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05-5-2009 - 21 Weeks Happy but HormonalMy mood while writing this blog:
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Hi ladies

21 weeks today - YIPPEE, that last week went so fast!

We've had a lovely weekend (mostly). Saturday we had a family barbeque with all of my family and Steve's parents, (a total of 14 of us) it was a really nice day apart from Steve's parents being there! His parents are such hard work, they are very ignorant argumentative people and I wish I hadn't invited them now. Everyone was talking about whether I was having a girl or boy and my mum and sister both said they thought I was having a boy because I was carrying quite high, my mum had 3 girls and carried really low with all 3 of us and my sister has had 2 girls and a boy and she carried low with the girls and high with the boy. Anyway, my mum said to Steve's mum how did you carry your 2 boys and she said "I don't know, I didn't take much notice", (OMG - how can you be pregnant twice for 9 months and not take any notice) then Steve's dad said "Maggie doesn't like babies" and all of my family just went quiet. What an awful thing to say in front of your daughter in law (me) who is carrying your first grandchild. After everything we've been through how can they come out with things like that? Later on my sister's partner asked Steve's mum what she wanted to be called when the baby arrived, granny, grandma, nana etc and she said "I'm too young to be a grandma, I'll be aunty Maggie!" The woman is 48, how can she be too young to be a grandma! Anyway, Steve didn't hear any of this so I told him later on that it had really upset me and he's going to have a word with his parents about it. If they carry on like this they will be lucky if I even let them see the baby. We usually get on ok but I am sick to death of their ignorance. My family are all hugs and kisses and always acknowledge everyone when they walk in, Steve's parents walk in my house and just sit down without speaking to anyone and when you go to their house it's the same story. I find it very hard to tolerate. All of my family are so supportive and are so excited about this baby which to me is completely normal and then we have Steve's parents that just moan and don't take any interest. I can't bear it. I feel sorry for Steve because he is the total opposite of them, it puts me in a difficult situation because I don't ever want to go and see them or spend time with them anymore but obviously Steve loves them and wants to see them so what do I do?

Anyway, apart from that our weekend was lovely. The decorator finished the nursery yesterday so last night we put the chest of drawers together and put the curtains and lamp shade up so it's all starting to come together. The carpet is coming tomorrow and Steve will put the rest of the furniture together over the next couple of days and then it will be done. I will post pics when it's all completed, it's looking soooo gorgeous already!

So I officially finish work on 13th August, only 100 days to go, not that I'm counting - ha ha. I am taking a full year off so with accrued holidays and things I won't be back at work until September 2010! Wow, I can't wait. It feels very strange to think that I won't work for a full year because I've worked for 16 years full time without a break but I am going to soooo enjoy being off!

Sorry it's a long blog!

Lastly, I just want to say to Leahsmummy I am so pleased that little Milo is ok. I was so upset about his accident. Lots of love coming his way from me, Steve, Jackaroo and baby Hudson, I hope he makes a really speed recovery. xxxx




17 Comments on 21 Weeks


ttcbby1 - Wednesday, 6 May
I'm sorry your in laws are like that- I totally know how you feel.. mine are a trip- they didn't even come to our wedding (or their daughters which was Saturday).. we don't speak much anymore.. and I'm sure if and when we have a baby things will be the same.. cheer up- at least Steve & your family are all there for you!! I can't wait to see the pictures of baby H's nursery!! Take care hun.. enjoy the remaining days of work :o)

JamieGarcia - Tuesday, 5 May
21 week belly pic! I want to see how baby Hudson is coming along ;)

drod - Tuesday, 5 May
Girl, your in-law story is so common, it's not funny. I am taking notes to make sure I will never be that way when I become a MIL.. Aunty Maggie? Oh please. My dear, you are too blessed to be stressed by people like those. I think your best bet is to give them "the cheerful and stupid reaction" It's much better than being smart and angry. Plus I think Aunty Maggie is screaming for attention from you that's why she says things that she knows would upset you. I think if you can't stand to visit then you can let Steve take little Hudson to visit most of the time. Every kid deserves the opportunity to be close to his or her grandparents. My maternal grand parents died when my mom was a kid and I did not even meet my paternal grandparents at all. I saw my grand mother for the first time at her funeral when I was 14. I wish I knew them and I am still working on forgiving my father for that. . I think if "Aunty Maggie" really didn't like kids she would have had her tubes tied after she had her first one. Plus Steve seems to be too nice of a person to be born from someone who did not like kids. Another thing, you make be surprised how a baby's smile can affect grandparents. I can't wait to see the baby's room. Please try and forget about your in-laws for the rest of the week. Happy thoughts please. :)

momto4littleangelsn1ontheway - Tuesday, 5 May
girl i know what you mean cuz i can't stand my mil she is very annoying and irresponsible and i don't even trust her with my kids,but i'm happy you still had a wonderful weekend,can't wait to see the nursery i bet it's going to be gorgeous,well that is great cuz you can get to bond with your little munchkin,congrats on 21 weeks and i can't wait to see your tummy.

stepheni775 - Tuesday, 5 May
You are not the only one who feels that way about the inlaws! Just try and put up with them I know its hard but you don't want 2 be ignorant like them so just be the better person....

jturner82 - Tuesday, 5 May
Wow, I can't believe that about your in-laws =/ I find it quite odd, honestly! My in-laws are dying as much as my parents for us to have a baby!

I am sorry they are that way, especially after all you and Steve have been through. They should be thankful you are finally giving them a grandchild.


MrsMommy2 - Tuesday, 5 May
Oh hun your in laws sound exactly like mine! When I had Wyatt we just had our parents down the first day because I had a c-section and I was in pain. We told our parents visiting hours were at noon my parents came down w/ us at 5am and waited in the waiting room the whole time his parents showed up at 1 saw wyatt for a total of 10 min. then left to go to work! Then we didn't see them again until he was 6 weeks old we live just as far from my parents as we do from his its about a 10min. drive! Anyhow my MIL was suppose to come by our house w/ my SIL's and my husband was waiting cause he took notice she had only saw Wyatt for 10min. the first day he was born. My SIL's arrived and my MIL wasn't w/ them DH asked where's mom and they said she's home crying you need to call her and let her watch Wyatt and I said wyatt is only 6wks old nobody other than us have watched him why didnt she come visit like my family has been doing? DH called his mom and she said she decided she wanted to clean her carpets! I was sooo mad! But then a few months later when we would go down there house I would say here wyatt go see granny (thats what my mom likes him to call her and my mom is A LOT younger than DH's) anyhow my MIL had my SIL tell me not to refer to her as granny or grandma it makes her feel old! And I said okay well no offense but she is old (she's 53) he's her grandson what is he suppose to call her? So anytime we have been there since and I have to refer to her to Wyatt I just say Wyatt, Denise is talking to you. She is the strangest woman she asked me to let her know well in advance when I was having Wyatt's 2nd birthday party and I called her when I booked the gym which was 2mths. in advance so she had plenty of time to take off work. But she decided not to and didn't come to his birthday party! Anyhow I could go on and on but I know exactly where you are coming from. We are waiting to tell our parents until we are closer to 12 weeks along, but honestly I am not looking forward to telling my inlaws at all..i'm not looking forward to the same experience we've had w/ wyatt..having a baby is suppose to be a happy time & w/ his family it just isn't. My family is complete opposite. Okay im done I just wanted to let you know I can def. relate! And I'm glad to hear you are moving right along in your preg. and don't let them get to you! BTW I guess boy for you as well I carried my son the same way! : )

ladylocks02 - Tuesday, 5 May
hunny i know how u feel its the same wiv me my family r sooo loving kisses wen greeted and good bye scotts family total opposite, my parents were soooooooooooooo excited wen i was pregnant it took his mum 4 days to see tilly then she stayed half hour. hey my only advice its yr family that matters and wen baby arrives its all about u steve and baby hudson sod the rest. cant wait to see pics xx

jen - Tuesday, 5 May
Good to hear that your doing so well and are so pleased with the nursery...can't wait to see all the pics you take of it!

As for your inlaws....I remember reading in a book my grandmother made for me that when I was born, she felt the same way, about being too young to be called grandma. Then she wrote as soon as she laid eyes on my twin sister and I, she thought grandma was the most beautiful name she would ever be called. Hopefully she will turn around and realize how wonderful it is to be a grandparent and realize how special all of you are!!


expecting-2b-patient (Cheryl) - Tuesday, 5 May
Oh, I can't wait to see the nursery!

rosye13 - Tuesday, 5 May
I have to say your problems with your in laws make my problems seem like nothing. We struggle with my husband's parents because they want to be around soooo much. Sometimes we feel like we are being stalked. lol. Seriously though, it's hard to get a day to ourselves. But I guess I'd take that over complete disinterest. And a year???? That's crazy. In America, you only get 8 weeks for a vaginal birth and 12 for a c-section. And it's unpaid unless you have short term disability insurance, and then you only get 60% pay.

andriette and christians mummy liz - Tuesday, 5 May
I get you on the in law story.Im so happy you are doing so good and a full year off,wow.In sa they only give you 3 months maternity leave and its unpaid.

X-LeahsMummy-X - Tuesday, 5 May
awww thank you for that :) e is indeed doing really great.
I dont have any advice reallyon your problem. but i can imgaine how annoyed and upset u must feel i have a very very annoying MIL ( well not technically a MIL) most the time i cannot stand her its for a different reason to yours but i still no what u mean. all i can think is maybe when baby is here she will hopefully se sence and not be so rude. and maybe u could nicely say to steve is it ok if you dont come over the next few times you go to visit them just to get a break, and maybe they will notice and chane how they act. im not sure but i hope it all gets better soon.
i cant wait to see your nursery :) i bet its lovely!!


EmmaReed84 - Tuesday, 5 May
Awww. It's sad how steves parents are, I know all to well how hurtful it can be. My mum and dad are no longer together, and my dad is with a fat horrid jo brand look-a-like and she HATES kids, she has one son but she is a cat lady (if i can call her a lady) anyway my dad is besotted with her and he doesnt care much for kids, but when my son was born he had a huge smile, after 3 months he was really horrible now I haven't spoken to them for 2 years and he has not seen his grandchild in that time, nor has he even set eyes on his new grandson. He doesnt even ask about them. Marks step dad is a wonderful man and all the grandad my kids need. You child will be loved so much that I am sure having two people who are not too bothered will even affect your baby in the slighest. Just smile and think to yourself "well thank god steve didnt turn out like you" I hope when the baby is born they change towards your him/her. x

TraceyL - Tuesday, 5 May
aww hunni i feel for you on the parents in law thing. my partner's mum hasn't seen my daughter since she was 5 (shes now 8) and she has never met my 5 1/2 month old son. in fact she has never even congratulated me on him. Your family sounds great and i am sure Baby Hudson will be plenty loved by you and steve plus your family xx

amynicole - Tuesday, 5 May
my mil was the same way when i got pregnant. she thought my hubby was to old to be having another kid(he has another one from another marriage) she was never nice to me when we told her(this was right after i known her for couple weeks)well i lost that baby, she wasnt even nice after that, she was still mean she had been saying we shouldnt have been pregnant. well a whole yr after that i got pregnant again, once again she was still mean bout it saying we shouldnt have one. well since i have had my son, she has changed a lil but i wont let her see my son that much because of how she acted.

on another note. congrats on making it to week 21.


nirvana - Tuesday, 5 May
Im actually quite disgusted with your MIL, with everything youve both been through,despite her personal thoughts she should at least make the effort to be considerate around you! Her first grandchild as well...how can she NOT be excited!! As for TOO young to be called Nanny etc, and saying i'll be auntie...what a thoughtless mean thing to say, doesnt she realise what a PRIVILEDGE it is to be called nanny or whatever??? Only 2 women in the world get to be that to your baby....she sounds very thoughtless and im sorry you have to tolerate her inconsiderate tongue!!
Inform her that you have a friend (me) thats mother is her exact same age and is thrilled to be a granny to 15 (15 when this ones born) grandchildren so far!!!! Yes 15 grandkids at 48! And my mum has 2 other kids that havent produced babies yet so could end up 20 odd lol!! That'll shut her up lmao. My mum loves being a younger granny cos she can keep up with them more and get more involved :) I feel for Steve cos its his mum but her behaviour isnt acceptable but hes caught in the middle bless him. How upsetting for you both :( At the end of the day Helen its HER loss if she chooses not to get involved to the max with this baby...she'll miss out on so much happiness, not your baby. You baby will be loved by so many it wont notice, but is still a shame for baby :( All i can really say is BIG HUGS , i feel for you and youre right to be upset i would be heartbroken.

On a nicer note, i cant wait to see your nursery!! It sounds like youre very organised, unlike me lol. Im sure it will be stunning and im glad youre having fun preparing everything for bubba!

And good for you having a full year off when baby arrives! Enjoy every second cos it will fly by in no time xxxx
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