorry its so crappy in quality, my camera doesnt work the greatest on the video setting(its a regualar camera, but has abilitt to record for a minute at a time)....and dont mind my voice, i was laughing hard cuz i thought it was funny watching him jump like that....

2 Comments on I hate people telling me what to do with my son.......

mariettap - Monday, 22 Jun
oh god that was longer than your blog! musta hit a nerve :)

mariettap - Monday, 22 Jun
EVERYone knows where you are coming from! Your own MIL and mom probably could remember getting the business from their own in laws and parents.

OK, so food: I was at a diner yesterday and a couple saw our baby playing with a wedge of lemon. She was using it like a teether, making a face sometimes, gumming it, but really reaklly shoving it into her mouth! We were amused b/c it wasn't a dangerous food, nor unhealthy, and she wouldn't be able to get a chunk off, so we let her do it for a bit. An older couple saw this and told me a few times I should give her a french fry. "Why not? She did fine with the lemon." I didn't bother getting into it w/ them, b/c why waste my energy going into the science and philosophy behind my choices. Our parents didn't have the benefit of science or philosophy when they did this either. Things were simply done differently, and if you argue w/ them, they'll just say, "Well, that's what we did with you, and you turned out fine." No sense getting into it. Just be brief: "This is the plan that her pediatrician and I agreed on for Kristian." No explanations. They have to comply, end of story.

As for naps, etc. You're doing nothing wrong. I read this *seven* years too late, but let me share it with you: The ability to get your baby to sleep/nap has very little to do with the quality of the parenting, and probably a lot more to do with the temperament of the child. Some children are simply sensitive to sounds and other stimulation. If my ankle made a click when I walked by, my first born would startle and wake. My second born wouldn't wake up if I walked in and put clothes away in her dresser while she slept in her crib beside me. That difference in sensitivity will play out in other ways throughout their lives. For instance my big girl does very badly in a classroom with a teacher who yells (too loud), whereas, perhaps my littler one will let some of the excess noise fade into the background. You are responding to your baby's needs, and that is exactly the right thing to do. How can you respond? Confidently. And again, no sense arguing your reasons, b/c it'll fall on deaf ears anyway and only make for more criticism. Simple, firm, and confident: "I'm not looking for ideas. This is what my child needs, and I plan to provide it for him." For a touch of understanding to preserve relationships, you could throw in a: "I'm sure that you got lots of feedback too when you were starting out as a mother. I find it most useful to be left to work things out with (partner'sname) and then ask for help when we feel the need."

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