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	Age: 27 Country: USA Province/region: City: Partner: Husband Kevin Children: Yes, 2 Pregnant: Yes Due date: 13 Dec ,2009 Occupation: clerical
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16-8-2009 - My husband is being an as%ho#e

My mood while writing this blog:
Ok

So today has been a lovely day (NOT!) It starts off with me waking up, making coffee, pouring my dear hubby a cup and bringing it to him while he sits at the computer, making oatmeal banana pancakes from scratch (serving everyone else first of course, then I eat)....ironing my hubby's clothes for him, vacuuming, sweeping, doing dishes and then packing the diaper bag to go to a toddlers birthday party. Lovely morning, actually, quite the norm.

So, we leave the house and are heading to the freeway. I look at the gas meter (my hubby is driving). I notice we are on empty and we passed the gas station we always go to. I mention "I think we need gas". No words come from my husband's mouth. "Aren't we going to get gas?" No words, come from my hubby's mouth. On the freeway we go, and I am slightly irritated. About five miles up the highway he stops at a reservation to get gas. I told him that he could have told me that he was going to stop at the res when I asked him about the empty gas. Common courtesy right?

Next situation: We are almost to the birthday party and I mention that it is sunny and I would like to get a snowcone at the local farmers market after the party (the party started at 12 and the market closes at 3). He more or less just made noises, didn't really say anything. So I say "We'll be done by then right? We aren't going to be there that long", he makes more noises. So then I say "use your words, I can't read your mind, what are you thinking" and he says "I think you know"...Aargh! I tell him "I don't know, tell me so that I know". Then he says "Obviously I think there isn't enough time, do you want to go now?" I told him it wasn't obvious and that is why I need him to talk to me. At this point, for some reason, he's pissed. When we got to the party, our son was whining in the back seat...and my hubby says "I know how you feel buddy" Rude!

Next situation (I know this is long, bear with me): After the party, we go get snowcones (amazing isn't it, that we actually had enough time!) and then we head through town. I assumed we were getting on the highway to go home, but he got in a turn lane that is headed toward another highway entrance. So I say, "I would rather you take the highway forward, I hate the other one" and again, silence. So I say "alright, go this way then". And he says "what does it even matter?" and he pulls into a movie store. So by now, I'm really frustrated because he could have told me that he had a plan to go to the video store, instead of leaving me with the impression that he was heading towards the other entrance! I told him it was just another example of how he could have avoided hard feelings and conflict by just letting me know of his thoughts or plans. And he told me that I don't trust him or his judgments!

I told him that when we got home he could go play frisbee or something by himself and I'd stay home with our son, because I'd rather do that than hang out with him and have more conflict. So he did, without saying anything when we got home, he just handed me our son and he left. He's been gone for hours. So I sent him the following lovely message. And yes, you can feel free to tell me how mean I am!

"Must be terrible living with a wife who doesn't read minds. How convenient would it have been today for me to have been able to just know that you were getting gas at the res...or that you thought we wouldn't be done by three at Marco's...or that you were going to Blockbusters....gee, I was really out of place today. If I could have known all that, then we wouldn't have had to speak at all. It must be quite painful to use your mouth for communicating, otherwise, I would assume that you would have wanted to use your words to let me know your plans and thoughts. I mean, I know that you love me and a respect me, you wouldn't have avoided communication on purpose. From now on I'll just get up and make your coffee and cook your breakfast and tidy the house like a good wife. I'll keep my mouth shut and I'll never question your actions. And most of all, when my feelings are hurt, (and I know, I know, it will be my fault for my feelings to be hurt, because I was weak and took something personally), I'll just keep my mouth shut. Oh, and one more thing. When you go out and get some personal space, I won't get pissed when you take the car seat with you and leave us stranded at the house...I am so sorry I f*ck*d everything up. I'll try even harder from now on to make your life a dream."

So there it is ladies...my nasty side. It was probably the most immature and sarcastic thing to do, but I'm pissed! And he took off with the car that had the carseat in it, so I can't even leave here if I wanted to!

5 Comments on My husband is being an as%ho#e

★DCsFantasticFour - Sunday, 16 Aug
Men can be real F**K Tards sometimes.... and today was you husbands turn. When mine starts acting like that I do the same thing you did. If they only knew how effing stupid they look when they act like that.

CarrMommyof2 - Sunday, 16 Aug
our husbands the most wonderful thing in the world? lol. you do everything for them & then they never give anything back in return and all they want is sex even when you're 6 months prego. lol. mine always thinks i'm trying to control him. all i want him to do is listen and maybe do something for me every once in awhile instead of ignoring me and being lazy and doing nothing. ya know? he thinks i'm trying to "walk all over him" as he puts it. men are just full of themselves. they always assume this or assume that. when really you're not even doing anything at all. lol. hope stops acting like a jerk. mine can be that way but at least he is usually good about apologizing lately. lol thank god. makes it so much easier on me & him. cuz then he's gotta pissy pregnant wife to deal with. haha

LiseyB - Sunday, 16 Aug
Oooooo I love reading your posts! This is so me and hubby when I was preggo. Part my hormones and part his expectations of my hormones as a pregnant lady and his pig headedness! My hubby was like being defiant, I am sure he was thinking - my wife is pregnant and she is nailing me. So I'll act defiant and I won't answer her, and I'll misinterpret her because she is pregnant and that gives me an excuse to. There is no point putting in any effort to heal things because she is pregnant and nothing I say or do is gonna be good enough at this time. A bit like when we have pms and they think that we are upset at something they did because we had pms rather than them taking responsibility for their actions. Unfortunately, emotionally men are like teenagers. They want to feel like they are making decisions and not being told what to do. When we are pregnant we can become a bit hyper-sensitive to things. My mind works overtime. And I am on anything in a flash. I call it the hen picking syndrome and that is where I am so astutely aware of his every move and one step out of line and I'm on him like he is a wriggling worm in the dirt. Of course it is warranted. But after a very short while men get tired of this and they start to act like 15 year old boys. Another thing, this behavior of his, it has to be biological right for evolution? Kind of like after you ovulate sex is the least thing on your mind. Well, you a pregnant so the job is done. So no need for flirting, foreplay and connectedness. Until your next fertile phase! Lets face it that cervix is sealed tightly shut! So there is no need for honeymoon love. When you think of it like this, it is kind of funny. Two options, 1. Silent treatment deluxe until he is ready to communicate and empathize (I don't like your chances here) or 2. take a deep breadth. Give him a big hug. The less words the better and put it behind you both as one of those insane twisted marriage/relationship moments. x

premiere madame - Sunday, 16 Aug
Awww hun, Im sorry your husband is acting like an a**hole. I wonder if there's something wrong that's he just not talking about. That's still no excuse to treat you like that though. I glad you sent him the message to show him how much of a jerk he's being, good for you. It wasn't that immature either, I would have been alot worst. I hope he comes around and turns back into your darling husband. good luck. xoxo

cpalmer - Sunday, 16 Aug
aww hun, im soo sorry ur hubby is acting like a jerko....my hubby is like that alot, they think we have superpowers or something, i mean we are good but not THAT good!!??!! like ughhh they just like to shut us out cuz it makes everything easier :( i hope u got thru to him with ur msg hun ! it seemed to work with mine...big hugs!!! xxxxx

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