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36 Comments on 14 Weeks !!!
X-LeahsMummy-X - Thursday, 19 Mar
Humm its a hard one cos althought personally i dont think it would harm the baby if u had sex, it is quie likely u will bleed, i bled when i had sex and i got worried, and it would be so scary for yout o see bleeding, but if u do decide to do it and u do bleed, just try to remember it does happen, and also if it happened right after sex its pretty obvious its from that, but u cant help but worry anyway.. sorry i just rambled on then , xxxxx
~Alicia~ - Thursday, 19 Mar
I was always scared too. You can always try it...slow at first and if you feel any discomfort just stop, If not ... well have FUN! Either way he will understand.
**MOLAR**SURVIVOR!! - Thursday, 19 Mar
great to hear everything is going good. With all my prenancies, the sex pretty much faded on my part because I was sick and scared in the beginning and then to big and sore and ackward the rest of the time. I think those feelings are normal about sex. I lift my kids everyday and dont stop doing anything. I dont let them jump on my belly but to lean or lay on it, I feel okay with. Babies are well protected. Think back in the day when women were pregnant and wirking in the fields all day long and had 10 kids, everything was fine. Enjoy and yay for 2nd trimester!! =)
Jelly27 - Wednesday, 18 Mar
Congrats on continuing to progress! I'd be scared too about the sex thing. Unfortunately I don't have any advice, I'm sure I will be in the same dilemma when I finally get pregnant. I don't want to have sex now because I think he may mess something up down there before the procedure. Poor Guys!
the scroggins - Wednesday, 18 Mar
im 9 months pregnant n my man leans on my belly a little. the baby is soooo padded in there that its hard to really hurt the baby. :)
aselleck26 - Wednesday, 18 Mar
oh my gosh i TOTALLY understand david and I didnt have sex for 3 months lol. he was really gentle when we did again though. i only had a tiny bit of spotting the first time in the 3 months. what helped me is i got a fetal heart doppler, it saved me a many trips to the er. go on ebay there pretty cheap there. it is just relief with one. and you'll love being able to hear your babys heart any time you want.
firstlittleangel - Wednesday, 18 Mar
OMG the sex during pregnancy is wonderful! I did have a little spotting after a few times in the beginning, but it never hung around, it was very light pink and was gone within minutes. I can understand your not wanting to though, it's such a scary thing but HOLY COW it's like 10 times better now than it was before I got pregnant. Congratulations on week 14 I am so happy for you!!
fdstripled - Wednesday, 18 Mar
A gentle quicky can't hurt and Steve will feel so much better. But if you are that nervous get naked together in bed and get him off or let him get off on a part off you that he feels is sexy.Sorry about the bluntness but there is no other way to say it.
RainbowRach - Wednesday, 18 Mar
say, no-no hunny you got it wrong.....I said wait until the third trimester!! lol x x
Georgesmummy - Wednesday, 18 Mar
go for it Helen, you'll probably enjoy it! from about week 12-17 i had multiple orgasms, it was grrreeeat! lol! Shme it didn't last though! hehe!
drod - Tuesday, 17 Mar
Helen,
What did your doc say? Mine said it is only a problem if I have a sensitive cervix (I don't remember the real name). If you have that problem then I think you should stay away from the snake. I just started feeling for sex on Saturday. Try the spoon position first (sideways). Also try from behind but do not bend so that you can limit penetration. I read on this site that pressure on the stomach after 14 weeks is not recommended. Call up you doc and get his ok then enjoy.
byrdi - Tuesday, 17 Mar
hey congrats on getting to week 14! only 5 more weeks and i'll be there! hee hee! i hear you on the sex thing. our dr had told us not to for the first little while as i had m/c last summer, but after our last appt and seeing the heartbeat, he said it was ok. so we have a couple of times but nothing like our old schedule. i'm too paranoid, and want to wait until i'm much further along and feel safer about it. My fiance is being really good about it. im sure you'll be fine but do whatever makes you feel comfortable :)
haileys mommy - Tuesday, 17 Mar
We were the same way about sex. We decided not to until we knew everything was good with the baby. So after our scan at 9 weeks, we went back to our regular sex. :D I'm now 28 weeks, and we still do regularly.. and he still leans on my belly ever so often. No harm! Heck, I even sleep on my belly sometimes. I figure that if it hurts her.. it will hurt me, and it never has hurt me before.
I totally understand though, especially with having 2 miscarriages before myself. But we never had any bleeding at all after sex with this pregnancy. So go & enjoy :D
tto - Tuesday, 17 Mar
Personally from experience, from where you are coming from, it isn't worth it. What if the worst did happen, how would you ever get past it? You and he have an amazing relationship- it can survive nine months plus 6 wks with no snuggling. For a child- the wait is more than worth it. You'd also be protecting him from guilt if anything did happen. My suggestion is to talk together to your dr. Then, if you can't or are still worried- be creative for the next several months. There's more than one way to skin a cat you know!
gabbygabs20 - Tuesday, 17 Mar
Hi congrats on getting to week 14. Your nearly there. I'm so glad everything is going so well for you. How was your long weekend off?? Hope you had fun. As for the sex i say just go with what feels comfortable. Don't overdo it and make sure you are in the mood to make it a bit more comfy. If all else fails there is always intamicy during cuddling you could try. I'm sure Steve will understand if you don't feel up to it. Hope your week is a great one. xoxox
Savvy - Tuesday, 17 Mar
Hi, congrats on being 14 wks. For me in the begining the doc said it was ok, but we felt unconfortable having sex, so we only did it like 2 times and my husband felt guilty. Then I had the amnio and started to leak fluid, my doc told me no sex until we have the baby, so it is a no no for us now...So far hubby does not mind as yet...I would say talk to ur doc and then go for it..:)
alwayshopeful - Tuesday, 17 Mar
Congrats on 14 wks!!!! How exciting :-) Just do what feels right for you and Steve and as long as your doctor gives you the ok. Take it slow and see what happens! Have fun :-)
MamaCas29 - Tuesday, 17 Mar
Yeah, you two should have a regular old lovefest! 8 weeks! I'm sure it will be ok...and maybe instead of him on top....you could try some different positions (I'm sure he'd like that anyways)....and if you feel cramping after sex, especiially if he "you know" in you, don't worry...semen has prostoglandins in it that can cause mild cramping..I had that with my daughter. Can't wait to see the belly pic!
EloiseAndHarrys-Mummy! - Tuesday, 17 Mar
hey, you shouldnt be worried its perfectly safe to have sex unless the doctor has told you not to and why. i often bled with sex but it was awfully painful for me though. theres a very common course for bleeding with sex whilst pregnant and on the pill (causing of break through bleeding) I think its called cervical erotion (swelling basically) but its most likely you wont bleed. just take it slow as for the on top im pretty sure they say its fine all the way through. it just gets more difficult as you get bigger. Theres actually a boock on sex for pregnant women, about all the positions and how to support the baby bump when you get bigger, ill have to find out what its exactly called for you lol.
Oh and one final thing. YAY for week 14, 2009 really is the year for you? x
ladylocks02 - Tuesday, 17 Mar
Hi hunny, i dont blame u for bein paranoid, theres possibility u may spot a little i did and then like others have said nothing after, i fink i remember it feelin uncomfortable if scott was on my belly but i didnt know if that was cos it was all in my mind lol, ask yr doc and then tell steve he has to MAKE LOVE to u baby!!! haha xxx
thenorthcutts - Tuesday, 17 Mar
CONGRATS ON SECOND TRIMESTER!!! as for the sex thing do what YOU feel comfortable doing. when i had my last miscarriage we had just had sex and when i went to the bathroom i saw the blood. i know the sex had NOTHING to do with me losing the baby but it was still in my mind. with this pregnancy i wouldnt let him touch me until 8 weeks, then after that its only MAYBE once a week. IF you have sex dont freak out if it "hurts" in some way because everything is so overly sensitive and you haven't had sex in a while. like all of the other ladies said if you dont feel comfortable with intercourse try something else. :) if you have any questions ask your doctor; trust me they've heard it before!! xoxo
stepheni775 - Tuesday, 17 Mar
You will be fine I have even heard it is good for the baby as long as you are making love and no having some hard core LoL. I think you should wait until you are comfortable and then do it even if it is for another few weeks then so be it. I just think that you need to love your husband and make sure he feels loved and not like you are pushing him to the side and showing him you love him don't always mean having sex. Either way you have a very good husband from the sounds of it and he will understand either which way you choose to go. Oh ya and congratulations on being in week 14 that is fabolous!
jennwill3 - Tuesday, 17 Mar
there are other things beside the "normal" sex stuff.. I will leave that up to your imagination - for when sex is a no- no.. This is number 4 for me.. and sex was always ok.. but with this last one I had a lot of bleeding and I would get worried, and kind of "not make the moment so great" so we had to look at other different things to do. It is really up to you, and what you feel comfortable with. ok.. if I was in your shoes... I more than likely would not.. only because of what you said about bleeding.. like you .. if I just had the normal "sex" spottting I would still be a basket case.. I would just have panic.. and then that would give me anxiety all the time.. But that is just me.. I just worry over that stuff, then I focus on it.. and can not let it go... But that is just me honey.. (who knows I could be nuts...lol...) just think about what you would do if you did spot.. would it be to much for you to handle.. worry wise.. if so.. then use the as an excuse to be creative in the bedroom.. there are plenty of things you can do for steve to "get him there" and he seems so wonderful I am sure he would understand...
dannii - Tuesday, 17 Mar
If you feel that worried im sure steve wll understand!! ur not gunna enjoy it if ur sooo worried you waited a long time for this im sure u will get ur sexi urges back in time an then there will be no stoping you! and woo woo hoooo week 14!!!! nearly half way there xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
PeapodMommy - Tuesday, 17 Mar
Since I've had 4 m/c's our dr. told us not to for our 1st trimester. It will probably shock you, but I felt strongly that it would be okay and I couldn't hold out any longer so we finally did have sex at 11 weeks. I was on top so I could really be in control of everything and we didn't start until I was really ready if you get what I mean. Anyway, I didn't have any bleeding or and cramping afterward. We haven't done it again since, but it felt nice to be intimate in that way after holding out for so long. Just do what is comfortable for you.
expecting-2b-patient (Cheryl) - Tuesday, 17 Mar
Oh, you're so cute!! I'm sure you'll be fine! DH and I have only had sex twice since we found out. Mostly because I am just not interested. I didn't bleed at all, but I did notice my cervix was a little sensitive when hit. I wouldn't let him lean on your belly, he'll just have to have the strenghth to stay up and off =) Just remember too, there are other ways to satisfy him w/out intercourse if your nervous. GOOD LUCK HUNNY!!
steph mom of 3 beauties x - Tuesday, 17 Mar
Hiya hun congrats on week 14!! Woohoo!
I know how you feel about wanting to give your man some loving i feel like that myself and want to do it myself and also for him so he don't think im neglecting him i know he doesn't think that really but its a tough one and it's down to the individual at the end of the day what we have done thus far is to do the business at least once or twice a week (i know it sounds like not much) But with me being so tired and protective of baby its reasonable, So what we did was from the beginning sorry if its abit TMI but i would never be underneath as it feels like there was too much weight on my tum, so we would and still do, Im on top and we go easy and gentle and do whateva's comfy to be honest and from that we both feel ok and happy with so it's up to you hun i would say don't let steve be on top if you can and don't go to fast or too deep lol! Oh well its served us well anyway and any discomfort just stop and relax, Some people do go through their pregnancy with absolutley no sex and thats up to them if it works then thats great but i think you should do what you feels right, I felt bad about just leaving Mo with none for 9months plus after nearly killing him off trying to get preggo in the first place and don't think its fair really its almost like i kinda got what i wanted and don't want he's loving no more and we all have to have some loving don't we hehe! To be honest he feels kinds weird now im getting bigger and he don't mind at all now if we don't do it until after baba comes because we have loads of cuddles and kisses and are forever telling each other that we love each other so thats enough for now hope that helps sweetie its really up to you all the best love steph xxxx
momto4littleangelsn1ontheway - Tuesday, 17 Mar
congrats on 14 weeks,i understand you're scared but you're going to be fine and the further you get the more you will want it,but if you're not comfortable talk to your doc,take care love and i'm very excited for you way to go 2nd trimester.
jambaby - Tuesday, 17 Mar
I didn't let dh touch me at all til I was 30 weeks lol I was to scared that if something did happen i would resent him, themc's made me a bit paranoid...I just pleased him and he was happy with that. Do what feels right to u!!! goodluck!
mandyd829 - Tuesday, 17 Mar
Hey i bled the 1st time too and a couple times after that. unfortunately for my hubby its just doesn't have the same effect for me and i don't enjoy it as much. but i try to pay attention to him in other ways if you get my drift. he doesn't care as long as its attention. but i understand your worry we freaked the first time too. just talk to him maybe he is just as scared. i'm sure you'll be fine. i am so glad you are at 14 weeks. its going buy so fast its crazy.
mommabell - Tuesday, 17 Mar
Congratulations!!
EricandCalebsMommy - Tuesday, 17 Mar
Firstly, congrats on 14 WEEKS! YAY! :) On the topic of "getting busy," hubby and I gave up sex altogether for my whole entire pregnancy ~ but I bled once a week for the first 21 weeks, so for me, there was no way I was taking a chance. On the other hand (and I really don't mean this in a bad or crass way ~ I hope it doesn't come across that way ~ and I'm not trying to be suggestive in any way), hubby and I did do other things ~ just no sex. If you are having a healthy pregnancy, you both agree that you want to do it, and the doc gives you a green light, go for it! :) It's totally up to you and your individual situation ~ I know it's a tough choice to make, though :)
KaeliandEricasMom - Tuesday, 17 Mar
congrats on week 14 !!!
Brandy1015 - Tuesday, 17 Mar
YAY 2nd trimester! It seems like the weeks are flying by with you. I can't wait to see the 20th week ulstrasound.
Did the specialist tell you to refrain from having sex? I have never been told that. I am just curious, if I do become pregnant do we need to hold off too? Take care, and have a lovely week..
Abigails Mommy - Tuesday, 17 Mar
Good morning Helen!! I'm so glad to see you're doing very well! Congrats on Week 14!!! A great milestone indeed :-)
I'd ask your specialist/doctor about sex. It wasn't painful for me and didn't do any harm but on the otherhand I hadn't had multiple m/c. But I hope you have an answer soon. I'm sure Steve will be a happy one *smile* HUGS
vicki--mommy of 4 - Tuesday, 17 Mar
I would ask the doc if he thinks it's ok for some loving. I understand why you're being so careful. As far as Steve leaning on your belly, if it's uncomfortable for you, don't let him do it, it means there's too much pressure. If it's not uncomfortable let him, I'm sure it makes hime feel closer to the baby. Take care hun. I'm so excited you're in the 2nd trimester!
| 17-3-2009 - 14 Weeks !!! |  My mood while writing this blog:Really Really Happy |
Hi everyone
I'm so excited today getting into Week 14 and officially being in the 2nd trimester. It feels wonderful.
I am a bit tired today and have had lots of stretching pains down below so I'm hoping my little bump is going to have a growth spurt any day now. I will take another belly pic tomorrow to see if I can see any difference from this time last week.
Soooo ladies, I have a question to ask:- I told Steve he wasn't getting any sex until I was in the 2nd trimester as I know when you have had multiple miscarriages you are meant to avoid it. So now I'm in the 2nd trimester I feel like I should give Steve some loving but I am scared that because we haven't done it for 8 weeks I might bleed or it might hurt. I know Steve will be gentle and if I didn't want to do it he would be fine but I feel guilty and like I should be giving him some attention now. And is it ok for Steve to lean on my belly? What do you guys think? I couldn't bear it if I bled, I would go into major panic and it would ruin this lovely contentment I have at the minute. Any advice would be great please ladies.
Thank you xxx
36 Comments on 14 Weeks !!!
X-LeahsMummy-X - Thursday, 19 Mar
Humm its a hard one cos althought personally i dont think it would harm the baby if u had sex, it is quie likely u will bleed, i bled when i had sex and i got worried, and it would be so scary for yout o see bleeding, but if u do decide to do it and u do bleed, just try to remember it does happen, and also if it happened right after sex its pretty obvious its from that, but u cant help but worry anyway.. sorry i just rambled on then , xxxxx
~Alicia~ - Thursday, 19 Mar
I was always scared too. You can always try it...slow at first and if you feel any discomfort just stop, If not ... well have FUN! Either way he will understand.
**MOLAR**SURVIVOR!! - Thursday, 19 Mar
great to hear everything is going good. With all my prenancies, the sex pretty much faded on my part because I was sick and scared in the beginning and then to big and sore and ackward the rest of the time. I think those feelings are normal about sex. I lift my kids everyday and dont stop doing anything. I dont let them jump on my belly but to lean or lay on it, I feel okay with. Babies are well protected. Think back in the day when women were pregnant and wirking in the fields all day long and had 10 kids, everything was fine. Enjoy and yay for 2nd trimester!! =)
Jelly27 - Wednesday, 18 Mar
Congrats on continuing to progress! I'd be scared too about the sex thing. Unfortunately I don't have any advice, I'm sure I will be in the same dilemma when I finally get pregnant. I don't want to have sex now because I think he may mess something up down there before the procedure. Poor Guys!
the scroggins - Wednesday, 18 Mar
im 9 months pregnant n my man leans on my belly a little. the baby is soooo padded in there that its hard to really hurt the baby. :)
aselleck26 - Wednesday, 18 Mar
oh my gosh i TOTALLY understand david and I didnt have sex for 3 months lol. he was really gentle when we did again though. i only had a tiny bit of spotting the first time in the 3 months. what helped me is i got a fetal heart doppler, it saved me a many trips to the er. go on ebay there pretty cheap there. it is just relief with one. and you'll love being able to hear your babys heart any time you want.
firstlittleangel - Wednesday, 18 Mar
OMG the sex during pregnancy is wonderful! I did have a little spotting after a few times in the beginning, but it never hung around, it was very light pink and was gone within minutes. I can understand your not wanting to though, it's such a scary thing but HOLY COW it's like 10 times better now than it was before I got pregnant. Congratulations on week 14 I am so happy for you!!
fdstripled - Wednesday, 18 Mar
A gentle quicky can't hurt and Steve will feel so much better. But if you are that nervous get naked together in bed and get him off or let him get off on a part off you that he feels is sexy.Sorry about the bluntness but there is no other way to say it.
RainbowRach - Wednesday, 18 Mar
say, no-no hunny you got it wrong.....I said wait until the third trimester!! lol x x
Georgesmummy - Wednesday, 18 Mar
go for it Helen, you'll probably enjoy it! from about week 12-17 i had multiple orgasms, it was grrreeeat! lol! Shme it didn't last though! hehe!
drod - Tuesday, 17 Mar
Helen,
What did your doc say? Mine said it is only a problem if I have a sensitive cervix (I don't remember the real name). If you have that problem then I think you should stay away from the snake. I just started feeling for sex on Saturday. Try the spoon position first (sideways). Also try from behind but do not bend so that you can limit penetration. I read on this site that pressure on the stomach after 14 weeks is not recommended. Call up you doc and get his ok then enjoy.
byrdi - Tuesday, 17 Mar
hey congrats on getting to week 14! only 5 more weeks and i'll be there! hee hee! i hear you on the sex thing. our dr had told us not to for the first little while as i had m/c last summer, but after our last appt and seeing the heartbeat, he said it was ok. so we have a couple of times but nothing like our old schedule. i'm too paranoid, and want to wait until i'm much further along and feel safer about it. My fiance is being really good about it. im sure you'll be fine but do whatever makes you feel comfortable :)
haileys mommy - Tuesday, 17 Mar
We were the same way about sex. We decided not to until we knew everything was good with the baby. So after our scan at 9 weeks, we went back to our regular sex. :D I'm now 28 weeks, and we still do regularly.. and he still leans on my belly ever so often. No harm! Heck, I even sleep on my belly sometimes. I figure that if it hurts her.. it will hurt me, and it never has hurt me before.
I totally understand though, especially with having 2 miscarriages before myself. But we never had any bleeding at all after sex with this pregnancy. So go & enjoy :D
tto - Tuesday, 17 Mar
Personally from experience, from where you are coming from, it isn't worth it. What if the worst did happen, how would you ever get past it? You and he have an amazing relationship- it can survive nine months plus 6 wks with no snuggling. For a child- the wait is more than worth it. You'd also be protecting him from guilt if anything did happen. My suggestion is to talk together to your dr. Then, if you can't or are still worried- be creative for the next several months. There's more than one way to skin a cat you know!
gabbygabs20 - Tuesday, 17 Mar
Hi congrats on getting to week 14. Your nearly there. I'm so glad everything is going so well for you. How was your long weekend off?? Hope you had fun. As for the sex i say just go with what feels comfortable. Don't overdo it and make sure you are in the mood to make it a bit more comfy. If all else fails there is always intamicy during cuddling you could try. I'm sure Steve will understand if you don't feel up to it. Hope your week is a great one. xoxox
Savvy - Tuesday, 17 Mar
Hi, congrats on being 14 wks. For me in the begining the doc said it was ok, but we felt unconfortable having sex, so we only did it like 2 times and my husband felt guilty. Then I had the amnio and started to leak fluid, my doc told me no sex until we have the baby, so it is a no no for us now...So far hubby does not mind as yet...I would say talk to ur doc and then go for it..:)
alwayshopeful - Tuesday, 17 Mar
Congrats on 14 wks!!!! How exciting :-) Just do what feels right for you and Steve and as long as your doctor gives you the ok. Take it slow and see what happens! Have fun :-)
MamaCas29 - Tuesday, 17 Mar
Yeah, you two should have a regular old lovefest! 8 weeks! I'm sure it will be ok...and maybe instead of him on top....you could try some different positions (I'm sure he'd like that anyways)....and if you feel cramping after sex, especiially if he "you know" in you, don't worry...semen has prostoglandins in it that can cause mild cramping..I had that with my daughter. Can't wait to see the belly pic!
EloiseAndHarrys-Mummy! - Tuesday, 17 Mar
hey, you shouldnt be worried its perfectly safe to have sex unless the doctor has told you not to and why. i often bled with sex but it was awfully painful for me though. theres a very common course for bleeding with sex whilst pregnant and on the pill (causing of break through bleeding) I think its called cervical erotion (swelling basically) but its most likely you wont bleed. just take it slow as for the on top im pretty sure they say its fine all the way through. it just gets more difficult as you get bigger. Theres actually a boock on sex for pregnant women, about all the positions and how to support the baby bump when you get bigger, ill have to find out what its exactly called for you lol.
Oh and one final thing. YAY for week 14, 2009 really is the year for you? x
ladylocks02 - Tuesday, 17 Mar
Hi hunny, i dont blame u for bein paranoid, theres possibility u may spot a little i did and then like others have said nothing after, i fink i remember it feelin uncomfortable if scott was on my belly but i didnt know if that was cos it was all in my mind lol, ask yr doc and then tell steve he has to MAKE LOVE to u baby!!! haha xxx
thenorthcutts - Tuesday, 17 Mar
CONGRATS ON SECOND TRIMESTER!!! as for the sex thing do what YOU feel comfortable doing. when i had my last miscarriage we had just had sex and when i went to the bathroom i saw the blood. i know the sex had NOTHING to do with me losing the baby but it was still in my mind. with this pregnancy i wouldnt let him touch me until 8 weeks, then after that its only MAYBE once a week. IF you have sex dont freak out if it "hurts" in some way because everything is so overly sensitive and you haven't had sex in a while. like all of the other ladies said if you dont feel comfortable with intercourse try something else. :) if you have any questions ask your doctor; trust me they've heard it before!! xoxo
stepheni775 - Tuesday, 17 Mar
You will be fine I have even heard it is good for the baby as long as you are making love and no having some hard core LoL. I think you should wait until you are comfortable and then do it even if it is for another few weeks then so be it. I just think that you need to love your husband and make sure he feels loved and not like you are pushing him to the side and showing him you love him don't always mean having sex. Either way you have a very good husband from the sounds of it and he will understand either which way you choose to go. Oh ya and congratulations on being in week 14 that is fabolous!
jennwill3 - Tuesday, 17 Mar
there are other things beside the "normal" sex stuff.. I will leave that up to your imagination - for when sex is a no- no.. This is number 4 for me.. and sex was always ok.. but with this last one I had a lot of bleeding and I would get worried, and kind of "not make the moment so great" so we had to look at other different things to do. It is really up to you, and what you feel comfortable with. ok.. if I was in your shoes... I more than likely would not.. only because of what you said about bleeding.. like you .. if I just had the normal "sex" spottting I would still be a basket case.. I would just have panic.. and then that would give me anxiety all the time.. But that is just me.. I just worry over that stuff, then I focus on it.. and can not let it go... But that is just me honey.. (who knows I could be nuts...lol...) just think about what you would do if you did spot.. would it be to much for you to handle.. worry wise.. if so.. then use the as an excuse to be creative in the bedroom.. there are plenty of things you can do for steve to "get him there" and he seems so wonderful I am sure he would understand...
dannii - Tuesday, 17 Mar
If you feel that worried im sure steve wll understand!! ur not gunna enjoy it if ur sooo worried you waited a long time for this im sure u will get ur sexi urges back in time an then there will be no stoping you! and woo woo hoooo week 14!!!! nearly half way there xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
PeapodMommy - Tuesday, 17 Mar
Since I've had 4 m/c's our dr. told us not to for our 1st trimester. It will probably shock you, but I felt strongly that it would be okay and I couldn't hold out any longer so we finally did have sex at 11 weeks. I was on top so I could really be in control of everything and we didn't start until I was really ready if you get what I mean. Anyway, I didn't have any bleeding or and cramping afterward. We haven't done it again since, but it felt nice to be intimate in that way after holding out for so long. Just do what is comfortable for you.
expecting-2b-patient (Cheryl) - Tuesday, 17 Mar
Oh, you're so cute!! I'm sure you'll be fine! DH and I have only had sex twice since we found out. Mostly because I am just not interested. I didn't bleed at all, but I did notice my cervix was a little sensitive when hit. I wouldn't let him lean on your belly, he'll just have to have the strenghth to stay up and off =) Just remember too, there are other ways to satisfy him w/out intercourse if your nervous. GOOD LUCK HUNNY!!
steph mom of 3 beauties x - Tuesday, 17 Mar
Hiya hun congrats on week 14!! Woohoo!
I know how you feel about wanting to give your man some loving i feel like that myself and want to do it myself and also for him so he don't think im neglecting him i know he doesn't think that really but its a tough one and it's down to the individual at the end of the day what we have done thus far is to do the business at least once or twice a week (i know it sounds like not much) But with me being so tired and protective of baby its reasonable, So what we did was from the beginning sorry if its abit TMI but i would never be underneath as it feels like there was too much weight on my tum, so we would and still do, Im on top and we go easy and gentle and do whateva's comfy to be honest and from that we both feel ok and happy with so it's up to you hun i would say don't let steve be on top if you can and don't go to fast or too deep lol! Oh well its served us well anyway and any discomfort just stop and relax, Some people do go through their pregnancy with absolutley no sex and thats up to them if it works then thats great but i think you should do what you feels right, I felt bad about just leaving Mo with none for 9months plus after nearly killing him off trying to get preggo in the first place and don't think its fair really its almost like i kinda got what i wanted and don't want he's loving no more and we all have to have some loving don't we hehe! To be honest he feels kinds weird now im getting bigger and he don't mind at all now if we don't do it until after baba comes because we have loads of cuddles and kisses and are forever telling each other that we love each other so thats enough for now hope that helps sweetie its really up to you all the best love steph xxxx
momto4littleangelsn1ontheway - Tuesday, 17 Mar
congrats on 14 weeks,i understand you're scared but you're going to be fine and the further you get the more you will want it,but if you're not comfortable talk to your doc,take care love and i'm very excited for you way to go 2nd trimester.
jambaby - Tuesday, 17 Mar
I didn't let dh touch me at all til I was 30 weeks lol I was to scared that if something did happen i would resent him, themc's made me a bit paranoid...I just pleased him and he was happy with that. Do what feels right to u!!! goodluck!
mandyd829 - Tuesday, 17 Mar
Hey i bled the 1st time too and a couple times after that. unfortunately for my hubby its just doesn't have the same effect for me and i don't enjoy it as much. but i try to pay attention to him in other ways if you get my drift. he doesn't care as long as its attention. but i understand your worry we freaked the first time too. just talk to him maybe he is just as scared. i'm sure you'll be fine. i am so glad you are at 14 weeks. its going buy so fast its crazy.
mommabell - Tuesday, 17 Mar
Congratulations!!
EricandCalebsMommy - Tuesday, 17 Mar
Firstly, congrats on 14 WEEKS! YAY! :) On the topic of "getting busy," hubby and I gave up sex altogether for my whole entire pregnancy ~ but I bled once a week for the first 21 weeks, so for me, there was no way I was taking a chance. On the other hand (and I really don't mean this in a bad or crass way ~ I hope it doesn't come across that way ~ and I'm not trying to be suggestive in any way), hubby and I did do other things ~ just no sex. If you are having a healthy pregnancy, you both agree that you want to do it, and the doc gives you a green light, go for it! :) It's totally up to you and your individual situation ~ I know it's a tough choice to make, though :)
KaeliandEricasMom - Tuesday, 17 Mar
congrats on week 14 !!!
Brandy1015 - Tuesday, 17 Mar
YAY 2nd trimester! It seems like the weeks are flying by with you. I can't wait to see the 20th week ulstrasound.
Did the specialist tell you to refrain from having sex? I have never been told that. I am just curious, if I do become pregnant do we need to hold off too? Take care, and have a lovely week..
Abigails Mommy - Tuesday, 17 Mar
Good morning Helen!! I'm so glad to see you're doing very well! Congrats on Week 14!!! A great milestone indeed :-)
I'd ask your specialist/doctor about sex. It wasn't painful for me and didn't do any harm but on the otherhand I hadn't had multiple m/c. But I hope you have an answer soon. I'm sure Steve will be a happy one *smile* HUGS
vicki--mommy of 4 - Tuesday, 17 Mar
I would ask the doc if he thinks it's ok for some loving. I understand why you're being so careful. As far as Steve leaning on your belly, if it's uncomfortable for you, don't let him do it, it means there's too much pressure. If it's not uncomfortable let him, I'm sure it makes hime feel closer to the baby. Take care hun. I'm so excited you're in the 2nd trimester!
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