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21-11-2008 - what did i do wrong?

My mood while writing this blog: Ok

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as many of you know .. colby leaves for rehab on Tuesday Nov. 24, 2008. well this morning him & his lovely family showed up at my condo to take EVERYTHING from their grandson. they had bought his crib & bedding & pretty much ALL of his clothes..well they took all of that back..i have nothing. i have 4 outfits..a diaper bag..and a playpen/bassinet my mom bought me. i am really hurt by this because that does not affect me you know? that affects OUR son! none of that stuff was bought for me it was given to me for OUR son & now it is all being taken away 2 months before he will be here? we had braxtons entire room FINISHED completely..bedding..crib..armoire..it was winnie the pooh themed..of course they bought me all of this & marked it off of my registry..and now..with my shower being TOMORROW..they took it all back..so i will get NO bedding from anyone because that was "already bought" & then taken back one day before my shower. i am left with nothing..& my family does not have the money to buy brax what he needs..as they should not because its my responsibility..but i mean my mom was JUST diagnosed with cancer this year..she had her matsectomy and she just received the results that the cancer DID infact spread..she will need to have chemo so that she can have a better chance of survival. ANYWAYS..i am really just lost & confused right now..its not like me & his family have gotten in an argument or anything..me & colby havent even fought..so why are they trying to punish braxton? they know i can't afford anything..& neither can my family..& why would you give brax allll of this stuff if you are going to simply take it away from me before he is even HERE! so..here i am..about to move out of my condo..in with my aunt..i have about 4 items of clothing..not even one blanket..and a diaper bag. & my son will be here in two months. i feel so worthless. i wish i could give him to a better family, but emotionally i would break. i am just fucking heartbroken.. im in this all alone & each day that passes..something even worse comes into my life..i mean shit..braxtons dad wont be here for a long ass time..the least they could do was give me his fuckin clothes. i have NOT A THING now! i am fucking crying so hard & i am AT WORK i do not need this extra stress..

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24 Comments on what did i do wrong?


brittlovesmatt - Sunday, 23 Nov
Hey ,im brittany. I don't know what your plan is in deciding to breastfeed or not but i would... im breastfeeding and substituting w/ formula and just with substituting its a fortune! Try breastfeeding...you might actually like it better to and it saves you ALOT of $$$! Plus your milk is EXACTLLY what the baby needs with all the vitamans and nutriants (i don't know haw many words i spelled wrong but i suck at spelling) Good Luck :0)

BLESSEDBYTHELORD - Saturday, 22 Nov
SORRY IM JUST READIN UR BLOG BUT I BELIEVE GOD WILL TAKE CARE OF EVERYTHIN!HES R PROVIDER& HE WORKS N MYSTERIOUS WAYS! 1 WAY R ANOTHER U'LL HAVE EVERYTHIN 4 BRAXTON!...PRAY KEEP UR FAITH THRU THESE STORMS&KNOW THAT GODS W U...PRAYER IS VERY POWERFUL& EVERYTHIN WILL B OK...I KNOW SUMTIMES U FEEL ALONE BUT UR NOT GOD W U...LET GOD DEAL W THE GRANDPARENTS!4GIVE THEM& TRUST&HAVE FAITH THAT U WILL HAVE ALL THE THINGS U NEED 4 HIM!GOD IS A GOD OF MIRACLES! THE LORD IS GOOD&HIS MERCY ENDURES 4EVER!...I'LL B PRAYIN 4 U&JUST KNOW THAT JESUS HOLDS EVERY TEAR N HIS HANDS UR PRECIOUS 2 HIM&HE LOVES U... STAY STRONG...

MAMAjo ♥ - Saturday, 22 Nov
oh my god. i am so sorry im late in reading this... just logged on.... i want to cry right now. i am so angry.... i swear. how could they do that to you? or your son? THEIR grandchild! they are going to regreat this so bad when he's here... and once he knows who his grandparents REALLY are (REALLY MEAN!) he's not gonna want anything to do with them. and its gonna be too late for them to be a part of his life. GRRRRR!!! dont worry... im broke too.... but somehow i always manage to get my sons diapers and whatever else he needs. ull manage. i promise.

aloha.ma - Saturday, 22 Nov
I cant believe that. That is crazy! I am so sorry that they're asses! Regardless of how they feel about you oor the two of you together, that stuff was for a baby!!! Jerks! I hope you have a great shower...and try to look on the positive side, Braxton will be here soon and holding him will make you forget everything...

RikkiAnn - Saturday, 22 Nov
It may seem hard now, but God always has a plan. Things always work out in the end. Just try to have a little positive energy. Like the one girl said, just focus on the little things that your son will need right away. Other things just make baby life easy. All you need is clothes, bottles, blankets, diapers, and wipes, and a car seat. Everything else you can get when you can afford it. Trust me, I have been thru a lot in life and I'm on my third, things always work out in the end. Good luck with everything!

DOLLBUNNY - Saturday, 22 Nov
so they get at you by taking everything back from your son!!?? Are they not thinking

montanamamaof3 - Saturday, 22 Nov
Did you say anything to them when they were taking it or did they do it when you weren't there? I agree with the others who say it was illegal for them to take anything out of your house. But if you are too stressed to make a complaint with the police, I totally understand. I don't understand people. What do they not think Braxton is their grandson anymore if their son doesn't live there. What did you BF say about it?

audreyy09 - Saturday, 22 Nov
i agree with Baby1onitsway but that is absolutely ridiculous && unfair to you and your son i cant believe they would do that..did they even give a reason??

baby-momma09 - Saturday, 22 Nov
you should have called the police. they cant take it back. you can even take them to court bc that stuff was given as a gift and cant be taken back. thats bullshit. you should really try to find a attorney that helps low income people and get your sons stuff back. be strong. things will get better.

youngmommy2b - Saturday, 22 Nov
thats so rude....but ull b fine thats just the way u have to think.....i mean look at me im 35 weeks and just about to go get her nursery and the rest of her little nesscitys like diapers tommrow....and i still dnt have like loads of clothes 4 her..i mean i have enough that she would b fine but she needs more outfits so my god sister has a ton of baby grl clothes that she never used with her daughter.....things will work out trust me...i mean b4 now me and my mother didnt kno what on earth we were going to do but luckly she got a full time permanent job paying god money to live off of.....ull b in my prayers :)


bebe1989 - Saturday, 22 Nov
awww, i can't believe they did that! what's wrong with them? that's there grandson. i'm so sorry

camilab - Friday, 21 Nov
I really dont know what to say!! but u defenetly need support and maybe comments that will make you feel better! I hope that you get all solved out! i really wish i could help!! be calm.. dont stress any more!! really just f** themm!!

LuvinBrayden - Friday, 21 Nov
what your probly going to have to do for the time being is take all the little things you getat your shower that you dont need (you will need blankets and bottles and that sort of stuff
) but all the things you wont necessarily NEED you should take back and get credit for it all and buy what you do need...you wont need a crib for like the first 3 months...he can sleep in his bassinet you have....so dont freak about a crib right now....a dresser, you dont NEED it...you need to concentrate on the things you will for sure need,....clothes, bottles, blakets, diapers, wipes, and stuff like that, dont freak out about not having a big full nirsery because he is not ever going to know the difference!! all he knows is YOU....like i said he doesnt need all that big expensive stuff right now, he just needs the main essentials!! and save some money while your living with your aunt and go to like garage sales and good will and stuff like that and slowly look for a used crib and dresser and stuff...dont freak!!! it will be ok i promise!!! for now your gonna have to stay calm, put the fact that their all being fucking assholes aside and worry about you and your child! obviously they dont give a shit other wise they wouldnt have done that KNOWING you dont have the money to replace those things!! so just breathe, see what all you get at your shower, keep the things you absolutely need, take back and get credit for the things you dont need, and use the credit to buy what you DO need....and then these next few months and even after hes born, you can look for things you need like crib and stuff....the main thing is just dont freak!!!! i swear it will be OK!!! take my advise PLEASE!!!

preggiebelly - Friday, 21 Nov
I don't even know what to say. It's illegal for them to do that first of all. Those were gifts. You can't just step into someones house and take gifts back.... it's considered stealing.
And why would they do that to your son?
I wish I had some advice but I've never heard of such a hateful act towards a woman just 2 months away from giving birth. I'm so sorry.

brittni - Friday, 21 Nov
woow they sound like assholes. I'm sorry they did that, hopefully you'll get some nice stuff at your shower. I have a little girl but I do have some clothes and things that are pretty neutral. If you want I can send some. Good luck with everything!

marinewife8412 - Friday, 21 Nov
I'm so sorry to hear what happened to you so close to that beautiful little boy being born!!! The girls had great ideas by suggesting craigslist. I have bought so much stuff for my daughter on there for next to nothing! It's a good idea. You can even find a crib and bedding on there as well. The only thing you can be greatful for is that they did this now before Braxton was born. Now you just saw their true colors shining through and know now before the baby comes that they aren't the people you want in you or your sons life. I have some things in my basement from my son that can probably get you started like some sleepers and blankets. Let me know if you would like them!

MommaDel - Friday, 21 Nov
They took it...probably thinking that they will set it up at their house and let him use it there or use it when they are visiting with him. I would show them and I would NEVER let my son visit with those insane people. Who gives a gift then takes it back? That's just beyond rude and just downright shitty. You should seriously consider not letting them see your baby because they chose to act like fuckfaces.

reagansmom - Friday, 21 Nov
Not trying to be insensitive but maybe your better off that this happened people that can come and take things from Brax like that don't deserve to be in yours or Braxton life. Just remember there is always a reason why some people in your past didn't make it to your future. Hope everything works out. I will say a prayer for you mother. Good luck

BABYLOZONNE - Friday, 21 Nov
oh gees, girl im so sorry. i wish i had something to give you but i dont. maybe look on craiglist to find some things that you really need right when the baby is born. just a thought....xxx

mae - Friday, 21 Nov
Wow. thats pretty messed up of his family. I'm so sorry that you have to deal with this. I'm sure everything will work out for you in the end. Just stay strong.

mommyjojopethel - Friday, 21 Nov
Just goes to show what rotten selfish people they are babe...

mommyjojopethel - Friday, 21 Nov
What the F? Why would they do that ? I dont get it.. I can send you some stuff baby girl..

preggieagain - Friday, 21 Nov
wow i am so sorry! i know this is not what you want to hear, but everything happens for a reason. colbys parents just showed their true colors cause you are right, that is all hurting brax. keep your head up girl! you don't want someone to be apart of your baby's life that doesn't want to be there anyway....

Julianna - Friday, 21 Nov
Those items were gifts, were they not? How come you let them in? I would not have let them in. Try going out to Craigs List & see ifyou can find items for free. Did you ask them what they were doing? Did you ask them why? That is just NUTS!! I am really sorry this happened. It is plain to see where his instability comes from. Why would anyone do that to a child??