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| 03-12-2009 - 11 Weeks & 3 Days |
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Hi ladies
How are you all? I can't believe it's xmas in only 22 days, how fast has this year gone?
My little fella weighed 14lb 4oz when I had him weighed today, what a fatty! He is coming along so well, he's full of smiles and he talks all the time (ok he coo's and makes lots of cute noises ha ha).
He still sleeps between 10 and 12 hours every night and he's so good during the day, I have to constantly entertain him but we have so much fun.
After the question I sent about Joshua being too big for his moses basket somebody mentioned co-sleeping; can I just explain that I will never co-sleep as in this country it is a big no-no. I have once again had opinionated people sending me messages I didn't ask for telling me how I should co-sleep and keep my baby in my bed with me until they are 18 months old! OMG as if!
I also got a lecture on not breastfeeding even though I did it for 2 weeks and my poor boy was starving and losing weight. Why do some people go off on one like that? All I did was ask advice on what he should sleep in as in this country we are advised to have our babies in our rooms (not in our beds) with us until they are 6 months old.
Again, why do people get so bloody opinionated about things? I will do whatever I think is right for my baby just the same as every other mother does. I don't throw things down people's throats telling them they should be doing this and that so why do people do it to me? Grrrrr!
Anyway, I am still absolutely loving motherhood. I am spending my first night away from Joshua next weekend. He is staying with my parents over night while me and Steve have our first night out in a year. I am totally dreading being apart from him for a full night as I've never left him for more than an hour so far but I know he will be spoilt rotten and by the time I go out he will be fast asleep in bed so I am going to just TRY and relax and enjoy the night. People have already started taking bets on how long I will last before I go and pick him up!
Take care everyone xx
12 Comments on 11 Weeks & 3 DaysPocahontas -
Wednesday, 9 Dec LOL ..... I am sure you will manage one night away just fine. You and Steve will have a super evening together. Enjoy every minute *hug* - L utopianite -
Saturday, 5 Dec Hey! I didn't get a chance to comment on your last blog, but this is what I would use if your baby has outgrown the moses basket. The baby bed stays right beside your own bed, so you don't even have to get out of bed, and it doesn't take up much room. I'll post a link so that you can see what I'm talking about, even if you don't have this type of store where you are. http://www.walmart.com/catalog/product.do?product_id=10740643&findingMethod=rr drod -
Saturday, 5 Dec Co-sleeping is not advised in the US as well. You can roll over on the baby or he may be suffocated by the pillows and bedding. It also affects a couple's relationship. Just ignore those comments you don't care for. I'm happy for you. jen -
Friday, 4 Dec Helen, I just don't understand some of the people on here!!! How rude of them (you know who you are) to say things like they have! Everyone parents different ways, doesn't make them wrong or right. As long as Joshua and you and Steve are all happy and healthy, don't give two hoots about what some people have to say!! Hope your able to figure out what to do....and if I wasn't using my pack and play, I would totally send it to you as I think it is just awesome!! But there are so many good products out there right now, I'm sure you'll find something you love too!! Abigails Mommy -
Friday, 4 Dec aww bless hon.. You are correct YOU and ONLY YOU know what is right for YOUR baby. You can listen to what experts (and other not so intelligent people) say but you have to take it all with a grain of salt and do what is right for YOU. Hugs and I'm sorry others are giving you a hard time. I hope you enjoy your date night with hubby.. I had the hardest time letting Abs sleep away the first time! I was at the doorstep picking her up at 7am sharp! hehe Have fun!! derra1976 -
Thursday, 3 Dec Helen, don't let anyone make you feel guilty about how you parent your little one. And not every one has to breastfeed and sometimes when you a person tries it just doesn't work out. You are a great mom and will do what's best for you and your baby. And alot of all of this is just learning as you go. I have never been able to sleep in the same bed with my baby. I have napped on the couch or snuggled, but have never been able to sleep a full night with either of my boys. And I can't believe how RUDE that LoveLove person is to say the things she did to you. Chin up Helen...you are doing a great job...he is happy, healthy and growing like a little weed!!! xxxxx J9 -
Thursday, 3 Dec hi helen, glad to hear how well joshua is doing! he sounds like the model baby with his sleeping and weight gain! i remember all those coos, they are so adorable.. Sorry to hear you have felt as though some people were imposing their views on you.. it's tough when you ask a question and get a lot of different answers! I guess some people probably feel quite passionately about what they say, or maybe they're not that great at putting their points across - i know sometimes i'm in a real rush so my wording can be all muddled! I'd like to think people were just trying to share their views rather than try to push anything on you - of course any decision there is to make is totally yours and steve's to make as parents. Not to dwell on it, in terms of co-sleeping, i agree it's not for everyone and i've read that it's not advisable for those who aren't breastfeeding anyway. When maddy was born the midwives kept putting her in my bed in hospital and showed me how to feed her in my bed and that's where she stayed for about 5 weeks because she was so unsettled. I was very careful, took lots of precautions and hubby was in the spare room anyway so he could get some sleep to go to bed. It worked for us but i totally understand it's not for you.. besides to be honest i think if i were you with an 11 week old who already sleeps well on his own i think you'd be making a rod for your own back if you took him in your bed because it would then be a habit you'd need to break later. no point really! As for the breastfeeding, seriously don't let anyone make you feel guilty. joshua is a gorgeous thriving little man - that's all that counts! take care, janine jterrill08 -
Thursday, 3 Dec Hey Helen, I couldn't help but read your blog. I like to check in now and then and see how you and your sweet baby are doing. As far as co-sleeping goes, Its extremely dangerous in my opinion. I think every parent knows what is best for their baby but the risks of smothering your baby by co-sleeping is just too high for me personally. So I think you are doing the right thing. We had laya in her own room at around 3 weeks. It was hard for us to do but we had excellent monitors and I would check in on her every hour on the hour. DO WHATS BEST FOR YOU!!! You know what that is. Don't worry about what other people say or think. Of course, if you ask for advice or want opinions, your going to get them. But don't get disheartened or frustrated if someone tries to push their ideas on you. You know better and your strong enough to follow your own instincts. It sounds like you are a fantastic mom so just hang in there and if someone tries to judge you in anyway... just tell them to shove off!!! Merry Christmas to you and your beautiful family. I hope your date night is a wonderful one!!!! Janna the scroggins -
Thursday, 3 Dec do whatever is right to you. dont listen to anyone else. i was cosleeping with my daughter around 6months old because she was going thru teething and it comforting her having mommy holding her. but everyone is different. i guess it all depends on if u move a lot in your sleep. me and my huband are stiff sleepers. we never move lol. so we figured itd be okay to have our lovebug right inbetween us lol. good luck! lilly10 -
Thursday, 3 Dec Hi HelenPleased to here all is well.Joshua certainly sounds like he is cominga long FAB...what a chunky little monkey :)Wow you and Steve must really be looking forward to your night out at least you know with your mum looking aftre him he will be well looked after.You deserve a well earned night out with your man too !Yeah there seems to be LOADS of very oppiniated people around on this site!!! the ggod thing is you dont let it bother you..and at the end of the day you are Joshuas mum and you do what the bloomin hell you like...um,,sorry ! just gets me really mad when people have no right to bloudy comment really but hey what can we do.Have a great weekend Helen Hugs xxx thenorthcutts -
Thursday, 3 Dec Its okay to co sleep here in the US but I can't do it. Sometimes we'll snuggle up and take naps together or if he wakes up to early I'll put him in bed with me but I can't sleep a full night with him in bed with me. The first time he EVER slept in my bed he was atleast 6 months old because I was terrified I would roll over onto him. Don't let others put you down. Some ladies just have no life and get off on putting others down. BTW try getting a portable crib or pack n play. They are much smaller and should fit in your room or just invest in a monitor and put him in his own room. Its very hard to do at first but its worth it!! :) EloiseAndHarrys-Mummy! -
Thursday, 3 Dec hey helen. Im here in the uk aswell. I found all midwifes had different views and all the books did too, talk abotu confusing you. I co slept with my little one whilst breasfeeding (i was advised in the hospital to lie in my bed breastfeeding and fall asleep with her like that byt he midwives at the hospital) But your deffinately right its all down to you, your dicision, about how you feel comfortable doing things so its good to see your not taking everyones word for it and do not worry about the breastfeeding. Its not as easy emotionally and physically as they say it is and theres nothing wrong with formula. my nephew was on it from the start and hes barely been sick a day in his life hes now over 2. best of luck with whatever you decide. Oh btw have you thought about one of those small cribs we have one this time round as eloise didnt liekt he moses basket. its not as big as a cot. a second hand one will do for 15 thats what we got. xx