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8 Comments on Venting!!!!!
newmommyx2 - Tuesday, 14 Jul
hey! i came acroos your profile and blog and just wanted to let you know i am in the same boat and know how it feels. my babies father told me he didnt want them and that till the day i had them he would let me know that. he was a complete ass to me and was constantly out with the boys and saw me about once a week (and he was not the partying type before). he rarely called or even cared to see me. although he has come around to his sons being born we are still not together. i feel he just wants to party it up before they come which is pretty shitty if you ask me while i am here alone and pregnant. The whole alone feeling really sucks, i know, there were weeks i cried everyday . It was even harder seeing my 2 other friends who are also prego w/ their BF's who are so good with them taking care of them and there is my lame ass by myself. I hold a lot of anger towards him right now i cant even talk to him with out talking shit to him which i know is not good for me or the babies but im slowly getting thru it. just wanted you to know you are not alone! and i believe time does heal all wounds it might take awhile but i think you will get through this. If anything he is going to look like the loser while you take this on on your own.stay strong and if you need to chat im here!! :)
lovemybump3 - Wednesday, 8 Jul
So sorry to hear of your situation. When I was first pregnant with my first son, my fiance and baby daddy broke up w me! It f-ing sucked so bad and i was furious and sad and couldnt believe this was happening....but a little time went by and we talked and I found out he was worried about what his very catholic family would think and he was worried about money, but I said, "Honey, when you put this ring on my finger, that made us family, and if you choose to not be apart of this childs life, well, um, I hate to tell you this, but I'm gonna get your money anyways." :) He realized what a coward he was being and how much he loved me, and today he cringes and hates himself for ever thinking those awful things. Just stay strong, you have to think about your baby now. She is all that matters. Are you planning on seeing him netime before baby? If you continues to act this way I would call his mother myself and tell her she has a granddaughter on the way! Maybe since he's not with you its not a reality to him, but it sounds like he's trying to be a coward and skip out on you and this beautiful baby your are carrying....you need support, emotionally and financially and so does that baby. I hope he comes around and I wish you had someone to get your munchies and rub your belly.
jennyboo09 - Wednesday, 8 Jul
Im sorry to hear that you are in a sticky situation like me.. I havent seen my Sperm doner since I was 10 wks and here I am at 20. I can completely put myself in your shoes. Im still not really over the hurt that he has caused but I do my best to hold my head high and take care of my precious baby. My grandmother always said never cry over someone who never shed a tear for you. I still have to pretend to my family that me and him are fine. They have no idea that he hit the road a long time ago. Vent vent vent bc you cant hold your feelings in forever. And one day or another odds are you will see his face and who knows the circumstances it will be under.. Hell Mama you prolly will explode como un fuego. So voice urself to him and make your feelings very clear. Leave the option to him wether or not he wants to be her daddy. Any guy can make a baby but it takes a MAN to be a DADDY! And nobody can make them someone they dont wanna be.. If he keeps going just remember you wont be the first, the only, or the last to be both a mother and a father to your child. God never gives you anything you cant handle. And a baby is a blessing of unconditional love that lasts a lifetime! xoxo
1923angelyrey - Wednesday, 8 Jul
hey love i agree with frosty....men arent going to be invloved unless u make em stick there hand in the cookie jar ,,lol as i call it bribery ...my hubbys is caring when it comes to me not getting overly exhausted but thats cause he is a Marine and works so much so when he is home he wants me to relax cause he knows im the mama and daddy most the time ..its more for his convienince but the whole baby talk he shines me off too and ur right it aint like its not his first its our 3rd and if it was our 1st i dont see much of a change would happen. Im sorry ur feelin so alone... i fealt all that when i had my daughter i met my hubby when she was 6 months... i was fighting with my adopted family and was struggling to work and do it on my own it was so bad i had to look up my alcoholic bio grandma so i could move in with her since i had my own place ..but i was an adult dancer and i could not work since i was put on bed rest.. i lost my place and my daughters father was my first boyfriend but had a son he cared more for and paid child support 4. He was not with his sons mother anylonger ..but just refused to be supportive ...no money no emotional support.. but wouldnt mind if i gave him a piece of ass from time 2 time... anyhow long story short ..i met my husband he was 19 i was 23 ,,,, he fell in love with my daughter at an instant exactly six months later on her 1st birthday in front of my entire fam proposed he was instant at being a daddy and him and i have a son and now a lil girl on the way,,, till this day he is closest to my daughter he even signed her birth certificate... i geuss what im getting at is i never gave up and everytime i bought an outfit or went in for a ob appointmnet i was given streghnth because i had one more to take care of and all i i did was about my lil girl...so shrugg it off like it doint matter and do u and the baby growing in u and i know it will all be a blessing when that one man comes in to ur life such as for me that will love u and ur lil girl... because when all is said and done the biggest regrett he will have and the realization he lost out and could of had it all was when he sees another man loving u and his daughter! trust me.... when i ran into my daughters father when she was two he tried to take us back ...i just laughed and said now when im happy u want me ..now when someone loves me u want to love me now u want ur daughter... thing is ...the best man won... that is my hubby! so cheer up.. xoxoxo i know i wrote a book lol but ur strong and u will rise above it all!xoxoxo
frosty - Wednesday, 8 Jul
There is a point in every mans life when they don't live up to there responsibility, where as woman just have to get on with it. You have remained strong for the past 20 weeks and i know as this baby because even closer to being born it will probably get harder for you, but you just have to think that you will give this baby as much love as it can get and love it enough for its 2 parents. You never know when your gorgeous little girl is born he may realise how much he has missed out on so far and want to change his ways, a baby can make anything happen!!
You stay strong and healthy and i'm sure all of your friends are there for support and remember don't bottle things up because thats not good for you or baby. Yr friends on here are always about if you need an ear to listen to you.
Take Care.
Big Hugs xx
NewMommy2Be-28 - Tuesday, 7 Jul
I get where you are coming from. Although I am married, my husband and i werent planning on having a baby yet. He is the kind of guy that wont tell you how he feels so it comes of as he doesnt care or he is just cold. He doesn't act like anythin has changed. I still do everything for myself and for him. He needs to grow up and realize that I need him. But until then, I am working and taking care of business.
Thats what it boils down to. YOU have to take care of your baby girl. There is a reason men cant get pregnant, they couldn't handle it. When I feel alone, I just know I have my baby girl with me. Where ever I go she goes and she feels what I feel. I hope your man grows up and sees that he has 2 wonderful girls.
Best of luck, stay strong and just think your half way done and your girl will be right by your side!!
CryMommy09 - Tuesday, 7 Jul
Im so sorry about your troubles. Sometimes I feel really alone too. My guy is here but this was an unplanned pregnancy and sometimes he's very insensitive and not very affectionate. Im here for you if you ever wanna chat.
masonnickey - Tuesday, 7 Jul
I'm with the girl that posted right before me. Leave it in God's hands mama. I know you feel lonely right now but hopefully that will change. Also we both from Ny, if you ever need a friend or just someone to call or text holla at me! We got 21 more wks on this journey together!
| 07-7-2009 - Venting!!!!! |  My mood while writing this blog:Sad, confused, hurt.. |
So I know I don't say much about myself or my situation. These last few days I have been feeling really down and depressed..So I figured I just vent, I guess sometimes people don't listen so you have to write it down.. So first off I am so happy tobe having a baby girl I can't wait to have her in my arms.. But it seems as if I am the only one. Her father acts like he just doesn't care.. now him and I live in seperate states. He lives in NC and I live in NYC.. I have not seen him since I was about 12 or 13 weeks. Now I am going on 20 weeks.. He calls once in the morning to wake me up for work but never not once asks me how i feel or if the babys moving or just anything concerning the baby.. And when i do talk about the baby he acts as if he does not hear me.. He wont send me any money to get the baby some things and he wont even talk to me about names or just anything.. Its really rough because i feel as if I'm going through this on my own.. To top it off he still has not told any of his family about my pregnancy and that really hurts.. I don't have blood relatives and I want my child to have some type of family especially a grandmother, I don't have my mother so its on him.. But it just really sucks.. And everytime i tell him how I feel he just ignores me or he says that I am nagging.. I have been really mean lately because I am so hurt and i just feel so lonely.. Its like you see all the pregnant ladies with their men that rub their bellies and get them their munchies and I feel like I'm so alone.. I don't know what to do but it really gets me down and I can't help but cry.. What should i do? What can I say? and its not even like this is his first child so I just don't know... Ladies I'm just sick of feeling so alone.. Any advice would be nice even if you may be going through something similar.. Thanks for reading..
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newmommyx2 - Tuesday, 14 Jul
hey! i came acroos your profile and blog and just wanted to let you know i am in the same boat and know how it feels. my babies father told me he didnt want them and that till the day i had them he would let me know that. he was a complete ass to me and was constantly out with the boys and saw me about once a week (and he was not the partying type before). he rarely called or even cared to see me. although he has come around to his sons being born we are still not together. i feel he just wants to party it up before they come which is pretty shitty if you ask me while i am here alone and pregnant. The whole alone feeling really sucks, i know, there were weeks i cried everyday . It was even harder seeing my 2 other friends who are also prego w/ their BF's who are so good with them taking care of them and there is my lame ass by myself. I hold a lot of anger towards him right now i cant even talk to him with out talking shit to him which i know is not good for me or the babies but im slowly getting thru it. just wanted you to know you are not alone! and i believe time does heal all wounds it might take awhile but i think you will get through this. If anything he is going to look like the loser while you take this on on your own.stay strong and if you need to chat im here!! :)
lovemybump3 - Wednesday, 8 Jul
So sorry to hear of your situation. When I was first pregnant with my first son, my fiance and baby daddy broke up w me! It f-ing sucked so bad and i was furious and sad and couldnt believe this was happening....but a little time went by and we talked and I found out he was worried about what his very catholic family would think and he was worried about money, but I said, "Honey, when you put this ring on my finger, that made us family, and if you choose to not be apart of this childs life, well, um, I hate to tell you this, but I'm gonna get your money anyways." :) He realized what a coward he was being and how much he loved me, and today he cringes and hates himself for ever thinking those awful things. Just stay strong, you have to think about your baby now. She is all that matters. Are you planning on seeing him netime before baby? If you continues to act this way I would call his mother myself and tell her she has a granddaughter on the way! Maybe since he's not with you its not a reality to him, but it sounds like he's trying to be a coward and skip out on you and this beautiful baby your are carrying....you need support, emotionally and financially and so does that baby. I hope he comes around and I wish you had someone to get your munchies and rub your belly.
jennyboo09 - Wednesday, 8 Jul
Im sorry to hear that you are in a sticky situation like me.. I havent seen my Sperm doner since I was 10 wks and here I am at 20. I can completely put myself in your shoes. Im still not really over the hurt that he has caused but I do my best to hold my head high and take care of my precious baby. My grandmother always said never cry over someone who never shed a tear for you. I still have to pretend to my family that me and him are fine. They have no idea that he hit the road a long time ago. Vent vent vent bc you cant hold your feelings in forever. And one day or another odds are you will see his face and who knows the circumstances it will be under.. Hell Mama you prolly will explode como un fuego. So voice urself to him and make your feelings very clear. Leave the option to him wether or not he wants to be her daddy. Any guy can make a baby but it takes a MAN to be a DADDY! And nobody can make them someone they dont wanna be.. If he keeps going just remember you wont be the first, the only, or the last to be both a mother and a father to your child. God never gives you anything you cant handle. And a baby is a blessing of unconditional love that lasts a lifetime! xoxo
1923angelyrey - Wednesday, 8 Jul
hey love i agree with frosty....men arent going to be invloved unless u make em stick there hand in the cookie jar ,,lol as i call it bribery ...my hubbys is caring when it comes to me not getting overly exhausted but thats cause he is a Marine and works so much so when he is home he wants me to relax cause he knows im the mama and daddy most the time ..its more for his convienince but the whole baby talk he shines me off too and ur right it aint like its not his first its our 3rd and if it was our 1st i dont see much of a change would happen. Im sorry ur feelin so alone... i fealt all that when i had my daughter i met my hubby when she was 6 months... i was fighting with my adopted family and was struggling to work and do it on my own it was so bad i had to look up my alcoholic bio grandma so i could move in with her since i had my own place ..but i was an adult dancer and i could not work since i was put on bed rest.. i lost my place and my daughters father was my first boyfriend but had a son he cared more for and paid child support 4. He was not with his sons mother anylonger ..but just refused to be supportive ...no money no emotional support.. but wouldnt mind if i gave him a piece of ass from time 2 time... anyhow long story short ..i met my husband he was 19 i was 23 ,,,, he fell in love with my daughter at an instant exactly six months later on her 1st birthday in front of my entire fam proposed he was instant at being a daddy and him and i have a son and now a lil girl on the way,,, till this day he is closest to my daughter he even signed her birth certificate... i geuss what im getting at is i never gave up and everytime i bought an outfit or went in for a ob appointmnet i was given streghnth because i had one more to take care of and all i i did was about my lil girl...so shrugg it off like it doint matter and do u and the baby growing in u and i know it will all be a blessing when that one man comes in to ur life such as for me that will love u and ur lil girl... because when all is said and done the biggest regrett he will have and the realization he lost out and could of had it all was when he sees another man loving u and his daughter! trust me.... when i ran into my daughters father when she was two he tried to take us back ...i just laughed and said now when im happy u want me ..now when someone loves me u want to love me now u want ur daughter... thing is ...the best man won... that is my hubby! so cheer up.. xoxoxo i know i wrote a book lol but ur strong and u will rise above it all!xoxoxo
frosty - Wednesday, 8 Jul
There is a point in every mans life when they don't live up to there responsibility, where as woman just have to get on with it. You have remained strong for the past 20 weeks and i know as this baby because even closer to being born it will probably get harder for you, but you just have to think that you will give this baby as much love as it can get and love it enough for its 2 parents. You never know when your gorgeous little girl is born he may realise how much he has missed out on so far and want to change his ways, a baby can make anything happen!!
You stay strong and healthy and i'm sure all of your friends are there for support and remember don't bottle things up because thats not good for you or baby. Yr friends on here are always about if you need an ear to listen to you.
Take Care.
Big Hugs xx
NewMommy2Be-28 - Tuesday, 7 Jul
I get where you are coming from. Although I am married, my husband and i werent planning on having a baby yet. He is the kind of guy that wont tell you how he feels so it comes of as he doesnt care or he is just cold. He doesn't act like anythin has changed. I still do everything for myself and for him. He needs to grow up and realize that I need him. But until then, I am working and taking care of business.
Thats what it boils down to. YOU have to take care of your baby girl. There is a reason men cant get pregnant, they couldn't handle it. When I feel alone, I just know I have my baby girl with me. Where ever I go she goes and she feels what I feel. I hope your man grows up and sees that he has 2 wonderful girls.
Best of luck, stay strong and just think your half way done and your girl will be right by your side!!
CryMommy09 - Tuesday, 7 Jul
Im so sorry about your troubles. Sometimes I feel really alone too. My guy is here but this was an unplanned pregnancy and sometimes he's very insensitive and not very affectionate. Im here for you if you ever wanna chat.
masonnickey - Tuesday, 7 Jul
I'm with the girl that posted right before me. Leave it in God's hands mama. I know you feel lonely right now but hopefully that will change. Also we both from Ny, if you ever need a friend or just someone to call or text holla at me! We got 21 more wks on this journey together!
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