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|18-4-2010 - update on our family /birth
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i havent blogged in a while a lot has happened, had my baby early, lived in a hotel due to lack of house, was re-hospitalized for jaundice, and finally home but trapped in our bedroom with 5 dogs, a baby , no running water , and no kitchen. but we made it , and the house is coming along nicely. I was having 3x weekly nst's for coltons heart, and thats the only thing that ever made colton kick, he was so quiet in my tummy it always scared me and the docs. my almost 38 week nst went great, doc did everything, but i never let them check me because alhtough since month 5 i wanted my baby out due to pain, i needed him to stay in as long as possible since we had no house. and dialation has nothing to do with when your baby will come so why pysch myself out, id rather just not know. they were rest assured since its my first baby he wouldnt come until my due date or later, guessing mid january. Colton had other plans, i had no idea but he had kicked a hole in my placenta. we took our daily walk around home depot and the employees kept joking i was going to go into labor in their store since we were in there minimum once a day, little did i know i was in labor. id been having heavy contraction waking me up at night for a long time now. we got some dinner really quick since dh was going to be out for work that night, but i couldnt eat just felt sick to my stomach. i sat stuffed with all our furniture/dogs in our one bedroom finally got a toilet in a couple days before this. dh left and i kept begging him not to go, what if something happened. i went to the bathroom and i noticed a tiny tiny piece of clear mucous plug, i freaked out since i just was talking to my friend how i didnt want to see this , gross! so i wrote her , by the time i sent the text i leaked a little liquid, hrmmm, weird i just went to the bathroom. but i heard it happens to pregnant women just never happened to me yet, so i went to the toilet again and more liquid came out, panic setting in, im not ready the house isnt ready he cant come home to this with no clothes! i walk around pacing calling my mom crying praying this isnt what i think it is, i heard when standing it would only slowly leak out, well it full on poured out of me and didnt stop so i put on a pad, called dh told him we need to go! he insists its more of my mucous plug, guess he didnt read the books, mucous plug isnt pints of water! finally i convince him to come home, im packing my bags frantically taking care of the dogs and still crying i cant believe my mom will have no where to stay us and the baby wont and all his stuff including clothes is in storage. we get out 3 outfits and throw it in the washer before we go since i know once your water breaks , im there to stay.
at the hospital i got cozy and worked as hard as i could to get farther before i got the epidural, they couldnt even check me because my issues i had before no one has been able to do a successful pelvic on me i cramp up and they cant get in, same happened. my mom made it in she lives 3 hours away, we all knew it would be a while but she rushed out like a great mom. from the time i got to the hospital 6 pm my contractions were 1-2 minutes apart, i thought that didnt happen until the end of labor, but i guess not for me :) dh took a nap while i tried to work thrugh the pain, i knew i wanted an epidural before i knew i was pregnant, but i wanted to try to get far to progress better. they kept coming in my room saying to take pain meds, but that is not an option for me, after 11 hours of laboring at 1-2 minutes apart i caved and said call and get the anesthesiologist in asap! he was at home sleeping so i finally woke dh i needed some help :) an hour later i got my epidural very painful didnt expect the sharp shooting pain down my right leg, but 15 mintues later pure bliss. an hour later 3 cm :( it would be a while so sent everyone to hotel /home to get some sleep before it was time to push. since my water broke its dangerous to check me a lot so they said they would hold off on checking, at 10 i got anxious and wanted them to check, i was almost to 10 cm's just a sliver left.... that 5 hours made a big difference! i called my mom to come back, they said my midwife wasnt scheduled to come in until 12 since they expected me to take longer, she would be in a meeting. i panicked i wasnt ready to push i wasnt ready to have a baby yet, he wasnt planned and we have no house i was a mess. they said let me know when you feel pressure , i second guessed and said im so numb, are you sure ill feel it, they said no doubt i would. now i was really scared he would just pop out and i wouldnt know i pushed the epidural button a lot as soon as they said 10 cms i didnt want to feel it lol. i freaked out and had them check at 11 and he was ready to come , time to push!
i didnt think i wanted anyone but dh and staff in but i changed my mind in the moment and had a nurse in training, my mom, my best friend. it was really neat. they encouraged me to push and i pushed super hard and quiet like i watched on baby story lol 40 minutes later colton was being born and his daddy caught him and placed him on my chest. my hospital was into bf and bonding so he stayed on my no goo in his eyes so he could see me better unweighed for 3 hours. he latched so easy, and it was great. i tore a little got a couple stitches which didnt hurt until the next day. all in all easy as labor and delivery can go. he got a cool full under water bath except his face, he loved it, thought he was back in mommy., they showed me the hole his little legs kicked through the placenta. and i fell in love instantly with my new #1 man. Colton Michael(after dh's dads name) Campmas 6.6 lbs 19.5 " we had to room with another couple the next day since everyone went into labor, boo! but happy to make it to the hotel later, and so blessed my mom brought pre washed donated clothes, blankets etc, otherwise we would literally have had nothing to put him in. my sister who lives in another state came out 7 months pregnant! i couldnt have asked for more, except if dh's evil parents could have left and not hogged my child from my family. his mom even had the nerve to pull colton off my breasts insisting he had plenty to eat, i wish i could have slapped her!
the day we finally got to go home we got yet another blood test back and i found out i had to go stay a while at the hospital with colton because his jaundice, i thought no big deal some lights and we go home. this new hospital was terrible , when he was screaming crying they wouldnt let me soothe him, tried to force me all the time to give him a bottle or pacifier which i was told not to do in the beginning if trying to bf, so i felt strongly about it, thank goodness strongly enough to not get bullied into it, the staff was so mean. i cried harder than colton, nothing worse than not being able to touch or soothe your newborn when in distress, he was just so scared naked, unswaddled with sunglasses taped to his head without his mom, and not aloud to feed on demand, i was very happy when we got to leave christmas eve. the glue they put on his head to make the sunglasses stay on burned the skin , an stayed that way for a while, the morning nurse said they have glasses with velcro that they are supposed to use on babies that young, oops.... saddest moments for mommy by far, he still has little scars from all the bloodtests
Colton is a very sensitive spirited baby, who keeps me on my feet. nothing makes him happy, nothing! he wont take a paci, wont go in a swing, a carseat, wont fall asleep in my arms or in bed with me, and for the first 4 months we had to for naps at least bounce him in his bouncy seat, hard, to get him to nap, until now when were sleep training him, and he just cries for over an hour even in our arms. he is ebf, which was very hard and new to me at first, always having to schedule everything around eat/sleep time, being excluded from the group, and losing all our friends, but now that i just have colton and hes my best friend its becoming a lot easier, and i dont mind it and finally can see myself doing it a long time. he has always only eaten 5-10 minutes his whole feed one side and they said from day one it cant be enough, but lactation has weighed him naked before and after feeds many times to see he eats more than he needs, and he grows even faster to prove it! born at 6 lbs 6 oz, at 3.5 mo he was 15.2 lbs . were still struggling a little with a tight schedule, he is on baby wisperer routine, but one of a newborn!
we follow eat activity then sleep but he does this every 2 hours so eats hour later naps and eats again 2 hours after he ate, but no matter what he wont let us extend this, he gets so fussy at activity 45-1 hour into it, so he has to nap, and he wakes up truly hungry and hour into his nap. im starting to realize all babies are different and he is an extremely touchy/sensitive boy and this is something i will have to live with. plus he's a baby, i think its truly to make us happy that we make them to conform to an adult schedule, 4 months may seem old after having a newborn but hes still a little baby and im in no rush to make him grow up. at night he has finally started sleeping a 4 hour sometimes 5 from 6/7 until 11-12 i guess. after that its every 2-3 hours again until 7-8 he wakes up ready to play :)
he first smiled at 5 weeks, rolled over front to back a lot at 5 weeks(thats how much he hated tummy time, so we stopped it for now) he just rolled over from back to front a couple days ago. hes full of life and energy squeeling with joy, no real true belly laughs yet, but he does his baby giggle , u really am working hard for a laugh though.
he has terrible gas has since day 1, everyone was shocked, but its all day long! doesnt bother him anymore though, its just who he is :) he also has a hernia which showed up a couple weeks after birth, common in early babies, it got huge for a while and in the last couple weeks has reduced to looking just like an outie, were thrilled he wont have to have surgery, as minor as it is.
the dogs are adjusting well they love him to death, all five :) i feel bad that Colton doesnt have the power to stop their "kisses" himself i intervene as quickly as possible, dad lets it happen. fire season is soon, sad to see dads help leave since i have no friends/family for help around here, but happy to have my time alone with my boy since some things are easier done by me :)
my sister had her baby boy a week early, he was small like colton 6 lbs 9 oz, she was expecting another difficult labor and big baby, and was surprised , its neat because she was having a very bad end of labor type of day had a bad appt figured baby wasnt coming, and i told her how they said the day of my appt he wouldnt be coming until after my due date, and he came that night, same happened to her and she went into labor exactly 3 months to the day colton was born , so his cousin rylans birthday is 3 months and 1 day later !
i think thats everything, at least for now... until i think of what i forgot and add it in :) glad i finally got to that !
2 Comments on update on our family /birthMrsStrickland74
- Monday, 19 Apr Wow you poor thing! You have been through a lot. I am glad everything is going better now. bluebirdhelen
- Sunday, 18 Apr That's funny about the doggy "Kisses"...they just want to give him love too! We have 2 big dogs around our daughter and it's like juggling three babies - except two are very large. Fortunately they are gentle!!