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15-6-2009 - when it rains it pours!

My mood while writing this blog: over it

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well I found out that I was cut off of my food stamps as of this month because my fiance makes "too much money" (500 a week after taxes) with a soon to be family of 5! and rent, bills, ect... so that was a HUGE kick to the stomach when I found that out! I'm not one to live off of the government but after finding out I was pregnant and having to quit my job working in a bar, I went on temporary assistance with food stamps. When adding my guy to my case and adding that I was pregnant and with no income and NO child support from my older kids father.. we were cut off. I've had time to think about it and now that it's summer and I'm not paying my son's tuition for the private christian school I had him in last year we can budget 60 bucks a week in grocery money. It's not a lot but it's just enough for 5 nights of dinner and meals through out the week. WELL... today my guy calls me 10 minutes after he gets to work and tells me that my car has blown it's engine! I own 2 cars... one is HIS commute car and one is the family car I had to buy with my tax return money in order to fit 3 kids. GREAT! now what? when it rains it pours! so not only now are we struggling to pay our bills, buy groceries and save any kind of money for this little one on the way we now are a ONE car family again.. and what does that mean? that means that I will have to take him to work 45 minutes away and PRAY one of his friends at work can take him home other wise I'll be getting my sleeping boys up at 2am and going to pick him up. Not to mention this baby will be here before we know it and I'll be waking my 3 sleeping kids up to do this... what else? they say god will only throw at you as much as you can handle?... I can say I'm on a over load. I've had enough. Can I catch a break soon please?

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9 Comments on when it rains it pours!


Faith0624 - Tuesday, 16 Jun
Kyla, sorry to hear that you are going through all of this stress. It's only my husband and me for now and i tell ya, it's pretty hard now. can't imagine when baby comes.
alot of the FS issues i think are from previous morons who took advantage of the system. so now the real hard working citizens have to suffer for their idiocracies. sucks! But as you said you only get what you can handle and by the sounds of it, you are one tough chick. Do you guys know someone who's good w/ tinkering w/ cars? maybe your husband can barter a service for a service. I miss those good old days. you have milk and i have eggs now we can trade equally. hugz girl and let me know if you need anything. :)

dorolyn - Monday, 15 Jun
I hate the system!! I know how you feel! I lost my job when my employer found out I was preggo so I went and applied for FS... I got approved but only for $80 a month! I have 2 kids... whats $80 gonna do????? It seems like u have to have 50 kids and sit on ur butt all day in order to get any help!!! Thats crazy, Good Luck and I hope everything works out for you!

alottamocha - Monday, 15 Jun
I will keep you in my prayers! Like you said God won't give you more than you can handle. Keep praying and trust me...things will get better!

Aiona - Monday, 15 Jun
That totally sucks. :( I agree with the reapplying for food stamps.

mrsscorpio - Monday, 15 Jun
Wow, that sucks. This is going to sound a little unethical but wait like two months then file for food stamps again, tell them you and your guy broke up and he moved out. (However they may go after him for child support after the baby is born, so maybe that's not such a good idea). Maybe you can offer to babysit for friends since kids are out of school for the summer and may need a sitter. Can your guy change his work schedule...getting up in the middle of the night to pick him up sounds like a pain. I'm sure you've already thought of all this, so basically what I'm saying is I can relate and I'm here if you want to talk further.
I tried to get some gov assistance with my prenatal care and tried to apply for WIC but they told me I make way too much money eventhough I live check to check but whatever. Don't allow yoursel to get overwhelmed, things will work out. I know that sounds corny but the sun always comes out after it rains.

GeoS - Monday, 15 Jun
Awww! Sorry girl...As if you didn't have enough to worry about...Damn those bureaucracy idiots, they always let the big fish get away with it and take their vengeance out on us as if we were to solve their fund issues...Don't know exactly how it works there but try re-applying without mentioning Christopher (for now), and I really hope you find a way to arrange his commuting to work. You really need that sleep now girl, plus I'm sure waking up your boys wont be fun...Keep me posted sweetie. I hope everything turns out well soon. Hugz.

Cynder - Monday, 15 Jun
aww i hate when a whole bunch of money crap happens at once...just when u think ur handling it all something stupid comes up..and up and up...blah......well i hope everything works out well for ya..and u should reapply and fight with them about cutting u off!!! *hugs*

1 day at a time - Monday, 15 Jun
Girl I would reapply for the FS. Dont put him on your case (if ur not married) He doesnt have to be on your case until the baby is born. At least thats what they told me. If they ask...yall dont stay together anymore. And you can say someone is helping you pay your bills. U should be approved for emergency food stamps because ur preg w/ no income and should get them within in a weeks time. I did

anachicana - Monday, 15 Jun
What a bummer girl. Stay Strong and keep the faith!