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	Age: 23 Country: US Province/region: AL City: Partner: Spencer Children: Yes, 1 Pregnant: Not anymore Occupation: Graphic Designer
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20-4-2009 - Frustrated

My mood while writing this blog:
Frustrated

I don't understand why so many people insist on focusing on the negative. My mom has been doing this a lot recently. My fiance and I have been pretty confident throughout the entire pregnancy, not really panicking over anything. If I ever voice a concern to her she makes such a big deal out of it... her usual reply is "Wow this baby is finally becoming a reality, isnt he". I understand that we are only in our early 20s but we are at a pretty good point in life already. Out of college, careers already started. This was the natural next step, so why should I panic? I know things will be changing and it won't be the easiest thing but I just don't see the need to worry about everything.

And if one more person (older family member) asks when we are getting married, I might scream. We have been together for well over 3 years, and were already planning a wedding for this year. Right around the time wedding plans began we found out about the baby. We decided that it would be easier to focus on the baby now and the wedding later.

I guess I am just frustrated that because of my age, people naturally assume that my maturity level is low and that I will not be prepared.

5 Comments on Frustrated

megeanua - Tuesday, 21 Apr
thanks everybody.. somedays I just can't help but let it all get to me.

wendy125 - Monday, 20 Apr
Many 22 year olds are very immature. There are exceptions to the rule though. I was very responsible at 22. I had my own apartment, a full time job, was taking 18 hours in college and maintained a 3.7 GPA.

I'm 28 and people are still trying to tell me that I'm too young. I would like to be young enough to pick up my child without throwing out my back. I want to be able to understand my teenager. I don't want to start having kids in my late 30's. Truth is, I wish I had gotten pregnant when I was 22.

Screw what they think. Not every 22 year old is a wild, partying idiot. My boyfriend is 30 and still has immaturity issues. He, like many men, may never grow up.

Think about this way 50 years ago it was abnormal if you did not have a family by 22. My grandparents were married at 20 and had my uncle a year later. Now they are like your family telling me I should have waited til 30.

sinny - Monday, 20 Apr
I am 32 and my mother ALSO focuses on the negative. I think it is just the way they are.
show them all they can go shove it you are taking fine care of yourself!

Cynder - Monday, 20 Apr
dont worry about what other people say..me and my finace were the same age, finished college and had our careers started when we had our son and i got asked ALL the time when we were getting married etc...we focused on having our son and everything turned out great! u know whats right for u and they can all just deal with it! =)

Artisticchik - Monday, 20 Apr
And what never ceases to amaze me is no matter how old you get that same problem will exist. Your next frustration will be people that don't have kids telling you how to raise yours. Take it with a grain of salt. In reality,...how mature are the innuendos they are making rather than just coming out and having an adult conversation about any concerns and being a part of the solution. Some people just like to be the squeeky wheel. If they are not part of the solution then they are part of the problem and you will have to determine the importance of their opinions based on this. Family can be a real pain in the butt sometimes, married or not.

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