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Hey Guys,
So TTC is a time to show team effort right!!........but my case is different...
A few weeks ago my dear husband had spoken to an astrologer.....(supposedly a great one)....about our lives. Well, I completely understand coz things have been a lil bad lately. So this astrologer said well things are not right. My calculations show that you guys are not doing well health wise.....but I predict that everything would be absolutely fine by November.....
So last night my DH tells me.... about baby plans....lets postpone it till NOVEMBER!!! I was like freaked out ....I told him that you shouldn't take that astrologer so seriously....and well we have been trying but nothing happened till now....so what makes you so sure that anything will happen by November!
Anyways I think I am obsessing too much about TTC...but this just pushed my buttons.....I am completely annoyed......I will try and take my mind off it and try doing something else for a while I guess....but has anyone had problems with DH not cooperating??!!
2 Comments on DH not helping
tassy - Wednesday, 30 Jul
Ohh Shaleen, i can imagine the frustration. But i guess all this needs is a little bit of talking between you and your hubby. Sit down and tell him how important having a baby is for you rite now. Also try and make him understand, that afterall babies are gift from god, and we should let god decide when he wants to bless us. We just need to do the deed and wait for god to give us our rewards. Astrology and predictions are just make believe things to keep the human mind occupied in a fantasy world... i really hope and pray that your issues get solved soon..Good luck to you lady, and do write in...
number5forme - Tuesday, 29 Jul
I'm with you there Babe, too right it is a team effort! Well actually, when you think about it, you cant do it alone, know what I mean?!!! Sorry, but people who listen to psychics and such drive me crazy - you can create 'happenings' from predictions just because it is an easy thing to do. For example; I have a friend who was 'predicted ' that she would be travelling overseas soon so guess what she did? She booked an overseas trip and then said "See, it came true!" Baloney!!!!!
I just finished a conversation with my Hubby seconds ago, I told him that this pregnancy was IMPERATIVE that it go right as somehow - right or wrong - it was going to make what happen to Jessie OK. You see, when we are holding our new baby in our arms or watching him/her walk for the first time or see him/her smile, we will say "We wouldnt have had THAT if we hadnt have lost Jessie. Saying it out loud actually made it sound 'mean' (to Jessie) but I KNOW that having another child is the ONLY thing that is going to make me HEAL (as much as I can expect anyway). I am sure that this is hard for you and probably makng you cry. I am sorry, I dont want to do that.
Somehow you need to make your Hubby see what this means to you (and therefore the BOTH of you) and I will say too that maybe he is just scared (which of course is understandable). I know even now, as positive as he is (and forcing me to be!) my Hubby is also VERY scared. He may just be trying to cling to some 'guarantees' that he wont be hurt again by the loss of a baby??? Talk to him. Reassure him. I do believe that we are the stronger sex - emotionally anyway!!!! Men are really just boys with big toys!!!
Good luck and be kind to eachother - we all mourn and heal in different ways.
Bucket of BAby Dust to you!!!!!!! **********
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| 28-7-2008 - DH not helping |  My mood while writing this blog:Bugged |
Hey Guys,
So TTC is a time to show team effort right!!........but my case is different...
A few weeks ago my dear husband had spoken to an astrologer.....(supposedly a great one)....about our lives. Well, I completely understand coz things have been a lil bad lately. So this astrologer said well things are not right. My calculations show that you guys are not doing well health wise.....but I predict that everything would be absolutely fine by November.....
So last night my DH tells me.... about baby plans....lets postpone it till NOVEMBER!!! I was like freaked out ....I told him that you shouldn't take that astrologer so seriously....and well we have been trying but nothing happened till now....so what makes you so sure that anything will happen by November!
Anyways I think I am obsessing too much about TTC...but this just pushed my buttons.....I am completely annoyed......I will try and take my mind off it and try doing something else for a while I guess....but has anyone had problems with DH not cooperating??!!
2 Comments on DH not helping
tassy - Wednesday, 30 Jul
Ohh Shaleen, i can imagine the frustration. But i guess all this needs is a little bit of talking between you and your hubby. Sit down and tell him how important having a baby is for you rite now. Also try and make him understand, that afterall babies are gift from god, and we should let god decide when he wants to bless us. We just need to do the deed and wait for god to give us our rewards. Astrology and predictions are just make believe things to keep the human mind occupied in a fantasy world... i really hope and pray that your issues get solved soon..Good luck to you lady, and do write in...
number5forme - Tuesday, 29 Jul
I'm with you there Babe, too right it is a team effort! Well actually, when you think about it, you cant do it alone, know what I mean?!!! Sorry, but people who listen to psychics and such drive me crazy - you can create 'happenings' from predictions just because it is an easy thing to do. For example; I have a friend who was 'predicted ' that she would be travelling overseas soon so guess what she did? She booked an overseas trip and then said "See, it came true!" Baloney!!!!!
I just finished a conversation with my Hubby seconds ago, I told him that this pregnancy was IMPERATIVE that it go right as somehow - right or wrong - it was going to make what happen to Jessie OK. You see, when we are holding our new baby in our arms or watching him/her walk for the first time or see him/her smile, we will say "We wouldnt have had THAT if we hadnt have lost Jessie. Saying it out loud actually made it sound 'mean' (to Jessie) but I KNOW that having another child is the ONLY thing that is going to make me HEAL (as much as I can expect anyway). I am sure that this is hard for you and probably makng you cry. I am sorry, I dont want to do that.
Somehow you need to make your Hubby see what this means to you (and therefore the BOTH of you) and I will say too that maybe he is just scared (which of course is understandable). I know even now, as positive as he is (and forcing me to be!) my Hubby is also VERY scared. He may just be trying to cling to some 'guarantees' that he wont be hurt again by the loss of a baby??? Talk to him. Reassure him. I do believe that we are the stronger sex - emotionally anyway!!!! Men are really just boys with big toys!!!
Good luck and be kind to eachother - we all mourn and heal in different ways.
Bucket of BAby Dust to you!!!!!!! **********
**********
**********
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