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10-10-2008 - Ding Dong the witch is gone.... and 3 months ;)

My mood while writing this blog: pretty ok...

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Well... I said "Fare thee well" to the mother in law last Sunday... and I've spent a week in recovery from it.

I can't believe how that woman gets under my skin, it's so not funny... I also had to end up telling Jay to bite his tongue with her, because if he blew up at her again in our house, I was going to tell the whole lot of them to pack their sh*t and go. I will not subject my son to that environment again. I know a lot of it stems from Jay's abandonment issues he has with his mother (when he was in school, she and his stepdad just up and moved 5 hours away and left him there - wonderful mother, eh)... and he's convinced he will never resolve those feelings. I don't blame him. I told him to talk to her about it, even if she got angry, and he kind of mentioned it at the dinner table that night they came over from Avoca, and she has the gall to immediately make it about her ("well, it could have been worse, you could have been sent to boarding school at the age of 6, like *I* was")... Hello, you stupid witch, there's a difference between being sent to boarding school, and your mother leaving you in town without a forwarding address! And that was the end of the conversation. It was just so sad to watch, it really broke my heart, that she doesn't even have the insight to realise what she's done to her son and how badly she's hurt him. It's all in his behaviour around her. He is the sweetest, gentlest soul I've ever known. He has this incredible magic about him that just makes people love him. He lights up a room when he walks in, and has such amazing energy about him. He sacrifices of himself endlessly for any one of his friends. When he's around her he literally and visibly regresses to the shunned teenager and becomes insolent and angry and rebellious. I think she just thinks he's a difficult person.

Then she comes over on Sunday and tries to suck up to me about what a good mother I am (Yeah, like I need your approval, lady - of all people), and gives me this set of freshwater pearls. Beautiful, really, with an antique clasp. Except that if she knew anything about me, she'd know that I don't like pearls (well except for the occasional black pearls), and maybe I'd feel a whole lot better about the "gift" if she didn't tell me that those were the ones she bought when her mother died (talk about your macabre gift)... and if Jay hadn't told me afterwards how mad he was she did that, because she used to give every one of his old girlfriends a set of pearls, so it's not even like it's special.... ARGH. Anyway they've been relegated to the bottom of my underwear drawer and I guess will be pulled out when we have to see them again.

ANYWAY, enough of that drivel... they're gone now (I love that my in laws live 13 000 odd km away), and we won't have to see them until we go back to South Africa next April, and even then, it will be limited to about 3 days.

My beautiful baby Slevin is just over 3 months now... my scale is freaked out and usually gets it wrong, but according to it, he weighs between 8.5 and 9kg, and has grown almost a cm a week since he was born - he's now 62cm - almost half my height! He rolls now, not all the way over, but shows a clear preference for rolling onto his right side... He's a lot more vocal now (sometimes annoyingly so, to be honest, as he'll sit in his chair and not "talk", but moan for a good 30 minutes without really knowing what it is he wants!), and loves to test the pitch of his voice - he can be quite shrill when he wants to be! He wants to chew everything in sight, and I think has begun teething - he's quite agitated and chews things with great vehemence and urgency, and prefers to chew my knuckle really hard, which both hurts and is frustrating for both of us... he wants my knuckle, but it's attached to my hand, and unfortunately, I have to get things done, so I can't sit and let him chew it all day! He's beginning to get used to his teething toys, but has already discarded several in favour of one or two. his favourite time of day is when daddy gets home from work and at about 9:30pm he has his bottle and then dad holds him until he falls asleep. He loves to snuggle into Jay's chest and fall asleep, usually covering Jay and himself in drool!

I love the curiosity and intelligence in his eyes, everything new is a wonder, and he can clearly identify his bottle sitting on a table halfway across the room, he loves to see things move, and some days he gets this look on his face like he's a really old soul and has been around this merry-go-round before... he has really wise eyes. I just love everything about him. I never in my life thought I'd feel this way, but I feel such joy and love that I feel like my heart is going to burst most days... I feel so much love it hurts most of the time, especially when he wakes up and I pick him up and he closes his arms around my neck really tight and snuggles his face into my neck, or when he's playing quietly in his chair, and I happen to look over at him from whatever I'm doing at the time and he's watching me and gives me this huge gummy grin without me having to say a word... I just melt. His favourite song to be sung is "You are my sunshine" and his favourite nursery rhyme at the moment is "Insy Winsy (sp?) spider"... he just LOVES the hand actions ;)

Sure I get frustrated, and I'm perpetually exhausted, but I just remind myself that he doesn't try to frustrate me on purpose, and I don't beat myself up about those feelings. If it gets really bad, I just leave him to play with his mobile and walk away for 5 minutes and do something else, and it works well for both of us... he's learning to entertain himself (for anywhere up to 30-40minutes at a time!) and I can stay happy and calm around him rather than showing him frustration.

I'm doing pretty well ... I feel a bit down sometimes, and tired... and I'm not sure why, but it comes and goes. On the upside I have my preliminary consultation for my IUD tomorrow, and judging by my major skin breakout at the moment, I'm not far from my next cycle, so hopefully I can have it inserted soon... condoms are so expensive :P lol I'm pretty excited about that, it will be a huge weight off my shoulders for the next couple of years, to know that contraception is sorted and it's not something I have to think about, but it makes me quite sad, really... I find myself hanging out obsessively on the TTC forum... there's some part of me which can't wait for the next one... I miss being pregnant terribly, even though I feel now that I was constantly full of meaningless complaints and in pain. I miss feeling the outline of that little foot in my side lol. I know we have to wait for a couple of years though, so it will be good to have it sorted ;)

Sheesh my blogs seem to get longer and longer... will have to update more often so I don't spend hours and pages on blogs :P

Will post new photo's of my wee angel soon ;)

XX

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4 Comments on Ding Dong the witch is gone.... and 3 months ;)


mrsclev - Tuesday, 14 Oct
Glad your MIL is gone!!!

Happy to see Slevin is doing really well!!

leenakaye28 - Friday, 10 Oct
lol you are too funny. Did I get it right that Slevin weighs 8-9lbs? I was just curious because him and Lexi are only a day apart and she was 3 13' at birth and weighs between 8 and 9lbs. I thought she wasnr gaining weight right and was too small. Curious please let me know I would feel better. I have a video of Lexi rolling I will try to post.

1TimeMommy17 - Friday, 10 Oct
Happy to hear that the wicked witch is gone and that everything is going GREAT with your little prince =)

jeni - Friday, 10 Oct
Glad the wicked witch is gone... Glad the baby is FANTABULOUS!!!!!! I miss you... I want to have this baby!!!! NOW!!!!!!! I am full of aches and pains too!!! Miss chatting with you... I will e-mail you soon! Love ya!!!!!!