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45 Comments on 2 Weeks Old
alijo - Friday, 2 Oct
I had to struggle with this decision too - but a healthy and sane mommy makes the best mommy. I felt so bad when I gave up bf, but my son is almost a year old, and is healthy and strong andhappy. As one of my friends told me - by the time they get to kindergarden, nobody can tell who was breast fed and who was formula fed. Keep being a great mommy and loving your little boy - that's what matters! xo!
melissabkr - Thursday, 1 Oct
babies turn out to be very good and healthy when they take formula,if it wouldn't be like that formula wouldn't be out for sale so nobody should say anything bad about not B/F, formula is just as good and even make things easier =) because other people can also feed the baby not only the mom and with the bottle you two can still bond,that's my opinion,you are doing very good !!!
eminsana - Wednesday, 30 Sep
it is NOT a big deal if you do not BF. You do what you feel is right, that is ALL that matters. You should never feel guilty for your decision. I felt guilty at first then I was like "wait a minute, what anyone else says doesnt matter, it is what is right for me and the baby". You are dong a great job at being a mom and that is all that matters!!! :-)
drod - Tuesday, 29 Sep
Hey girl, I feel your pain. I'm having a similar problem. Two days after leaving the hospital my baby's doc told me to put her on formula for a while because she had lost 10 ounces . My mild did not come in as yet plus she was falling asleep 2 seconds after I put her on the breast. Now she has gained back the giving her less formula. She is hopping mad about that. I'm keeping a close watch on her dirty diapers to see if she is starving. I see lots of milk but she has to work harder on the breast than on a bottle. I don't know how much longer I can manage. Do what is best for you and your prince. Good luck.
lisamarie8503 - Tuesday, 29 Sep
Hey hun its no big deal that you are no longer BFing. It is NOT for everyone, and it does NOT make you less of a mommy. I tried it for 1 day, and there was NO way I could do it...very uncomfortable and it wasnt a good feeling for me. Props to you for doing what is best!
Jelly27 - Tuesday, 29 Sep
Girl you got to do what is best for you and Joshua. Good try! I'm glad you are honest about how your breastfeeding experience went. I'm going to try and breastfeed my twins and if it works it works if it doesn't formula time!
*lilygracesmummy* - Tuesday, 29 Sep
Just wanted to say a massive well done for breastfeeding for 2 weeks. You have done amazing and given Joshua lots of lovely antibodies and you have had a lovely time to bond. I would suggets the best way to wean him off is to do it gradually or u will find yourself in a lot of pain with very full breasts and could end up with a blocked duct. I would suggest you mixed feed for a coupld of days gradually uping the amount of formula and reducing the about of breastmilk. If you need more advice pls talk to your midwife or health visitor- u need to have the support there and they should never be judging you for what u have or havent decided to do for your child- YOU are the parent YOU make the decisions! well done again and keep that in mind if anyone says anything! (btw if u find sometime down the line u want to talk abt bfing and what you could have tried differently pls dont hesitate to contact me or your midwife or h/v to talk about it) xxx
RainbowRach - Tuesday, 29 Sep
awww what a shame :( but at the end of the day babe, you have to do what is right for you and Joshua. Dont let anyone tell you otherwise!!! x x
discodivasara - Tuesday, 29 Sep
I totally agree with that - do what is best for Joshua and yourself! You have done a brilliant job for bf for 2 weeks, ur right some people dont even try but it's not for everyone. You will find it easier and easier hun!! x
liamsmommy - Tuesday, 29 Sep
You are a great mother and dont ever let anyone tell you different... Your decision has to be what is best for you and your baby and everyone is different! Now that you are dont Bf your hormones will simmer to and there should be alot less crying.. I did the same thing my first son wouldnt latch so I pumped for 6 weeks and I was so tired I gave up and then my second was in and out of the hospital so it was just to much.. A happy mommy with formula is better then a crying stressed Bf mommy anyday!! Cangrats on your little man he is beautiful and you are doing a wonderful job momma!
sarahann - Monday, 28 Sep
Congratulations on 2 weeks! Time does go by so quickly. I hope things get a little easier for you and Joshua is more settled now that you're switching to formula. There is no right or wrong way, only what's right for you. Best of luck!
*my angels* - Monday, 28 Sep
hun both my daughers where pretty much 1-2hourly feeders for the first 6weeks but it does get better babies are all different and some need more feeds then others he will be getting enough it just takes a while for them to settle down hes still so little. But on the other hand you are very important too a happy mummy = a happy baby, do whats best for you and you will both benifit. you are doing everything right hun i know its hard!! x
beckybear - Monday, 28 Sep
My sister tried BF my neice for 2 weeks also. Hannah fussed constantly and was never happy. They figured out that Hannah was not getting enough milk and as soon as they went to formula Hannah becamse a happy baby, which made for some very happy parents. You can only do so much. My sister's doctor told her she was actually deficient and didn't have the ducts or something to make enough milk. Don't feel bad about your decision and don't let anyone else make you feel bad. Hoping this helps make both of you happier.
mindygallo22 - Monday, 28 Sep
I also support you 100%!!!! I know it's hard. I'm only breastfeeding 3-4 times a day right now and doing formula most of the time. It's just easier. I understand where you are coming from about people giving you a hard time with stopping. I feel like I can't stop because people are going to judge me and I feel like I am not giving her the best even though I know It am. It's just that others comments make it hard to make my decision so with that, I decided that I will just breast feed her when I feel too full and she can still have the formula.
thenorthcutts - Monday, 28 Sep
dont let anyone put you down, like you said atleast you tried. formula is better for some people than others. carson is a happy healthy BRATTY six month old that has been formula fed since 1.5 weeks. :)
stephbmw - Monday, 28 Sep
Hiya hun you have my support 100% sweetie! But you will get over-engorged if you just stop completley and they will blow up get rock hard, Have blocked ducts and they will go sore hun, so express in a bottle for a couple of days but not at all at night as when you do it at nigh the milk stock for the day is produced, so at least until they are comfy and not rock solid and sore you will have to get the milk off hun, if they are sore go under the shower or in the bath under the water and massage the mild down and it should come out even into the water and they will soften up! I think like me you gave it your best shot and i am soo proud of you, you gave lil Joshua the best possible start! But after 3 days intially when mine went rock hard and sore i was in tears i couldn't cope then my midwife helped me and got me back to it but then i couldn't make it past 3 weeks and knew this like you at 2 weeks so the last few days i fazed it out gradually by only giving him one feed off the breast in the day or expressing and nothing at night and without any discomfort it dried up without the need for epsom salts (sp?) that i had to use with ellie as i was soooo sore from the milk not being let out all the best hun your doing great lots of love steph xxx
myangel - Monday, 28 Sep
I AGREE 100% with this blog......I am SO PROUD OF YOU FOR deciding to switch to formula! I GUARNTEE LIFE WILL BE MUCH HAPPIER NOW :) :).......Best of luck and P.S little man is sooooo handsome!
luckywhite - Monday, 28 Sep
sounds weird but no dont pump your boobs... you can stuff at the chemist called kest.. my mum swears but it for drying up breastmilk.. its a laxative tho - i never used it i cut down slowly on breastfeeding - its really painful just to stop..but if you do i think kest might be worth a try .. gross but worht a try
proud.mummy.of.3xxx - Monday, 28 Sep
You have given Joshua the best start hun and you are right some women dont even do that formula is fine I bf for the 1st 6weeks and I also found it so hard and Riley was on me so much I felt she was only off me for 10 mins at most so I understand were you are coming from hope you have a good day just mummy and son all my love hun xxx Leigh xxx
nirvana - Monday, 28 Sep
yOU DO WHATS RIGHT FOR YOU BOTH, WHATEVER THAT DECISION IS. yOUVE GIVEN HIM A FAB START :) IM GLAD YOURE COPING OK THE 2 OF YOU.BY THE TIME HES A MONTH OR SO OLD THINGS WILL HAVE SETTLED AND HE'LL GET INTO A ROUTINE AND LIFE WILL SEEM LESS HECTIC AND KNACKERING.YOUR LITTLE PIGLET IS SO BEAUTIFUL AND LOOKS VERY HAPPY AND CONTENTED SO YOURE DOING A BRILLIANT JOB MUM.HANG ON IN THERE, IT GETS LESS CRAZY XXXXXXX
tylersmommie08 - Monday, 28 Sep
I tried to breastfeed with my first one, he wouldnt take to the nipple. i pumped and most days i could pump out enough, but it got so tiring, i switched to formula and he has been fine. you tired and that was great.
babyl - Monday, 28 Sep
It is hard to do. You are doing great!
jen - Monday, 28 Sep
As I said, mommy knows best, and you knew this wasn't benefitting Joshua so your doing what's best for him. I applaud you for sticking it out this long, your right that some people don't even attempt it! I bet you and Joshua are going to be just smothered with kisses when daddy gets home!! You will probably be uncomfortable and leak for a while while you dry up. Best thing to do is wear a VERY supportive bra and mess with the boobies for a while. Even shower water can kinda hurt during this time, but it will ease up in a couple days, I promise!!
mandypoo - Monday, 28 Sep
Helen i congratulate you in doing it for two weeks, i never breast fed any of mine so well done you. dont ever feel bad, as you have said you need to be happy and content for joshua to be happy. people go on and on about breast is best but i can say that all of mine( 4 of them) are very bright happy children that have always slept through from around 3-4 wks and have all been fed on formula, so please dont worry about other people you no what is best for you and your child. lots of love to all of you xxx
wyattsmommy - Monday, 28 Sep
Hun don't feel bad about it a lot of friends of mine had the same problem w/ breastfeeding they just didn't produce enough milk & ended up switching to formula shortly after birth as well its pretty common. thats the one thing I don't like about breastfeeding is you never know for sure how much they are getting. I was never able to try w/ my first son due to health reasons on my half that I developed during the pregnancy he was on formula from birth and has grown up just fine has only ever been sick one time in his 2 years! A friend of mine who only breast feeds her little girl is sick constantly! So from my view I think formula is a very healthy option as well! Maybe your little guy hasn't been getting enough milk to fill him and will start getting on a better sleeping pattern for you now so you can get some rest..you'd never think somebody so tiny and helpless could be soooo tiring! Your doing a great job don't let anybody tell you differently! : )
expecting-2b-patient - Monday, 28 Sep
Girl you're fine and don't let anyone make you feel different... including yourself for that matter! I'm going into breastfeeding with the same attitude. I'm going to try it and give it a really good go, but if it isn't working for me or him I am not going to stress about it. You'll be better off home alone with less stress!
claire plus 4 - Monday, 28 Sep
Hi I hope you dont mind me leaving a comment for you. I stumbled across your page ages ago and have popped back a few times to see how you were getting on although Ive never left a message before. You are doing a wonderful job in your new role as mummy and you should be really proud that youve breastfed for 2 weeks. Its actually a big achievement. Formula is just as good for your son and if it helps you both then you should go for it. A happy mummy equals happy baby. Joshua is absolutely beautiful. Congrats xxx
bunches - Monday, 28 Sep
Well done you, you're doing great.
no2on the way - Monday, 28 Sep
see..your doing fine so far..bet by 5:30pm you'll be wondering what you were so worried about..lol..I was exhausted and crying for the first week or 2..I was pi**ed right off with the breastfeeding..but I carried on and got through the barrier..that was my decision..and thankfully it worked out great and I continued for a year and a half..some women make the choice it is too much and use formula..which is also fine..it is there choice..and whatever works for them at the end of the day,is good enough for them and there babies..don't worrie about it..2 weeks is the normal amout of time when a women decideds to either carry on struggling..or gives a bottle..lol..All of my friends so far have given the bottle at 2 weeks..(some don't make it to that stage..I guess i'm just stubborn..haha)..so you have done well and tryed your best..have a good week..xx
~babylove~ - Monday, 28 Sep
You don't have to justify yourself to anyone, you know what is best for you and your baby. Have you tried pumping to see how much milk you have? My friend did this and only pumped out 2oz! She was shocked as she was bf exclusively, her poo baby was starving. She switched to formula and her baby was much more settled and happy. I felt really guilty adding formula, one silly cow on here gave me such a hard time about it. It was either that or let my baby go hungry! Enjoy your walk x
vicki*n*apple - Monday, 28 Sep
Hey Helen- I support you 110% in fact, I am on the verge of doing strictly formula myself. I have been supplementing and Peyton always fairs better wuth formula. Good luck to you and your hansome little Joshua! xxx
mommabell - Monday, 28 Sep
I also felt badly when I decided to formula feed my Lily, but my ped. told me that I did give her a good start, and that made me feel better. I absolutely hate the pressure put on us women, as if we don't know our own bodies or our own babies. Especially since all of the pressure comes from other women, it's insane!! I hope the rest of your day goes swimmingly. I'm sure your DH is missing you both like crazy ;) xoxoxo
Heidi Boo - Monday, 28 Sep
That great - it sounds like the best solution so everyone is happy. Joshua will definately benefit from having a happy mummy and lots of milk! Like you say he's had two weeks of your milk, so he's had the best start. Hope you have a lovely walk in the sun - that's my favourite thing - apart from morning cuddles in bed - oh and his big grins - well everything is really lol! xxx
pinkmama - Monday, 28 Sep
i completely understand where youre coming from! i tried breast feeding my son and he would just scream and scream.. we had no idea what was wrong. my mom finally told me to just try a bottle and he ate it all up in about 2 seconds. my little man was so hungry- turns out.. my milk just had a really hard time coming in and he was pretty much starving to death. i felt horrible. he'll be 2 in december and he is the smartest little guy and has not been sick once... not ever. i had to listen to people tell me i was wrong and to stick with it... but how is starving my child better than feeding him with formula?? it made no sense to me. good luck to you helen! =o) ... ps... your little boy is ADORABLE! =o) xoxo Amber
priddy-mama - Monday, 28 Sep
From personal experience, I know how hard the decision is to not breastfeed and I wanted to tell you I'm proud of you for coming to the decision on your own and not letting other peoples thought sway you! I know this will be the best thing for you and Joshua because you won't be as stressed! Have a good day and enjoy that sunshine! :)
J9 - Monday, 28 Sep
Hey helen, i'm glad you have come to a decision you are comfortable with.. there is really no point stressing yourself or feeling guilty - the main thing is that joshua needs to thrive and you both need to be happy. if you are stressed out then that's no good for either of you so good for you! no one has any right to make anyone feel guilty in this game!! Hope you have a lovely walk - time really does fly by doesn't it!! try to enjoy every moment and when it's tough just tell yourself the hardtime (whatever it happens to be) will pass! x
christinesc - Monday, 28 Sep
Good for you for making the decision that ONLY YOU can make. Two weeks was about all I could b/f Grayson and guess what...she's as healthy as a horse and is smart and all those reasons they say breastfeeding is best. Oh and we bonded like crazy, too. So don't feel badly about it. You've done great!!
jojo - Monday, 28 Sep
Its hard going love and you've given him the best. B proud and enjoy yr lil man xxxxxxx
firsttimer - Monday, 28 Sep
Yayy Helen, you have had me so worried. I'm glad you have decided to go onto formula. Don't know about you but I wasn't breastfed, neither were my 3 sisters and 1 brother, and if you saw us now, you wouldn't be worried. You are absolutely right, two weeks is better than none, and you know you tried. Get some life back honey! Baby wants his mummy healthy and happy. I'm so relieved for you. I am going to try to breastfeed, but I won't kill myself doing it. Anytime spent breastfeeding is beneficial. My friend had the same experience as you, and she was crying down the phone to me one day, after yet another sleepless night. She felt such a failure and it made me so angry. I asked her if her bloody midwife was in the room with her at 2.00am! She said no, and I said then do what you want. Give that baby a bottle. She never looked back. I know we are really encouraged to breastfeed and in the ideal scenario it's a wonderful thing. But it doesn't work for everyone and you should move on from it without guilt. Hope today goes by quickly for you, and you enjoy getting out with that gorgeous baby boy of yours. Take care xx
kayp - Monday, 28 Sep
I agree with the other ladies...whatever works for you. I pumped gave PJ formula for 6 weeks and then he went straight to formula. They get all the good stuff from us in the beginning so you've given him the best start you could!! Enjoy your little piglet!
lilly10 - Monday, 28 Sep
Hi HelenWell done for your first day at home,your walk sounds lovely,if its wasn't raining here i would love to go out as well :)I'm pleased you have made a decision regarding breastfeeding,you are going to feel so much better now and so will Joshua with having a more happier mummy.Big hugs x
pol - Monday, 28 Sep
You have to do what is right for you both and it certainly sounds like you are making the right decsion for you. Like you say, if you are upset and unsettled that will just rub off onto Joshua and make both your lives a nightmare. I hope you have a lovely walk in the sun and that you both don't miss Steve too much todayx
dannii - Monday, 28 Sep
Hi, i was just going to ask you how the bf was going lol! you dnt have to explain anything you have to do what makes you happy good luch xxx
x-matildas-mummy-x - Monday, 28 Sep
Hey hun. dont feel bad about the breastfeeding atleast you gave it a go, and if you feel better in yourself using formula then go for it, i breast fed for only a week, but the whole time i was doing that i felt so down as all i ever worried about was, was she getting enough and it drains you, Good to hear from you. i remember the first day matt went back i was counting down the hours until he came home, but it gets easier hun. hope you enjoy your walk,. take care xx
honeymoon-baby - Monday, 28 Sep
Hope you have a good day out :oD I think it's so funny you call him piglet as that's what my hubby nicknamed our daughter when she was newborn. x Breastfeeding, for some weird reason, is so controversial. At the end of the day every mother has to do what they feel is best for them and their baby.
| 28-9-2009 - 2 Weeks Old |  My mood while writing this blog:Happy |
Hi ladies
Well it's my first day on my own with little Joshua (piglet) today, daddy has gone back to work and we are a bit sad but we're coping so far.
I can't believe my little man is 2 weeks old already, the time is flying by.
I have been breastfeeding for 2 weeks now and the time has come for me to stop, I have spent days going over and over this decision with other people and in my mind and I have decided after today I will be going on to formula. Joshua feeds from me constantly and he obviously isn't getting enough as he never settles even after an hours feed. This isn't fair to him or me. I have been stressed out and crying for over a week now and it's not doing either of us any good. I haven't made this decision lightly and I don't want anyone commenting telling me I should carry on the breastfeeding, I have given it my all and it isn't working so I have no choice.
We have had 2 lovely weeks of bonding whilst breastfeeding and I have enjoyed every single feed but if he isn't getting enough milk to settle him then I'm not going to carry on upsetting myself and him. I need to be happy to be able to look after him properly and if I'm exhausted and stressed out all the time then he will be upset and stressed out too.
Thank you for all of your advice and support with the breastfeeding, please don't anybody give me a hard about giving up, some people don't even try for a day so I have given him the best start possible by feeding him myself for 2 weeks.
My mum is coming round soon to watch him while I get showered and ready and then me, Joshua and Jack will be going for a nice long walk in the sunshine. Daddy will be home at 5:30pm, I know he'll have missed us both like crazy.
That's all for now.
Lots of love from Helen, Joshua and Jackaroo xxx
45 Comments on 2 Weeks Old
alijo - Friday, 2 Oct
I had to struggle with this decision too - but a healthy and sane mommy makes the best mommy. I felt so bad when I gave up bf, but my son is almost a year old, and is healthy and strong andhappy. As one of my friends told me - by the time they get to kindergarden, nobody can tell who was breast fed and who was formula fed. Keep being a great mommy and loving your little boy - that's what matters! xo!
melissabkr - Thursday, 1 Oct
babies turn out to be very good and healthy when they take formula,if it wouldn't be like that formula wouldn't be out for sale so nobody should say anything bad about not B/F, formula is just as good and even make things easier =) because other people can also feed the baby not only the mom and with the bottle you two can still bond,that's my opinion,you are doing very good !!!
eminsana - Wednesday, 30 Sep
it is NOT a big deal if you do not BF. You do what you feel is right, that is ALL that matters. You should never feel guilty for your decision. I felt guilty at first then I was like "wait a minute, what anyone else says doesnt matter, it is what is right for me and the baby". You are dong a great job at being a mom and that is all that matters!!! :-)
drod - Tuesday, 29 Sep
Hey girl, I feel your pain. I'm having a similar problem. Two days after leaving the hospital my baby's doc told me to put her on formula for a while because she had lost 10 ounces . My mild did not come in as yet plus she was falling asleep 2 seconds after I put her on the breast. Now she has gained back the giving her less formula. She is hopping mad about that. I'm keeping a close watch on her dirty diapers to see if she is starving. I see lots of milk but she has to work harder on the breast than on a bottle. I don't know how much longer I can manage. Do what is best for you and your prince. Good luck.
lisamarie8503 - Tuesday, 29 Sep
Hey hun its no big deal that you are no longer BFing. It is NOT for everyone, and it does NOT make you less of a mommy. I tried it for 1 day, and there was NO way I could do it...very uncomfortable and it wasnt a good feeling for me. Props to you for doing what is best!
Jelly27 - Tuesday, 29 Sep
Girl you got to do what is best for you and Joshua. Good try! I'm glad you are honest about how your breastfeeding experience went. I'm going to try and breastfeed my twins and if it works it works if it doesn't formula time!
*lilygracesmummy* - Tuesday, 29 Sep
Just wanted to say a massive well done for breastfeeding for 2 weeks. You have done amazing and given Joshua lots of lovely antibodies and you have had a lovely time to bond. I would suggets the best way to wean him off is to do it gradually or u will find yourself in a lot of pain with very full breasts and could end up with a blocked duct. I would suggest you mixed feed for a coupld of days gradually uping the amount of formula and reducing the about of breastmilk. If you need more advice pls talk to your midwife or health visitor- u need to have the support there and they should never be judging you for what u have or havent decided to do for your child- YOU are the parent YOU make the decisions! well done again and keep that in mind if anyone says anything! (btw if u find sometime down the line u want to talk abt bfing and what you could have tried differently pls dont hesitate to contact me or your midwife or h/v to talk about it) xxx
RainbowRach - Tuesday, 29 Sep
awww what a shame :( but at the end of the day babe, you have to do what is right for you and Joshua. Dont let anyone tell you otherwise!!! x x
discodivasara - Tuesday, 29 Sep
I totally agree with that - do what is best for Joshua and yourself! You have done a brilliant job for bf for 2 weeks, ur right some people dont even try but it's not for everyone. You will find it easier and easier hun!! x
liamsmommy - Tuesday, 29 Sep
You are a great mother and dont ever let anyone tell you different... Your decision has to be what is best for you and your baby and everyone is different! Now that you are dont Bf your hormones will simmer to and there should be alot less crying.. I did the same thing my first son wouldnt latch so I pumped for 6 weeks and I was so tired I gave up and then my second was in and out of the hospital so it was just to much.. A happy mommy with formula is better then a crying stressed Bf mommy anyday!! Cangrats on your little man he is beautiful and you are doing a wonderful job momma!
sarahann - Monday, 28 Sep
Congratulations on 2 weeks! Time does go by so quickly. I hope things get a little easier for you and Joshua is more settled now that you're switching to formula. There is no right or wrong way, only what's right for you. Best of luck!
*my angels* - Monday, 28 Sep
hun both my daughers where pretty much 1-2hourly feeders for the first 6weeks but it does get better babies are all different and some need more feeds then others he will be getting enough it just takes a while for them to settle down hes still so little. But on the other hand you are very important too a happy mummy = a happy baby, do whats best for you and you will both benifit. you are doing everything right hun i know its hard!! x
beckybear - Monday, 28 Sep
My sister tried BF my neice for 2 weeks also. Hannah fussed constantly and was never happy. They figured out that Hannah was not getting enough milk and as soon as they went to formula Hannah becamse a happy baby, which made for some very happy parents. You can only do so much. My sister's doctor told her she was actually deficient and didn't have the ducts or something to make enough milk. Don't feel bad about your decision and don't let anyone else make you feel bad. Hoping this helps make both of you happier.
mindygallo22 - Monday, 28 Sep
I also support you 100%!!!! I know it's hard. I'm only breastfeeding 3-4 times a day right now and doing formula most of the time. It's just easier. I understand where you are coming from about people giving you a hard time with stopping. I feel like I can't stop because people are going to judge me and I feel like I am not giving her the best even though I know It am. It's just that others comments make it hard to make my decision so with that, I decided that I will just breast feed her when I feel too full and she can still have the formula.
thenorthcutts - Monday, 28 Sep
dont let anyone put you down, like you said atleast you tried. formula is better for some people than others. carson is a happy healthy BRATTY six month old that has been formula fed since 1.5 weeks. :)
stephbmw - Monday, 28 Sep
Hiya hun you have my support 100% sweetie! But you will get over-engorged if you just stop completley and they will blow up get rock hard, Have blocked ducts and they will go sore hun, so express in a bottle for a couple of days but not at all at night as when you do it at nigh the milk stock for the day is produced, so at least until they are comfy and not rock solid and sore you will have to get the milk off hun, if they are sore go under the shower or in the bath under the water and massage the mild down and it should come out even into the water and they will soften up! I think like me you gave it your best shot and i am soo proud of you, you gave lil Joshua the best possible start! But after 3 days intially when mine went rock hard and sore i was in tears i couldn't cope then my midwife helped me and got me back to it but then i couldn't make it past 3 weeks and knew this like you at 2 weeks so the last few days i fazed it out gradually by only giving him one feed off the breast in the day or expressing and nothing at night and without any discomfort it dried up without the need for epsom salts (sp?) that i had to use with ellie as i was soooo sore from the milk not being let out all the best hun your doing great lots of love steph xxx
myangel - Monday, 28 Sep
I AGREE 100% with this blog......I am SO PROUD OF YOU FOR deciding to switch to formula! I GUARNTEE LIFE WILL BE MUCH HAPPIER NOW :) :).......Best of luck and P.S little man is sooooo handsome!
luckywhite - Monday, 28 Sep
sounds weird but no dont pump your boobs... you can stuff at the chemist called kest.. my mum swears but it for drying up breastmilk.. its a laxative tho - i never used it i cut down slowly on breastfeeding - its really painful just to stop..but if you do i think kest might be worth a try .. gross but worht a try
proud.mummy.of.3xxx - Monday, 28 Sep
You have given Joshua the best start hun and you are right some women dont even do that formula is fine I bf for the 1st 6weeks and I also found it so hard and Riley was on me so much I felt she was only off me for 10 mins at most so I understand were you are coming from hope you have a good day just mummy and son all my love hun xxx Leigh xxx
nirvana - Monday, 28 Sep
yOU DO WHATS RIGHT FOR YOU BOTH, WHATEVER THAT DECISION IS. yOUVE GIVEN HIM A FAB START :) IM GLAD YOURE COPING OK THE 2 OF YOU.BY THE TIME HES A MONTH OR SO OLD THINGS WILL HAVE SETTLED AND HE'LL GET INTO A ROUTINE AND LIFE WILL SEEM LESS HECTIC AND KNACKERING.YOUR LITTLE PIGLET IS SO BEAUTIFUL AND LOOKS VERY HAPPY AND CONTENTED SO YOURE DOING A BRILLIANT JOB MUM.HANG ON IN THERE, IT GETS LESS CRAZY XXXXXXX
tylersmommie08 - Monday, 28 Sep
I tried to breastfeed with my first one, he wouldnt take to the nipple. i pumped and most days i could pump out enough, but it got so tiring, i switched to formula and he has been fine. you tired and that was great.
babyl - Monday, 28 Sep
It is hard to do. You are doing great!
jen - Monday, 28 Sep
As I said, mommy knows best, and you knew this wasn't benefitting Joshua so your doing what's best for him. I applaud you for sticking it out this long, your right that some people don't even attempt it! I bet you and Joshua are going to be just smothered with kisses when daddy gets home!! You will probably be uncomfortable and leak for a while while you dry up. Best thing to do is wear a VERY supportive bra and mess with the boobies for a while. Even shower water can kinda hurt during this time, but it will ease up in a couple days, I promise!!
mandypoo - Monday, 28 Sep
Helen i congratulate you in doing it for two weeks, i never breast fed any of mine so well done you. dont ever feel bad, as you have said you need to be happy and content for joshua to be happy. people go on and on about breast is best but i can say that all of mine( 4 of them) are very bright happy children that have always slept through from around 3-4 wks and have all been fed on formula, so please dont worry about other people you no what is best for you and your child. lots of love to all of you xxx
wyattsmommy - Monday, 28 Sep
Hun don't feel bad about it a lot of friends of mine had the same problem w/ breastfeeding they just didn't produce enough milk & ended up switching to formula shortly after birth as well its pretty common. thats the one thing I don't like about breastfeeding is you never know for sure how much they are getting. I was never able to try w/ my first son due to health reasons on my half that I developed during the pregnancy he was on formula from birth and has grown up just fine has only ever been sick one time in his 2 years! A friend of mine who only breast feeds her little girl is sick constantly! So from my view I think formula is a very healthy option as well! Maybe your little guy hasn't been getting enough milk to fill him and will start getting on a better sleeping pattern for you now so you can get some rest..you'd never think somebody so tiny and helpless could be soooo tiring! Your doing a great job don't let anybody tell you differently! : )
expecting-2b-patient - Monday, 28 Sep
Girl you're fine and don't let anyone make you feel different... including yourself for that matter! I'm going into breastfeeding with the same attitude. I'm going to try it and give it a really good go, but if it isn't working for me or him I am not going to stress about it. You'll be better off home alone with less stress!
claire plus 4 - Monday, 28 Sep
Hi I hope you dont mind me leaving a comment for you. I stumbled across your page ages ago and have popped back a few times to see how you were getting on although Ive never left a message before. You are doing a wonderful job in your new role as mummy and you should be really proud that youve breastfed for 2 weeks. Its actually a big achievement. Formula is just as good for your son and if it helps you both then you should go for it. A happy mummy equals happy baby. Joshua is absolutely beautiful. Congrats xxx
bunches - Monday, 28 Sep
Well done you, you're doing great.
no2on the way - Monday, 28 Sep
see..your doing fine so far..bet by 5:30pm you'll be wondering what you were so worried about..lol..I was exhausted and crying for the first week or 2..I was pi**ed right off with the breastfeeding..but I carried on and got through the barrier..that was my decision..and thankfully it worked out great and I continued for a year and a half..some women make the choice it is too much and use formula..which is also fine..it is there choice..and whatever works for them at the end of the day,is good enough for them and there babies..don't worrie about it..2 weeks is the normal amout of time when a women decideds to either carry on struggling..or gives a bottle..lol..All of my friends so far have given the bottle at 2 weeks..(some don't make it to that stage..I guess i'm just stubborn..haha)..so you have done well and tryed your best..have a good week..xx
~babylove~ - Monday, 28 Sep
You don't have to justify yourself to anyone, you know what is best for you and your baby. Have you tried pumping to see how much milk you have? My friend did this and only pumped out 2oz! She was shocked as she was bf exclusively, her poo baby was starving. She switched to formula and her baby was much more settled and happy. I felt really guilty adding formula, one silly cow on here gave me such a hard time about it. It was either that or let my baby go hungry! Enjoy your walk x
vicki*n*apple - Monday, 28 Sep
Hey Helen- I support you 110% in fact, I am on the verge of doing strictly formula myself. I have been supplementing and Peyton always fairs better wuth formula. Good luck to you and your hansome little Joshua! xxx
mommabell - Monday, 28 Sep
I also felt badly when I decided to formula feed my Lily, but my ped. told me that I did give her a good start, and that made me feel better. I absolutely hate the pressure put on us women, as if we don't know our own bodies or our own babies. Especially since all of the pressure comes from other women, it's insane!! I hope the rest of your day goes swimmingly. I'm sure your DH is missing you both like crazy ;) xoxoxo
Heidi Boo - Monday, 28 Sep
That great - it sounds like the best solution so everyone is happy. Joshua will definately benefit from having a happy mummy and lots of milk! Like you say he's had two weeks of your milk, so he's had the best start. Hope you have a lovely walk in the sun - that's my favourite thing - apart from morning cuddles in bed - oh and his big grins - well everything is really lol! xxx
pinkmama - Monday, 28 Sep
i completely understand where youre coming from! i tried breast feeding my son and he would just scream and scream.. we had no idea what was wrong. my mom finally told me to just try a bottle and he ate it all up in about 2 seconds. my little man was so hungry- turns out.. my milk just had a really hard time coming in and he was pretty much starving to death. i felt horrible. he'll be 2 in december and he is the smartest little guy and has not been sick once... not ever. i had to listen to people tell me i was wrong and to stick with it... but how is starving my child better than feeding him with formula?? it made no sense to me. good luck to you helen! =o) ... ps... your little boy is ADORABLE! =o) xoxo Amber
priddy-mama - Monday, 28 Sep
From personal experience, I know how hard the decision is to not breastfeed and I wanted to tell you I'm proud of you for coming to the decision on your own and not letting other peoples thought sway you! I know this will be the best thing for you and Joshua because you won't be as stressed! Have a good day and enjoy that sunshine! :)
J9 - Monday, 28 Sep
Hey helen, i'm glad you have come to a decision you are comfortable with.. there is really no point stressing yourself or feeling guilty - the main thing is that joshua needs to thrive and you both need to be happy. if you are stressed out then that's no good for either of you so good for you! no one has any right to make anyone feel guilty in this game!! Hope you have a lovely walk - time really does fly by doesn't it!! try to enjoy every moment and when it's tough just tell yourself the hardtime (whatever it happens to be) will pass! x
christinesc - Monday, 28 Sep
Good for you for making the decision that ONLY YOU can make. Two weeks was about all I could b/f Grayson and guess what...she's as healthy as a horse and is smart and all those reasons they say breastfeeding is best. Oh and we bonded like crazy, too. So don't feel badly about it. You've done great!!
jojo - Monday, 28 Sep
Its hard going love and you've given him the best. B proud and enjoy yr lil man xxxxxxx
firsttimer - Monday, 28 Sep
Yayy Helen, you have had me so worried. I'm glad you have decided to go onto formula. Don't know about you but I wasn't breastfed, neither were my 3 sisters and 1 brother, and if you saw us now, you wouldn't be worried. You are absolutely right, two weeks is better than none, and you know you tried. Get some life back honey! Baby wants his mummy healthy and happy. I'm so relieved for you. I am going to try to breastfeed, but I won't kill myself doing it. Anytime spent breastfeeding is beneficial. My friend had the same experience as you, and she was crying down the phone to me one day, after yet another sleepless night. She felt such a failure and it made me so angry. I asked her if her bloody midwife was in the room with her at 2.00am! She said no, and I said then do what you want. Give that baby a bottle. She never looked back. I know we are really encouraged to breastfeed and in the ideal scenario it's a wonderful thing. But it doesn't work for everyone and you should move on from it without guilt. Hope today goes by quickly for you, and you enjoy getting out with that gorgeous baby boy of yours. Take care xx
kayp - Monday, 28 Sep
I agree with the other ladies...whatever works for you. I pumped gave PJ formula for 6 weeks and then he went straight to formula. They get all the good stuff from us in the beginning so you've given him the best start you could!! Enjoy your little piglet!
lilly10 - Monday, 28 Sep
Hi HelenWell done for your first day at home,your walk sounds lovely,if its wasn't raining here i would love to go out as well :)I'm pleased you have made a decision regarding breastfeeding,you are going to feel so much better now and so will Joshua with having a more happier mummy.Big hugs x
pol - Monday, 28 Sep
You have to do what is right for you both and it certainly sounds like you are making the right decsion for you. Like you say, if you are upset and unsettled that will just rub off onto Joshua and make both your lives a nightmare. I hope you have a lovely walk in the sun and that you both don't miss Steve too much todayx
dannii - Monday, 28 Sep
Hi, i was just going to ask you how the bf was going lol! you dnt have to explain anything you have to do what makes you happy good luch xxx
x-matildas-mummy-x - Monday, 28 Sep
Hey hun. dont feel bad about the breastfeeding atleast you gave it a go, and if you feel better in yourself using formula then go for it, i breast fed for only a week, but the whole time i was doing that i felt so down as all i ever worried about was, was she getting enough and it drains you, Good to hear from you. i remember the first day matt went back i was counting down the hours until he came home, but it gets easier hun. hope you enjoy your walk,. take care xx
honeymoon-baby - Monday, 28 Sep
Hope you have a good day out :oD I think it's so funny you call him piglet as that's what my hubby nicknamed our daughter when she was newborn. x Breastfeeding, for some weird reason, is so controversial. At the end of the day every mother has to do what they feel is best for them and their baby.
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