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02-12-2009 - WTF is Wrong with People?!

My mood while writing this blog: Annoyed

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I haven't told many people at work that I'm pregnant again. I'm having a hard time adjusting to the fact I'm pregnant so soon and I'm still in the m/s stage....not to mention I'm moody and don't feel like talking to many people. Anyway, my mom works at the same place I do. In the same office actually. We've had this set-up for 8 years and it actually works well. We are a VERY good team when it comes to work. LOL Anyway, she must have told someone today that I'm pregnant again. I don't mind that. What I did mind that totally pissed me off was his response. I still can't believe he said it! His comment to me was, "Congratulations......I guess" and then made a face. Not sure how to describe it? I know my hormones are going nuts right now but it really upset me! Why can't you just say congratulations and be done with it. Why do you have to make it sound like I'm 12 and have no clue what I'm doing? I've been with my finance for 8 years! He's not going anywhere and neither am I! In fact, I'm going to pick up my wedding dress Monday for our wedding in September. I may be an unwed mother NOW but I won't be for long.

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5 Comments on WTF is Wrong with People?!


vasectomybaby - Monday, 25 Jan
OOOOhhh!! I just HAVE to comment on this one.My husband had a vasectomy 6 years ago. We discovered we are expecting a 4th baby at 12 weeks, due in June '10.Naturally, we were very anxious in the beginning. This was- needless to say, completely unexpected. He hadn't seen his urologist since 3 mos after his surgery, but we figured we had the all clear, and that natural reversals are so rare that we could assume there was no risk.We had an ultrasound and began slowly announcing to friends and family. The very first response from a coworker to my husband? "Are you sure it's yours?"So in order to spare me the stigma and embarrassment of an act I did not commit, he decided, in the meantime before his appt, since it's no one's business, that we would say along w our announcement that he had already seen his doctor and confirmed a sperm count.Think that helped????MUCH to my painful dismay, and to my husband's, no, unfortunately, it has not.My brother and sister-in-law have repeatedly asked if we are going to have a paternity test! Asked ME no less!!!!!!!Now, why would I knowing full and well who the father of my baby is want a paternity test???? And two, if we've "seen" our dr and confirmed a sperm count, doesn't that sort of AUTOMATICALLY give me the benefit of the doubt??? Did anyone question their paternity with his full sperm count (my bil)???I KNOW it's rare and somewhat shocking, but, come on...even if we weren't telling ppl that, what the EFF kind of question is that anyway!?!??!?!?SO, yeah, as difficult as it was to accept this pregnancy, once we were ovecome with joy, it was spoiled, and continues to be. I had a neighbor tell me today that she hopes her husbands vas unravels too, and that she told her friend about us, and her friend said, "Is he sure it's his?"Yeah, I'm tired of people. You would not believe how many people have had the rudest most insensitive comments to make to us. I will NEVER forget the way I was treated when I was 19 and pregnant, like I was a skank who ruined my fiance's life, he had a bright future, or the way with my second, I was asked- the same exact question as a person above- "don't you know how that happens, ha ha ha" (yeah funny) and "haven't you ever heard of birth control?" meanwhile passing along congrats to daddy to be. Stopped going to church over that...Sick. Of. People. I have stopped going around anyone. I really can't take it. It is very hurtful. :(

katrina n - Monday, 14 Dec
I am almost 23 weeks and haven't told anyone but family this is probably my last pregnancy and I don't want anyones insensitive comments to take my joy away. I am sure that people can tell, but as long as they keep there mouths shut I am happy. Why do people always have stupid things to say to pregnant women??

hopingme - Thursday, 3 Dec
Dont let people get you down! He doesnt know anything about you or your life! And most of all, i doesnt have a say! I very happy your getting married, but I truly believe that everyone has to follow their own pattern or recipy! Just know that all that matters is you, your fiance and your babies!! Love L

louisec - Wednesday, 2 Dec
i got pregnant when my son was 12 weeks old, and im a nurse. some people have said "but your a nurse" and i say yes but im not a f=2;.ng gynaecologist!! what's it got to do with them, im not asking for them to pay for their upkeep. some people just love to dictate what they think should happen in other people's lives. i just ignore these imbeciles .it also is not peoples business whether you are married or not. having children together is more commitment than anything else. good luck

mommy-to-Noah-and-Runa - Wednesday, 2 Dec
I got pregnant when my son was 9 months old. Overall people at work were really happy because most knew we planned it that way. But one person said to me "you are pregnant again??? Don't you know what causes that?" I just replied "no what causes that?" about at sarcastically as I could. Some people are just morons and I just tell myself that they are a test of patience and patience is a virture. LOL. Good luck with your pregnancy and CONGRATS!