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23-3-2009 - 1 Husband 1 Baby Daddy

My mood while writing this blog:
Trying to let it all sink in!

Okay some of you already know that I currently just got married and I have a daughter that is not my husbands, Now my daughters father and I are not the best of friends but we make it work for Kenadi's sake. I'm now preggo by my husband and I just feel so bad about having 2 different fathers for my children. Not to knock any of you ladies that has different baby daddies but I just feel like I should have made better choices. My husband keeps telling me that our situation is different becuase we are married and he feels that by me feeling this way is disrespectful to him. Maybe If Kenadi's dad was completly out of the picture I would feel a little better, but I kinda feel nasty(excuse the word). One child over one dad's house for the weekend and then the baby is going to be here with her daddy, it just feels kinda like crazy. Do you think that Im thinking to hard???? Or should I feel this way???

8 Comments on 1 Husband 1 Baby Daddy

tianaamor - Monday, 23 Mar
Oh sweetie it is what it is you would not trade your daughter and I'm sure you will be madly in love with your new daughter so just focus on the fact that both your children will have extended families who love them and will be there for them! If we were perfect like Christ we would not be here to learn lessons of life just give it to God stay prayful and move forward.

indigocream - Monday, 23 Mar
Let it go!! God has a plan for everything think about Mary and Josephe in the Bible... He was pregnant and then later had children by her husband.... Your 1st child is very special and could not wait for you to be her mother so she took a fast track way of getting here..... I have 3 babies daddy and 1 husband which I am now pregnant his daughter.... I was married to the other guys but it did not work.... Then God gave me my own Boaz his name is Major and Life just started again for me...... Think of it as Gods Promise of Love and Life..... Its not nasty its normal

tasha1977 - Monday, 23 Mar
I felt the same way you did about having different baby daddy's. But you don't know what life will throw you. Don't beat yourself up too much about it. I got over it too. You didn't know that your first relationship wouldn't last, but at least you have a husband now. Don't feel that bad, at least you don't have 5 baby father's. There are people out there in worse situations.

SAHM-with-children - Monday, 23 Mar
it is normal to feel that way, but hun that is part of life we only live one life and not always do we make the right choices in that life time either it will be ok, I think you are just stressing yourself out with thinking to much, but it is normal for you to feel that way though, but just think as long as your husband right now treats her like shes his own and your daughter loves your husband like her dad then I don't see anything wrong with the picture.......it happens don't beat yourself up with it ok?,........good luck

sannitajr - Monday, 23 Mar
I think ur thinking to hard. SOmetimes we do make bad choices ok very very bad choices and we just have to deal with him. At least u have a husband on the second time around. I on the other hand thought he was a good man and lets just say mistake mistake mistake. i love my children but sometimes these baby daddies take the joy out of it all. I think your situation is fine, I dream of a family at least u have one

SWAN - Monday, 23 Mar
Well, ma...there is nothing that you can do about that. It doesn't make you nasty or anything because you have 2 different kids fathers...I don't like using the term baby daddy unless that is the way that they act...any man can just be a baby daddy but to be a father and step father is a man that is doing what he is supposed to be doing without you having to ask him to....I was married for 11 years to my older 3 girls father...we were highschool sweethearts, got married at a young age...i helped him through college...the whole 9 yards but when he started making some money...he thought that the grass was greener on the other side...he started cheating and i wasn't having it...we are now divorced but he takes good care of my daughters....and now i have the love of my life whom i thought that would never exist but he does and we were blessed with twins...honey life goes on...and our lives are the way that they are...you can't be penalized or feel bad for mistakes that you have made before...it is all about learning from them...and when you think about it...i wouldn't just call them mistakes because you have a beautiful daughter from your decision.....life is a whole learning process...you live and you learn....you are a great mother and having a loving man by your side who i am sure supports his family....its ok...hold on honey...and just be strong...take care

meisha2001 - Monday, 23 Mar
i dont think you should feel bad at all as long as you show both you love them and there for them, she will be fine. Me and my brother and sisters have different dad except one cause we are twins but it didnt bother none of use its just something they will grow up with and be used to it

crystalmortimer - Monday, 23 Mar
aww don't feel bad at all! The fact that you are trying to get along with your oldests father shows what an amazing mother you are!

My oldest daughter is going to be 9. I was married to her father but we're divorced. I'm now with my current love. He is ravens step dad, and we have one biological child together and we're pregnant with our second together.

I know exactly how you feel. At times I feel bad that Raven has a different father, but, I don't regret anything. If I hadn't gone through what I did, I wouldn't have Raven, and I wouldn't change that for the world.

Life happens, and no it isn't prefect, but, you are showing your child how to have a healthy relationship even if it's not in the "traditional family" sense.

I think you're doing a wonderful thing for your family, you keep it up!!!

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