03-6-2009 - Family Stress

My mood while writing this blog: Frustrated and worried

Hi Ladies. My last week has been a huge roller coaster and lets just say I\'m so done with the drama. The rest of my pregnancy is going to be NORMAL. At least this is what I keep telling myself. Lol. If you\'re not up for a lot of whining and complaining, you might want to stop here. Just know that yes, Mark is ok and no I haven\'t killed my husband.....yet.

Last Thursday started out pretty sad. My hubby\'s nephew past away. He had turned blue from lack of oxygen and was pronounced dead at the hospital. He had lots of medical problems and it\'s a blessing that he\'s no longer suffering (2 years old). The autopsy will be back in a couple of weeks, but they are calling it SIDS for now.

My hubby runs a 30 year old family business with his parents. They started it when my MIL was pregnant with hubby and I swear that\'s the reason he stayed with the business. Lol. His older brother tried it and moved away about 10 years ago. His two younger sisters never showed much interest in it. Anyway, no one from the family (including the hubby and inlaws) has done anything at work. I\'ve been handling it and then going over to my MIL/FIL home (where my sil and her family lives) to clean the house and prepare food. Thank God lots of people have brought food that just needs to be heated or is easy to prepare. My inlaws were a mess and the sil that lost the baby obviously wasn\'t able to function much. The other sil is a spoiled brat that expects to be waited on all the time (she\'s 24 years with 3 kids and an absolute brat). Her husband and my hubby\'s brother weren\'t around much (off playing golf or whatever). Plus there were always tons of grandkids around to feed and tend to. Also extended family from both sides of the nephew\'s family that I had to drive around and cater to. So my life has been hit the ground running by 7am and not crashing until about midnight most nights. Not to mention the funeral was Monday and hubby left for an OPTIONAL business trip immediately following the funeral. I ended up spotting and cramping Sunday evening. I went to the ER and they said I was ok because I wasn\'t dilated. They told me to reduce my stress. HAHAHA. No one other than hubby even noticed I was gone for about 90 minutes or that I went to the hospital (I had left our daughter with him, so I had to go by myself). I started spotting again last night, so this morning first thing my doctor wanted to see me. Mark is ok and the heart beat is steady. Cervix is closed and the baby is not showing signs of distress right now. My blood pressure is extremely high (92/146) and my diabetes management has been less than perfect (understatement of the year). My doctor put me on strict bed rest to prevent labor. I was to go home and am not supposed to get off the couch. I can\'t even go pick up my daughter from daycare. My best friend is going to watch her tonight since my hubby is still out of town. I feel bad but had to tell my inlaws to run their own business or close until Monday. I have another appointment with my doctor Monday. I\'m really hoping she lets me off bed rest then, as I\'m going to go nuts otherwise. Lol. Also, it didn\'t help that I tried to drop my daughter off at her home daycare this morning and the daycare wasn\'t at the house. They were down the street at the park, but I didn\'t know that so I had to take her with me to the doctor\'s. Explain to a 3 year old what a cervical exam is. Lol. My doctor was great about it though and the nurse gave her stuff to play with. I love my doctor. My daycare provider felt really bad too but I wasn\'t supposed to drop Clara off yet, so she didn\'t know to expect me as my daughter goes to work part time with me and spends afternoons at daycare. I think the most irritating thing is hubby went away even after I was spotting and my inlaws seem to care less about my situation. It\'s all about poor them, which I understand, but is it too much to show up at work to help out just a little to relieve my stress. Also, one of the machines at work quit about 2 hours after hubby hit the road for the airport. Not even that sent my inlaws into work. AARGH. Thank God my hubby has good employees or I would\'ve killed my FIL. Which is more than I can say for my MIL. She has a rude college age kid that works the front desk and I can\'t stand him. If my MIL isn\'t around he does nothing and won\'t listen to anyone else but she keeps him around because he sucks up to her and looks good when she\'s around. AARGH. I hate my inlaws right now and am less than thrilled with my hubby. He gets home late tonight and is getting a huge piece of my mind.

Thanks for listening to me gripe. I promise to do the same anytime it\'s needed. Thanks and God Bless.
Also, I'm sorry that this was sent to all of you in your normal comment page. I didn't mean to do that and don't know what I was thinking. Sorry.