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10-3-2009 - just something that bothers me BAD!

My mood while writing this blog: Ok

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Well my son came home today from school with a family picture that he drew... it was me of course, both his grandma's, his grandpa, his little brother, his little cousin and Brian my guy. No dad... This made me sad.. I mean, don't get me wrong he is a PIECE of you know what.. he puts money and his girlfriend in front of his own kids. I understand he wants to move on with his life like I have. I get that... but when your 5 year old doesn't even have you in a family picture what does that say about you as a father? So I made up an excuse to call him (we don't talk but once a week on friday when he comes to give me me money stays 3 minutes and then leaves) he's of course with his girl, I ask him if he has his brother's new number.. blah blah. jsut wanted to talk to him about the picture and to tell him I think he really needs to step it up and visit with his kids. This NEVER goes well and I end up calling him a loser and he calls me a bitch and we hag up.. he gives me the number and before I could even get out anything about Ethan's picture he hangs up!. I mean he hasn't spent any time with these kids in months and now he wont even ask about them. I just feel heartbroken for Ethan the most. Brayden really doesnt even know what's going on and since he was a baby all he's known is Brian my guy now, he doesn't call him dad, but brian is his dad if that makes any sense. I'm just full of emotion and hate right now! Ethan didnt even say anything about his dad NOT being in the picture so i didnt mention it. I just hate it for him... I don't want him to think that his dad doesnt want him. I want him to understand later in life that his dad is a drug addict and sometimes they don't mean to hurt the one's they love but they do. I just hate this.. I really want to call him back and tell him off but there's no sense in doing it because it just makes me feel so much anger and I can't do that with the little one on board. I mean how hard is it to ask about your kids now? F-ing loser is all he is. I'm just glad I have a real man that LOVES my boys like his own

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2 Comments on just something that bothers me BAD!


GeoS - Tuesday, 10 Mar
Hun my parents are divorced and though it was made official when I was a grown up woman (20 years old) I spent an entire childhood with a physically and verbally abusive father. Trust me though your little guy is young he knows that the people that love him and stand by him are the ones in the picture. If his dad does not deserve to be there, then so be it. I think its better to live with an absence than with an abusive presence (I've tried both). Afterall, you sound to me like the mother that can certainly substitute a father's figure for your guys in the best way and of course you have your man who loves your kids and you. What your kids really need is not a biological father but a man who loves their mother and treats them right, even if they don't get to call him dad.

momof3krzyboys - Tuesday, 10 Mar
To me the most important thing for your son you wrote in the blog. He drew a picture of alot of people who he knows love him, and your guy loves them as his own. He is a lucky boy to have so many people who care about him, I think he'll grow up knowing everyone loves him and it won't matter that his dad wasn't around because he has so many other positive people in his life.