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26-9-2008 - Day 3 of 12

My mood while writing this blog: Do they have an emoticon for psychologically scarred?

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Well... my mother in law has been here for 3 days today (insert JAWS music here), and I am on my last nerve already...

I guess she's quite a sweet lady, except for when she freaked out when we got engaged, because her almost-31-year-old son didn't ask her permission, or when she freaked out because we didn't get married in a church... or when she thought us getting married and immigrating must be us running away because I must have been pregnant... or not calling her son but once a year.. and not even for his birthday, but mostly just to moan about how infrequently he calls her... and is now suddenly seeking to be so involved and is so emotional over her grandchild... GAH. I'm about to pull my hair out.

To make matters worse I'm totally on edge because Slevin can't stand her, and she insists on manhandling him. I say manhandling, because that's what she does. She doesn't hold him gently, or have a clue about how to hold a baby at all (she's positively manic about it), but bounces the kid around jerkily (particularly after he's just eaten), makes him lie down in her lap (which he hates), or makes him sit in her lap with his legs splayed to either side of her hips, which he hates even more... and talks to him in such a high pitched annoying tone, you can actually see the kid physically cringing. Course, unfortunately it's not so far off her normal tone... but the poor child freaks out every time she holds him, and not just a moany cry, it's a genuinely distressed I-don't-like-this cry... and I kind of figure if that's how she handled Jay as a baby... it's no wonder they have no relationship. Slevin has been so grumpy since they arrived... he can't even bear to have her pushing the pram... I know she has good intentions, but she listens to nothing we say about how to handle him, i.e. that he doesn't like lying on his back, or that when you push the pram you actually need to keep quite a pace up to keep his attention and not have him get grumpy...

And she just ticks Jay off too... they rely on camera phones to take photographs of CRAPPY quality... so we give them a digital camera as a gift... and she says to Jay "Oh, don't I feel like a beggar"... well, hell, lady, if we'd known that's how you'd take it, we wouldn't have bothered... and a simple thank-you would be nice.

ARGH. I actually had to give Jay The Look last night (as in, GO AND RESCUE YOUR SON) when she was bouncing him around maniacally as usual... And the poor child was going hysterical again... eventually Jay packed them up and took them out so Slevin and I could get some peace...

The truly terrible thing is that I absolutely ADORE her husband (Jay's stepdad)... he is the most awesome old man ever. I say old, because he's now about 75 in the shade, but puts me to shame with fitness and health... he's full of amazing stories and we share similar interests and both LOVE antiques and history... I can hang out with him for hours... it's just a shame that this lady comes as part of the package, and I know that none of this is her fault, it's just how she is...

I feel so judgmental, which is awful, but my first instinct is to whack her over the head and hide Slevin LOL... I keep apologising to him for subjecting him to this mad old bat... but I guess it's true what they say... you can't choose family!

God, only another 10 days to go... Slevin's actually being a real little trooper though... very talkative this morning, but I think it's just because we've shipped the folks off to go on a bus tour of Dublin today, and won't see them until dinner.... Yeah baby! It's so cute, his little voice has gotten a bit deeper... not SO squeaky anymore, it's so precious! He's getting so active now, it takes me about 10 minutes to change his nappy now, he's so busy kicking and flailing lol...

have to run...have a poor grumpy little boy to see to!
XXX

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6 Comments on Day 3 of 12


mrsclev - Sunday, 28 Sep
Sounds like my MIL...I guess its a good thing we dont see them regualarly right? Well, kep your chin up, she will be gone soon enough

jeni - Saturday, 27 Sep
I am sending happy thoughts your way - this is why we haven't told my mother in law where we live... lol.

Give the baby kiss for me... Sending lots of love your way!!! Miss you!

Rosieb - Friday, 26 Sep
U just reminded me y my mom in law doesnt know about gary yet. The hell she put me through when the others were babies! I was going to let her know this weekend but now decided not to, not yet. Gary needs to get into his own routine 1st. Good luck for the next 10 days!

Jazz87 - Friday, 26 Sep
Sorry to hear your currently in hell with the in laws!!... I love the way you write your blogs thou1 you make them real interesting and funny at the same time. Well hope that you haven't hit the old bat over the head yet or Slevins not squashed in a draw out of her reach yet hehe not too long to go.. just smile and nod xx

izziebo - Friday, 26 Sep
god im so sorry lol
that sounds horrific

i thought andys mum was annoying lol
just deeeeep breaths n go "food shopping" alot lol in other words run to ur m8s house lol

Grace - Friday, 26 Sep
HA you crack me up, but I know exactly how you feel ----you just actually said it...LOL