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25 Comments on I Can't Believe Some People
jennlb30 - Monday, 4 May
Some people just don't know when to keep their mouths shut. Having a MC is not an easy thing to go through. You know, I had a MC back in April and we wanted a little girl, but when I passed the fetus, I realized it was a boy and it broke my heart to know that we wanted a girl and it turns out, it was a little boy. I thought maybe the baby felt rejected. I was told to never think such a thing...and she has no business making you feel guilty about it either. But here I am, I have a healthy baby boy...and I wouldn't trade him for anything!
Love*Made*Us - Monday, 4 May
Some people are really unbelievable. I am sorry about that.
Ruchira - Monday, 4 May
Some things are meant to be ignored...especially some comments.No one can be a btr judge than you yourself about your baby!! Deciding to become a mother, i feel is the most noble thing and no one can comment on that. Im sure your darling girl was such a swthrt that Jesus missed her too badly and took her back before you could have her in your life:) so never get bogged down by such comments. God Bless!
oopsy4 - Saturday, 2 May
That is a terrible thing to say to someone. And I'm so sorry for your past rapes. How awful!
Did you tell her that she hurt you with her comments? Some people just don't have a clue.
I hope that you will be okay.
rooey - Friday, 1 May
Aww honey, I am sorry she was so mean to you. You really did not deserve any of that. Unsensitive B*t*h. We have a silly saying at work, which makes us all laugh, when something has been done out of line, probably a bit over the top, but if I was there with you 'I would go smash her s**t up for you!!!!! lol! No one talks to you like that, and gets away with it ;o) Chin Up poppet, BIG HUGS xxx
chilliebites - Friday, 1 May
How un-sensitive!! Some people just dont have any tact and are just down-right rude.
Congratulations on your little boy. Don't take any notice to stupid comments like that & keep your chin up.
All the best.
one day - Thursday, 30 Apr
First of all I would LOVE to just have 3 boys!!! I'm shocked that you didn't just curse her out! LOL... people just don't get it and they obviously don't have any sensors on their F*&@ing mouths! sorry I'm a little sensitive too! As long as you know that is not what happened that's alllll that matters! I don't blame you one bit for being scared of having a girl! I always said I wanted boys to! But in the end ... just like you said you just want ALL of your babies to be healthy! =0)
ExpectingAThirdMiracle - Thursday, 30 Apr
No way . Really there are some people who need to know when to shut up. I would have been very upset, she had absolutely no right to say something like that . Nobody wants to lose their child , I've had 2 m/c myself and it is not easy. My cousin was preg too at the same time so when she had her baby shower and had the baby it killed me b/c It was supp to be me too. Apparently this woman has not gone through that or have much orca heart . There are just some things you NEVER say to a woman who has suffered a m/c in the past. I know it's upsetting but just know that was wrong and I understand where you are coming from, there is nothing wrong with how you felt about having all boys. !
momagainaft16years - Thursday, 30 Apr
Some people have no filters and it sounds like she is one of them. I too, had 2 miscarriages this past year and my husband's ex-father-in-law told me that "it was for the best." What??!! Are you kidding me?? I went off on him big time! I cannot believe that people would think a m/c is any different than if a grown person close to us had died. Would they say these things at an actual funeral??!! Duh! Just know that God took your angel as only He knows why. God give us exactly what we can handle and I choose to believe that my two pregnancies weren't "made right" and that God knew I wouldn't be able to care for a special needs child. He knows me better than anyone. so, you keep your precious memories and don't let anyone get you down. Don't feel guilty about standing up for yourself either. When she says things like that, just tell her,"You know, when you say that, it hurts my feelings and I don't know why you'd want to do that." It will put her in her place. Good luck hun and HUGS!
troxell9-09 - Thursday, 30 Apr
There is something wrong with people like that-judging everyone. I know they will all be judged, and more harshly, someday. Anyway, I am happy and excited for you that everything is going well with your 3rd baby boy. Keep what's important in mind and don't worry about ignorant people. And I hope she's off your Christmas Card list.
Angel-baby - Thursday, 30 Apr
The nerve of some people. It amazes me how rude and inconsiderate people can be. Congrats on your little boy and know that it doesn't matter what other people say.
flowergirl0778 - Thursday, 30 Apr
What a disgusting thing to say!!
Anyway, congrats to you on your baby, dont let people like that get you down...it is so not true what she is saying!!!
Lookalike - Thursday, 30 Apr
Sounds like something my grandmother would say. Some people are just cruel and kind of stupid, too. And they always think they're right even though they're only a few brain cells smarter than a lima bean.
Texas gal - Thursday, 30 Apr
I'm sorry she was so mean and hurtful to you. Don't listen to her. She doesn't know what she is talking about. God makes our plans for us. Your fear of having a girl did not make you have a mis carriage. I am hoping that she will feel terrible for what she said to you. As long as you and your hubby are happy, that is ALL that matters. hugs.
soon2bemamaof4 - Thursday, 30 Apr
Ewww! People like that make me so angry too! My BF and I were just talking yesterday about how after she had breast cancer and only got a mastectomy on one side....a "friend" of hers was insisting that she was going to get cancer in her other breast because she didn't have both of them done. Nice, huh? That just reminded me of the comment that this woman made to you. Completely untrue and totally uncalled for!! I am so sorry she said that to you. Try not to let it upset you too much.
minkymoo78 - Thursday, 30 Apr
Gosh that woman seriously needs help. You don't lose babies because you are scared of what sex they're going to be! She needs her head testing. I lost 3 babies before this one, does that mean I did that to myself? Oh what a horrible woman. I don't know how you kept your hands to yourself. I would have been tempted to lamp her one!
Hun, just know that she is wrong, there is no way in this world it was your fault that you lost that baby. Just ignore people like that and relish the fact that you are having another little boy xx
5thboyontheway - Thursday, 30 Apr
that sux.....i know first hand about comments like that, when i was having my 4th everybody had their opinions about it being another boys the most common comment was oh thats a shame how sad!!!
im sorry if my comment earlier upset u too (be careful what u wish for) i just meant i know what ur in for :)
RainbowRach - Thursday, 30 Apr
OMG that is so freaking insensitive. I cannot believe anyone would say something so sick. Im sorry you had to hear that.
Many congrats on your new baby boy x
Heidi Boo - Thursday, 30 Apr
Oh god what a stupid insensitive thing to say! That's just disgusting and I am so sorry for you. What did your husband say? I hope he set her straight seeing as it's his mother. But enough of that - congrats on your little boy! It's all about him! x
lisey-n-brees-mommy - Wednesday, 29 Apr
OMG i am so sorry,
What a witch with capital letter B i mean who says that?? honestly that old biddy someone should sock some sense into her!! I lost a baby too last year and i just had my son on the 20th i love him so much . . there is always a place for my baby i lost i always wonder ........What if but i do thank GOD and appriciate my blessings for a healthy baby he is soo great. sorry i just feel for you and understand where your coming from.
new2mommyhood - Wednesday, 29 Apr
Some people have no control over what comes out of their mouthes. It's bad enough that she would think that, much less say it.
But I wanted to tell you, I think you're outlook is awesome! I think more people need to understand themselves and be able to be happy with exactly what God gives them. Good job for doing that! I know it's hard, try to ignore insensative comments like hers.
Much love to you and congrats on your little boy news!!!
mommie-2-2 - Wednesday, 29 Apr
I cant believe her! I'm so sorry she said that! I would be so siked for 3 boys! The love in your house is going to be nuts........ So happy for you!
mom of 7 and 1 on the way - Wednesday, 29 Apr
Congrats on your little man. I am so sorry your family could say something like that to you. We don't choose what we want, that's the man upstairs doing. Moms are usually happy about what they get, there are a few that get mad but not many.Again congrats and good luck
bluejeans - Wednesday, 29 Apr
Sorry third!
bluejeans - Wednesday, 29 Apr
Wow How rude is that. Congratulations on your second little boy.
| 29-4-2009 - I Can't Believe Some People |  My mood while writing this blog:In Disbelief |
So today we found out that we are going to be having another boy. My husband and I are both excited. We would have been just as excited if we were to be having a girl. We just want a healthy baby. We feel completely blessed.
Well I have always said that I wanted to have only boys due to my teenage years. I was raped twice. Once when I was 13 and again when I was 18. Due to my parents denial of my rape I rebelled big time during my teenage years. I did not have a good relationship with them until after I met my husband.
Well due to the super shitty stuff that I went through I was always scared to have a girl. I would have been completely happy but most likely super protective of her. That was my view of having a girl (if I were to have one).
So today we were over at our cousin's house and his mother-in-law was there. She was asking what we were having and I told her. She get this I'm so sorry look on her face and says that I need a girl, and that my family wouldn't be complete without one. I told her no, that we are done with having kids after this one and that I was completely happy. That I had always wanted 3 boys and was always kinda scared of having a girl.
A lil FYI back in November 2008 I had a miscarriage and lost my 3rd baby at 12 weeks. I was completely devastated.
After I told her that I was always kinda scared of having a girl she goes on to say, "Well maybe that's why you lost your other baby. It was a girl and she knew that you didn't want her. So she left you." OH MY FREAKING GOSH I couldn't believe what she had just said to me. I tried to explain to her why I was scared without telling her my full story and also told her that I would have been just as excited if we were having a girl. No. No matter what I told her she kept on saying "That's probably what happened, you didn't want a girl, and your other baby was a girl, and didn't make it cause you didn't want it." I was so freaking hurt. I couldn't believe that she said that to me.
I would have loved to have a girl, but that just wasn't in my book of life. I'm in just disbelief right now. I don't understand why one woman would say that to another who was clearly devastated due to a miscarriage. I was actually crying two days ago cause I was going to be due next week to have my little angel that I had lost in November. I just don't get it.
Mrs. Leyva
p.s. sorry so long
25 Comments on I Can't Believe Some People
jennlb30 - Monday, 4 May
Some people just don't know when to keep their mouths shut. Having a MC is not an easy thing to go through. You know, I had a MC back in April and we wanted a little girl, but when I passed the fetus, I realized it was a boy and it broke my heart to know that we wanted a girl and it turns out, it was a little boy. I thought maybe the baby felt rejected. I was told to never think such a thing...and she has no business making you feel guilty about it either. But here I am, I have a healthy baby boy...and I wouldn't trade him for anything!
Love*Made*Us - Monday, 4 May
Some people are really unbelievable. I am sorry about that.
Ruchira - Monday, 4 May
Some things are meant to be ignored...especially some comments.No one can be a btr judge than you yourself about your baby!! Deciding to become a mother, i feel is the most noble thing and no one can comment on that. Im sure your darling girl was such a swthrt that Jesus missed her too badly and took her back before you could have her in your life:) so never get bogged down by such comments. God Bless!
oopsy4 - Saturday, 2 May
That is a terrible thing to say to someone. And I'm so sorry for your past rapes. How awful!
Did you tell her that she hurt you with her comments? Some people just don't have a clue.
I hope that you will be okay.
rooey - Friday, 1 May
Aww honey, I am sorry she was so mean to you. You really did not deserve any of that. Unsensitive B*t*h. We have a silly saying at work, which makes us all laugh, when something has been done out of line, probably a bit over the top, but if I was there with you 'I would go smash her s**t up for you!!!!! lol! No one talks to you like that, and gets away with it ;o) Chin Up poppet, BIG HUGS xxx
chilliebites - Friday, 1 May
How un-sensitive!! Some people just dont have any tact and are just down-right rude.
Congratulations on your little boy. Don't take any notice to stupid comments like that & keep your chin up.
All the best.
one day - Thursday, 30 Apr
First of all I would LOVE to just have 3 boys!!! I'm shocked that you didn't just curse her out! LOL... people just don't get it and they obviously don't have any sensors on their F*&@ing mouths! sorry I'm a little sensitive too! As long as you know that is not what happened that's alllll that matters! I don't blame you one bit for being scared of having a girl! I always said I wanted boys to! But in the end ... just like you said you just want ALL of your babies to be healthy! =0)
ExpectingAThirdMiracle - Thursday, 30 Apr
No way . Really there are some people who need to know when to shut up. I would have been very upset, she had absolutely no right to say something like that . Nobody wants to lose their child , I've had 2 m/c myself and it is not easy. My cousin was preg too at the same time so when she had her baby shower and had the baby it killed me b/c It was supp to be me too. Apparently this woman has not gone through that or have much orca heart . There are just some things you NEVER say to a woman who has suffered a m/c in the past. I know it's upsetting but just know that was wrong and I understand where you are coming from, there is nothing wrong with how you felt about having all boys. !
momagainaft16years - Thursday, 30 Apr
Some people have no filters and it sounds like she is one of them. I too, had 2 miscarriages this past year and my husband's ex-father-in-law told me that "it was for the best." What??!! Are you kidding me?? I went off on him big time! I cannot believe that people would think a m/c is any different than if a grown person close to us had died. Would they say these things at an actual funeral??!! Duh! Just know that God took your angel as only He knows why. God give us exactly what we can handle and I choose to believe that my two pregnancies weren't "made right" and that God knew I wouldn't be able to care for a special needs child. He knows me better than anyone. so, you keep your precious memories and don't let anyone get you down. Don't feel guilty about standing up for yourself either. When she says things like that, just tell her,"You know, when you say that, it hurts my feelings and I don't know why you'd want to do that." It will put her in her place. Good luck hun and HUGS!
troxell9-09 - Thursday, 30 Apr
There is something wrong with people like that-judging everyone. I know they will all be judged, and more harshly, someday. Anyway, I am happy and excited for you that everything is going well with your 3rd baby boy. Keep what's important in mind and don't worry about ignorant people. And I hope she's off your Christmas Card list.
Angel-baby - Thursday, 30 Apr
The nerve of some people. It amazes me how rude and inconsiderate people can be. Congrats on your little boy and know that it doesn't matter what other people say.
flowergirl0778 - Thursday, 30 Apr
What a disgusting thing to say!!
Anyway, congrats to you on your baby, dont let people like that get you down...it is so not true what she is saying!!!
Lookalike - Thursday, 30 Apr
Sounds like something my grandmother would say. Some people are just cruel and kind of stupid, too. And they always think they're right even though they're only a few brain cells smarter than a lima bean.
Texas gal - Thursday, 30 Apr
I'm sorry she was so mean and hurtful to you. Don't listen to her. She doesn't know what she is talking about. God makes our plans for us. Your fear of having a girl did not make you have a mis carriage. I am hoping that she will feel terrible for what she said to you. As long as you and your hubby are happy, that is ALL that matters. hugs.
soon2bemamaof4 - Thursday, 30 Apr
Ewww! People like that make me so angry too! My BF and I were just talking yesterday about how after she had breast cancer and only got a mastectomy on one side....a "friend" of hers was insisting that she was going to get cancer in her other breast because she didn't have both of them done. Nice, huh? That just reminded me of the comment that this woman made to you. Completely untrue and totally uncalled for!! I am so sorry she said that to you. Try not to let it upset you too much.
minkymoo78 - Thursday, 30 Apr
Gosh that woman seriously needs help. You don't lose babies because you are scared of what sex they're going to be! She needs her head testing. I lost 3 babies before this one, does that mean I did that to myself? Oh what a horrible woman. I don't know how you kept your hands to yourself. I would have been tempted to lamp her one!
Hun, just know that she is wrong, there is no way in this world it was your fault that you lost that baby. Just ignore people like that and relish the fact that you are having another little boy xx
5thboyontheway - Thursday, 30 Apr
that sux.....i know first hand about comments like that, when i was having my 4th everybody had their opinions about it being another boys the most common comment was oh thats a shame how sad!!!
im sorry if my comment earlier upset u too (be careful what u wish for) i just meant i know what ur in for :)
RainbowRach - Thursday, 30 Apr
OMG that is so freaking insensitive. I cannot believe anyone would say something so sick. Im sorry you had to hear that.
Many congrats on your new baby boy x
Heidi Boo - Thursday, 30 Apr
Oh god what a stupid insensitive thing to say! That's just disgusting and I am so sorry for you. What did your husband say? I hope he set her straight seeing as it's his mother. But enough of that - congrats on your little boy! It's all about him! x
lisey-n-brees-mommy - Wednesday, 29 Apr
OMG i am so sorry,
What a witch with capital letter B i mean who says that?? honestly that old biddy someone should sock some sense into her!! I lost a baby too last year and i just had my son on the 20th i love him so much . . there is always a place for my baby i lost i always wonder ........What if but i do thank GOD and appriciate my blessings for a healthy baby he is soo great. sorry i just feel for you and understand where your coming from.
new2mommyhood - Wednesday, 29 Apr
Some people have no control over what comes out of their mouthes. It's bad enough that she would think that, much less say it.
But I wanted to tell you, I think you're outlook is awesome! I think more people need to understand themselves and be able to be happy with exactly what God gives them. Good job for doing that! I know it's hard, try to ignore insensative comments like hers.
Much love to you and congrats on your little boy news!!!
mommie-2-2 - Wednesday, 29 Apr
I cant believe her! I'm so sorry she said that! I would be so siked for 3 boys! The love in your house is going to be nuts........ So happy for you!
mom of 7 and 1 on the way - Wednesday, 29 Apr
Congrats on your little man. I am so sorry your family could say something like that to you. We don't choose what we want, that's the man upstairs doing. Moms are usually happy about what they get, there are a few that get mad but not many.Again congrats and good luck
bluejeans - Wednesday, 29 Apr
Sorry third!
bluejeans - Wednesday, 29 Apr
Wow How rude is that. Congratulations on your second little boy.
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