16-6-2009 - Oh My Goodness

My mood while writing this blog: I feel like I\'m pregnant.

Our trip to Phoenix was pretty great. We basically spent the whole time with my family, for once, and had a total blast. My hubby's family pissed me off the second day we were there so it wasn't hard to avoid them the rest of the trip. Just to fill you in a little, my mother-in-law stayed out here with us for a month and a half to take her away from the horrible living conditions and stress she was in out in Phoenix. I did everything with her and took her everywhere to keep her occupied. Her hair started to grow back out, (she had bald spots from stress) and her blood pressure stabilized. THEN when we got to Phoenix my husband had me take my sister-in-law to get her a mani pedi for mothers day. I was totally fine and happy with that. I took her Saturday morning before my baby shower that my Mom was throwing me. Well after all was done and I was at my in-laws rushing to get ready I noticed no one else was getting ready. My baby shower was going to start in 1 hour. So I was going out to the living room to ask my mother-in-law if she was going to ride with us, when I heard her on the phone with a friend saying she wasn't going to go cause it was too far and it was too much of a hassle to go. I was soooo hurt. This was my very first baby shower and after all that I had done for her she wasn't going to go. So I just went back into the room and started to work on fixing my hair. That was when my little niece came in crying. I asked her what was wrong and she told me that she was sad cause she wanted to go to the baby shower but that her mom (the one I took for the mani pedi) said they weren't going to go because her boyfriend was going to go over later on. I was pissed. Not only had I just taken her for her mani pedi but never had I missed any of her baby showers and have always been there to help her out with anything that she needed. I felt soo hurt, not loved, and under appreciated. My husband came in a little later and asked why I was crying to which I told him. I was just so upset and fed up, I told him I was going to hurry up and get ready and head on out. I didn't want him to say anything to them, but that I wanted him to know that I wasn't going to return to visit anymore on the trip. He got super pissed off and went and told his mom that he can't believe how uncaring his sister was (he would never say any negative to his mom about her though), after all that I had always done for her, and she couldn't set aside an evening to celebrate our coming baby with us. I really didn't want him to say anything because it was their choice but then again I was super upset. We'll after that we left to my parents house and all of my family and friends were there and all super happy to see me. His family eventually showed up but to tell you the truth I felt like they only showed up cause they felt obligated to after my husband said something.

BUT besides that I had a blast at my baby shower. Even though I had that crappy beginning it was a great celebration. My mom has never thrown a baby shower so she had no games set or or anything but my cousins and I ran to Walmart to get some simple things like cotton, clothes pins, baby food, and bottles to set up up. The best part of the baby shower is that it was a mixed baby shower. Men and women. The men played horseshoes and poker, and the women played the typical baby shower games. We did play a game with both the men and women together though.

It was probably the best and funniest game we played. I bought those small 5 oz bottles, poked two tiny holes in each nipple, and filled them up with baby juice. The way we played the game was that the women had to feed the men the bottle and the first ones to finish the juice was the winner. It was HILARIOUS! Especially my Mom and Dad. We were all lined up men to the back, women standing in front of them, and spectators sitting around. My cousin with leukemia and her baby were sitting right there front row. Well I guess my Mom had to run and do something really quick before the game started and set down my Dad's bottle on my cousin's stroller ran back and, ready, set, GO! We began the race. Well, next thing you hear is my Mom yelling at my Dad to drink the bottle and my Dad yelling at her to stop. My mom had picked up the wrong bottle and was actually trying to feed my Dad the baby's milk. She didn't even notice for like 30 seconds she was just trying to jam it into his mouth. It was hilarious! Everyone was laughing soo hard. It was classic.

I got a ton of great presents from everyone. A lot of gift cards, money, clothes, and misc. stuff. I was just happy to see everyone there. It really made me feel loved. Especially since I live out here with no family. It kinda reassured me that I will always have my family there to support me. Which I've always known.

After that the vacation was nice. Got some things on our SUV fixed and went swimming for two days. My boys loved swimming. My eldest still asks when we are going to go back to go swimming again. The swimming was probably the best relief on my body. I felt weightless and comfortable. My husband and I argued half of the trip but that was because he was being an asshole. We talked it out though and ended it on a good note.

I'm gonna have to stop here though. I still have more to write but I'm going to give your eyes some time to rest from all the reading. That and the fact that my son woke up from his nap and now we are going to take them to the park. But if you all want to go and check out some pictures I've posted please feel free. Two ultrasound pictures and a few of my baby shower. Enjoy.

Love Always,

Mrs. Leyva

OH YEAH! I send you all the best of wishes and thoughts. And never let a fake person make you feel insecure. There are always shady people out there, but don't let them affect the way you live your life. Live life to the fullest.