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03-6-2009 - too much to deal with

My mood while writing this blog: depressed

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it seems like no matter what my hubby and i do we just cant get ahead. right now wer're facing looking for a new home because we just dont have enough room for 4 people, child support, and the fact my husbands ex wont let him see their daughter. That is what upsets me the most. I basically havent slept much because ive been trying to figure out what i could do to try to help, yet i cant figure anything out. She for somereason has something against me. Hell, he didnt even know he had a daughter until a year ago!!!! theres a whole story which i am for some reason compelled today to tell, hoping it will aleviate some of my anxiousness. so sorry ladies if you dont wanna read this but i dunno what to think anymore.

back over 2 years ago, my now husband was with this chick and they werent even getting along let alone being in the same room together. Well according to several people (which im not sure about but i have no other reason than to trust them), when he was drinking heavily she basically raped him when he passed out. *if true sooooo uncool!!!* **if not true he's gonna get his butt kicked lol** after she found out that he and i were together she started harassing him and basically wouldnt stop texting him about stupid crap well some time passed and we found out last year that this child is in fact his (which to me devastated me, still does to a point, but i cant hold it against him hell i have my son from a previous relationship and hes taken my son on as his own) but about 8 months ago or so, we were all gonna meet up and he was gonna be able to see his daughter. She at the last minute said no because they had things to talk about and he wanted me there, or someone there because of their past and she had called cops on him for stupid bs! But they didnt get to meet, and she wont let him see their daughter. Last time they went to court, i went with him. it was right before christmas, well i tried to talk to her about giving the presents and meeting somewhere public so that nothing happened. After the court, i went up very nicely and asked if we could set something up just to be able to let him see his daughter!!! she very rudely told me 'youd have to take me to court to see her' and stormed off. that was the last time we had heard from her.

well we got how much he has to pay in child support, and its almost 600 a month. which to me is bull! heck, i dont even get 200 a month from my sons biological donor. but this just tears me up inside!!! he hadnt done anything to her other than telling her to leave him alone. now that this is his daughter *she was slutting around with that we know of and it has been confirmed 5 other men* she wont even let him see her! I dont know how someone can be like that!!!

Im just so frustrated and its making my husband depressed (even though he denies it) i just wanna cry, and seriously call her up to talk to her But i know what she would do call the cops on me and try to get me charged with harassment. I dont even know her! i have nothing against her, and she still hates me. i just dont know what to do.

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3 Comments on too much to deal with


luciansmommy - Friday, 5 Jun
thanks guys for writing. im just frustrated and upset and irritated at the entire situation. I wish my sons bio dad would have even wanted to see him, but he's a douche. it seems like nothings fair. but hell, there's always karma right?

robynder - Thursday, 4 Jun
I am sorry to hear you are so upset. That really sucks. I have often wondered howsome stupid idiot feels taking someones money and not letting the kids go to their dad's. I know it happens alot and I really think it is unfair.

mamalvs4 - Wednesday, 3 Jun
your situation sounds so much like mine, except he was married to his ex and does get to see his kids, Unfortunatly pays over a grand a month in child support and she makes everything difficult. there is no working with her on everyday stuff. so i feel your pain. i compleltly understand feel free to vent to me anytime you need i totally understand that sometimes its the only thing we can do