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| 02-7-2009 - why now ? |  My mood while writing this blog:depressed |
i am just sitting trying to make sense of why i am feeling this way . i am happy that things seem to be looking up for me in my life i have 6 beautiful kids my husband a house everything that my kids need . but there are somethings that i just cant shake off i dont know what is right or wrong thing todo i am so confused .. i guess the only right thing todo is to pray . my heart is like a puzzle that i dont yet understand my mind is all over the place i dont understand what it is i am suppose todo ? as a mom and a wife befor making any choices i always think of how it is going to affect the ones i love . my heart tells me to think about my kids and i do but then i am not sure at this time what todo i know this all so confusing . i want the best for my family. i guess i will put what this is about my son befor he was concived i was with my ex befor my husband this all happend in 1999 i met my hubby in 2002 my ex and i were together for a couple of years but we had broken up and i got with this other guy who i was seeing for awhile and when we broke up and ended up going back with my ex who i had history with . but then i found out i was pregnant . for 8 years now i am not sure if i should try to find the other guy or not which in the past i have tried and couldnt find him . i am unsure of if i look for him if its the right thing todo cause i know its going to affect us all if we find out he is the dad it is a 50/50 chance . number one i dont want to hurt my son .. but i have no idea where he is . i keep trying to put it in the back of my mind but i dont want my son to grow up and hate me . my ex he always makes remarks that it isnt his son but doesnt ever day anything to him about it . i tell him all the time get a test done but he wont. so do i just live life as i have or should i try digging to find him ?
so these other two guys arent my husband i hadnt met him in this time .. me and my husband have 3 kids together .
me and my husband are doing good we have had our rough spots here and there and a couple of brake ups but we have remined together for7 years . i love my kids and my husband at times i do feel a bit confused but my marriage but i try to remain to have faith in my marriage and in god . i want to keep them all happy ..
6 Comments on why now ?
OrchidTTC - Friday, 3 Jul
I have not to been in this situation. But I can tell you if I was I would want to know for sure who fathered my son. Out of respect for myself and my son(who has a right to know the truth) I would want some closure with it. If your husband has been there all this time supportive, then he should/will continue to be there in understanding. I don't think it should be soley what you want, but what your son needs to know. I wish you peace and an easy solution to this because it seems it weighs heavy on your mind. And that can not be a good thing to have to get through on a daily basis.Follow your heart.I believe you already know what you should do. I am also here in case you need to talk/vent {{{BIG HUGS}}}
mom of 7 and 1 on the way - Thursday, 2 Jul
That is a very hard decision for you and I feel sorry for you. I was 16 years old when I decided I wanted to find my dad. My mom knew who my dad was which helped tons, I asked for his name and the last place that she knew he was. I started calling and writing everyone I could that had that last name, I called one woman that gave me my grandmothers address and I wrote her, she called my dad telling him that a girl was looking for him. I guess he knew that he might have another kid out there but wasn't sure because my mom said I wasn't his. I was so mad at my mom for that, so remember you might be doing the right thing by knowing where the dad is. I wish you luck whatever you decide to do cause I know that you have a really hard choice to make.
Emauk - Thursday, 2 Jul
your right..it is a hard one..but if it's causing you so much pain not knowing..then it will surly reflect on your kids, husband and life..If you have tryed and tryed to put it to the back of your mind..and 8 years down the line your still thinking about it ..and your husband is making little remarks..I think it will be playing on his mind too..It sounds like you do want to find out because you've already looked with no outcome..And I think your husband loves you and your son very much..and he won't get the test because he's worried that his son might not be his son..but if he doesn't know..it will be playing on his mind too..I think you need to have a sit down with your husband and just be completely honest with him..tell him how your feeling and your fears..and encourage him to do the same..hopefully you will come to some sort of agreement..it's always best to be open and honest about your feelings in this kind of situation..and a problemb shared is a problemb halved..I wish you all the best of luck hun..and hope all goes well..keep me posted..Xxxx
baby[bump]mama - Thursday, 2 Jul
for one...you must be happy with your hubby to have a good marriage. but i think with faith any marriage can make it! now about your son...there are two ways to go about it. get a DNA test and see if your hubby is the father, or have your him accept your son no matter what. and stop the nonsense. best of luck hun! be strong!
babylicious2(blue) - Thursday, 2 Jul
if he been there and been your son father figure for 8 years y mess with it in the end is it gonna be a lot harder to work out your husband n you have been together for a long time and its not nice to make comments liek u say that he does espeically if he been there all this time he made that choise wen he got together with u b/c he knew u had a son and he knew that it maybe was a chance that it wasnt his or watever and you all are happy so just leave the past in the past the say that any man can make a baby but it take a real man to step up and be a father he choice to be the father and u have alot of other kids so jsut leave it alone dont go knockin on troubles door n i wish u the best of luck hun
momto4littleangelsn1ontheway - Thursday, 2 Jul
oh hun i'm so sorry to see what you're going through and ii'm going to ask god to give you strength and guide you in the right direction,just hang in there and continue to trust and have faith in the almighty and he will see you through this rough time in your life,god does answer prayers and you're definitely in my.
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