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39 Comments on Way Forward


tassy - 22 hours ago
hey Helen, i like your positive and new attitude.. we are all here for you and i promise to not ask you anything about your TTC and pregnancy stuff.. but please do keep writing to all of us here about other fun things that you do.. enjoy your trip to the lakes and have fun...

NicoleM - 32.2 hours ago
I love your attitude and strength. I think it is a very good approach on the situation. Im not creative either but once you get going you will surprise yourself. Good luck

emb17 - 36.7 hours ago
sounds like you are doing great, I wish i could feel like you sound. I'm having a crappy day from hell. :-( sorry the last thing you prob want to see, some one being down. But i've just had my mil lay it to me straight how she feels about me. my head feels like it is spinning out of control and i feel sick. she thinks i'm no better than my partners ex wife and that my kids don't give a shit about him or her, (because of my ex husband, who is causing most of the problems at the moment). but i know that's not true, I can see how much my boys miss him when he's not arround. I how affectionate they are towards him when he is and i have never forced them to hug him or anything, they just do it becaues they want to. Sorry i'm just a babbling mess at the moment. will try and be happier next time.

Want2bMOM - 38.2 hours ago
I think this is a good idea. I am doing it and I know that I am fine and happy about it.

mommy of 4 n ttc - 38.4 hours ago
I totally understand. I will be doing just about the same thing.

ladylocks02 - 40.2 hours ago
i fink yr positivness is wonderful, we will all miss u tho so jus make sure we still have blogs (even if there about nothing in particular) jus to stay in touch.
Yr soooo lucky goin to the lakes especially as its startin to feel so christmassy! have fun xxxxxx

Pocahontas - 40.7 hours ago
Helen I think you should do whatever it takes and what feels right for you. I promise not to probe you on anything TTC / PG related.

You will be missed and off course we will support you. I know it might be hard in the beginning, but as you say, the holidays will be a good starting point.

I wish you all the best and that all your hopes and dreams will be fulfilled soon. - L

mandy poo - 41.4 hours ago
good morning , i think thats a brilliant idea. i no its hard ive seen family members go through it but you are such a positive person. i promise i wont ask x just make sure you pop on now and then to say hi x good idea bout hobby to xxx

kelim - 42.9 hours ago
i think its the best idea hun, good on you, i hope you keep in touch tho cos i will miss you lots!!!xxx

sarahann - 45.3 hours ago
Hey, I think it's a great idea to limit time spent on these sites. I love this one, and everyone on it, but it can start to control your life. I'll be waiting to hear some great news from you, in your own time. Best wishes.

Expecting-2B-Patient - Wednesday, 3 Dec
Good for you! I came to the same senses last week before my D&C for my second M/C. Every month I was testing and obsessing over trying to get pregnant... it was like I was trying to predict my future and test fate. Yea, it worked, I got pregnant, but it never seems to work out in the end. Our lives are already picked out for us... we can not change that. So we need to let things be and happen when they are supposed to happen! Ever notice people get pregnant when they aren't trying or it's an opps, and everything works out for them?! We'll take a deep breath and just let life take it's own course this time... best of luck to you and your husband... and remember to have fun!!!!

thenorthcutts - Tuesday, 2 Dec
glad your not leaving us completely!! i hope you have fun on your vacation!! hope to see lots of pictures!! love your approach on this and pray it works for you!

TracyB - Tuesday, 2 Dec
Good for you - I think you have the perfect approach! And your greeting card idea sounds great!!

LizDW - Tuesday, 2 Dec
I think it's a wonderful way to keep the anxiety at bay and I totally understand. About the greeting cards... sometime I get really good ideas from scrapbooking how-to books. If there's a hobby store around, I'd look for one. I love being creative, but I have no imagination, lol. I just steal ideas and try to put my own spin on it. :o) Hope that helps.

firstlittleangel - Tuesday, 2 Dec
Great plan! Here comes the future girlfirend! good luck!

J9 - Tuesday, 2 Dec
right behind you girl! well done for being so proactive! I think you're doing the right thing! I'll look forward to hearing what you're getting up to and keeping in touch! xx

christinesc - Tuesday, 2 Dec
You've got my word, honey! I really think you are doing the right thing. I hope your holiday is pure bliss! Take care of you. xo

danielle20 - Tuesday, 2 Dec
i think its a really good idea. i used to get really anxious all the time, especially when i was due to test. it will defintaly help, although it may be hard, but your a strong person so that will help alot. good luck anyway.. have a nice holiday. xx

debra haynes - Tuesday, 2 Dec
oh hun i will miss your blogs but take one day at a time and you do what is best for Helen,just remember i'm here and i wish you,hubby and jack all the best,you are truly a wonderful person.

jennwill3 - Tuesday, 2 Dec
Can we still ask about steve and jack. And your holidays. I love those stores the most...

jojo - Tuesday, 2 Dec
I promise lol I think its an excellant idea hun. xx

wyattsmommy - Tuesday, 2 Dec
I think its a great idea i've kinda been doing the same thing actually i've been focusing more on the holidays and starting to potty train my little guy! Than I have been on ttc and so far it looks like its working I mean I got my first positive opk without any meds. & im just waiting for AF to show we're going to try as soon as we can, but im not going to be getting up and taking my temps. first thing anymore I am still going to use my fertility monitor, but that is more or less to make sure I will ovulate on my own & to narrow down how long my cycles are going to be since its been so long since I got a cycle on my own! But I wish you the best of luck! And hopefully the new year will bring us both great news!

Jelly27 - Tuesday, 2 Dec
Best tip I would have would be to take each day as it is. Don't try to rush your mind to be less anxious. It just doesn't work. It took me a good month or two to be where I am at mentally now. So take it easy and we are here for you. Don't worry I won't ask about that stuff, because I really don't want to talk about it either. ha-ha

liz82 - Tuesday, 2 Dec
i am here for you anytime you need a friend i think that if you feel that this is whats best for you may god bless you hun . make sure you keep in contact with me .
=]

RainbowRach - Tuesday, 2 Dec
whatever it takes my lovely friend!! I wont ask you anything I promise x x you know I am rooting for you every step of the way x I really hope this approach works for your and Steve! I make my own greetings cards, its great fun. If you want to start off easy, go to hobby craft (either shop or online) they have packs, where you have everything you need, they normally have some ideas in there to get you going. Its great fun. Have a go at making some for Christmas, that will keep you busy, hehe. I am making a beaded thing to go over my baubles for the christmas tree, sounds sad but I really enjoyed it. I will show you a pic. I am also making an angel for the tree :) I found going to a craft fair an excellent way of deciding what I could do. I think you would suit learning how to do nail art, so you could make all your friends nails look funky! You would have to practice on Steve! haha anyway enough about me and my saddo life!!! hehe Good luck x x

Abigails Mommy - Tuesday, 2 Dec
When I was pregnant, my doctor and all my friends told me to stop coming on here because when others had problems I kept stressing as to whether or not I would too. I understand where your family is coming from. Greeting cards are fun! I had a friend that actually hand made different greeting cards. No computer at all. Maybe scrapbooking too? Do you like that kind of thing?

stephbmw - Tuesday, 2 Dec
Hiya hun, Just wanted to say i support you whole heartedly no matter what you want to do to deal with things, I think you are right and you have to be able to relax and be happy on the inside and contented to get you through most things in life and love your new approach to things, You know that sooner or later but i think sooner that your going to be a mommy you are meant to be, Dut i do feel that everything you just wrote makes perfect sence and im sure without all the worries and pressures you will have success before you know it all the best hun lots of love steph xxx

blessedbaby2be - Tuesday, 2 Dec
I support you on whatever you need to do to keep yourself happy and stressfree! Looking forward is a great idea and I wish you the best!

angeluv28 - Tuesday, 2 Dec
I think it's a great idea. you'll be just fine . Just let things happen the way they're going to happen without any influence. You'll see what a huge difference that makes!! I hope you have a wonderfull Holiday sweetie!!!

i-am-finally-preggo - Tuesday, 2 Dec
You didn't want to keep your former blogs for posterity at all?

ok I hear you. fresh start and all. :D

keep yourself as busy as possible...any classes you'd like to take? do it. best of luck to you!

victoriasbean - Tuesday, 2 Dec
I think this is a positive step. It will make you more relaxed! Good luck hunny! x0

jenniel872000 - Tuesday, 2 Dec
I'm so glad that you are looking forward to the futrure and not the past! Enjoy the holidays and your hubby...everything will fall into place =) Making your own greeting cards sounds fun! I love that kind of stuff! Make sure you post a pic of your work. Take care =)

~Babylove~ - Tuesday, 2 Dec
I think it's great but you need to make sure you stick at it. Also once your pregnant just blog once a week, it gives you something to look forward to and keeps everyone updated! Enjoy your hols! xx

prettypreggo - Tuesday, 2 Dec
Sweetie, you do whatever you need to do. Take care of yourself and we definitely understand.

julz - Tuesday, 2 Dec
You have my promise, I think your laid back approach is great!

**MOLAR**SURVIVOR!! - Tuesday, 2 Dec
have fun on your holidays:) Where are you going? I am happy to hear your not stressing out about everything and taking it day by day.
I forgot to mention when you asked what cd I found out, I was 10 days past O and found out on cd 25.

Will you be gone on your holidays during Christmas or come back just before?

BethSilva - Tuesday, 2 Dec
You have my promise! I think this will do the trick! I'm so happy for you! LOVE the greeting card idea! TTYL

jen - Tuesday, 2 Dec
What a great plan!! Destressing your life does include your internet life too, so I think that is a great idea. And the card thing sound like fun! I know here in the states we have a place called Micheals and Hobby Lobby that has neat stuff to be creative with. If they are over there too it may be worth checking out! Maybe you will find you like it so much you start to sell your "art" pieces, maybe a box of a dozen cards at a time. That would be so neat!

SAMANTHAPADRON - Tuesday, 2 Dec
i see where your coming from....and completely understand.... i hope you guys have fun on your vacation and stuff... and i wanna kno what she's having!