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nikki3kids
Age: 24
Country: new zealand
Province/region: taranaki
City: new plymouth
Partner: married
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19-10-2008 - hubbys a pig tonight sad and madMy mood while writing this blog:
sad and mad



grrrrrrrrrrrr i just get so mad at my hubby even when im not pregnant i get so mad at him but tonight was bad for me i have been run of my feet all day i not only do i get up give the kids breakfast clean their teeth dress them entertain them and then give them lunch entertain them again cook tea bath them dress them brush their teeth put them to bed i do all that all on my own while he just gets up goes to work and comes home spends 10mins if that with the kids before he stays on the computer for the resat of the night playing poker. well tonight i just got really mad because issiah my 3yr old has been pushing my buttons all day so i snaped and told him of he started crying you know what my hubby said why did you tell him of i said because i told him 5 times to stop what he was doing and the 6th was enough he started yelling at me telling me i shouldnt have done that i was like were the f><<?? were you to stop him from doing what he was doing thats right nowhere he turns to me and say you go to work all day i was like what do you think i do all day dance around the freaken fairys and smell flowers all day when he is at work and he even admits it he does nothing most days he just walks around pretending he his working where is im changing nappies left right and centre cleaning up after kid all day and always on my feet never really getting time to myself, the other thing he thinks he is intitled to and that is to go to the loo without interuptions im like buddy all part of being a parent if i cant you cant. and then there is dont even get me started on the he stays up till 12.30 sometimes 1am playing on the computer thinks he can get a sleep in even though im in bed by 9pm i still am the one that has to get up to put our baby back down when he is already up he dont even move.

but in saying that if i nag him enough he does do work round the house for me but i shouldnt have to nag to get him to do it.

right now im just b,aming all this on my pregnancy as i know normaly i would just get mad and fight back but tonight i cant even be bothered all i can do is cry while he is sleeping to keep away from me i dont even get to talk to him so i have all this talking left in me from being round kids all day i need to talk to adults at night before i go to sleep but he wont even talk to me the PIG that all i can say about him tonight




5 Comments on hubbys a pig tonight


VeronicaB - Monday, 20 Oct
I'm sorry you are going throught that. what goes around comes around! Believe me. I agree with marchmomma84. dont even give him a choice. on his next day off. wake up take a shower. and just get out of the house. i know it will be hard on you because nobody takes care of you children better than you not even the daddy. but you can do it. you need to enjoy yourself and relax. Its hard work what we do.

barunka05 - Monday, 20 Oct
Omg i feel like u are taking words from my mouth. I feel like i wanna kick my bf a** today. I am 37 weeks and all he do is working and i'am left to do all what u said. Than he sleeps the whole day and go back to work. Last time we fought about it and i told him i'am tired i need a break for myself and he is like b ut its your daughter and u are her mom and iam like wtf are u then? Sperm donor?

13yearsapart - Monday, 20 Oct
Oh honey I am so sorry you have one of those hubby's too!! Mine is a pain in the ass most days too....I feel your pain and frustration and all I can say is that I hope he wakes up and realizes that you are a god send anf not just a stay at home mom!! You are a super mom!!!! Try not to let it bother you too much, i know that is easier said than done, belive me I know!!

SilverLining - Monday, 20 Oct
sorry to hear of the problematic hubby. He really is acting like he is not a parent, it seems. Sure going to work is a good thing, at least he is providing..BUT being a husband and being a father is A LOT more than just going to work adn that's it.

So I'm sorry he's not being very helpful or supportive in those areas.
I agree with MARCHMOMMA84. Because, really, a man who behaves that way, will not understand how hard it is for a stay at home mom until he experiences what its liek for himself, by himself. Unfortunately, most men wouldnt' Agree to take that challenge on, they'd rather not be proven wrong, and like to take advantage of the wife, making her take on more than her fair share of PARENTING AND Marital duties. Its pathetic & sad.

I hope he wakes up and sees the light.


marchmomma84 - Monday, 20 Oct
I'm so sorry he's being a butt right now! I hope you feel better. He's just going to have to learn that your job is hard whether he likes the idea or not. I keep telling my husband that he needs to make enough money to support us so I can be a stay at home mom but then I think...Oh no...I can't be at home with kids all day long and then have him expect me to be at his feet when he comes home because he "worked all day" I know a lot of stay at home moms get taken advantage of bc their husbands feel like they don't work and it's not fair. There's a good reason why child care is so expensive...because kids are a pain in the ass and it takes a lot of money to put up with that crap!!! Unfortunately, I don't really know how to tell you to get him to understand. Maybe you should take a day to yourself and have him watch the kids all day long and let him see how hard it is...oh but you will have to fill them up with sugar first so its like 10x worse....haha!!! EVIL!!!!
Photos
19weeks and 6days  (2008, 11, 03) ewwwwwwwwwwwww (2008, 12, 08) this is meesha we changed her name  (2009, 02, 09) this is my boy and spooks  (2009, 02, 09) my home made nappy  (2009, 11, 02) the inside (2009, 11, 02)  (2009, 12, 08) jai jeram bhana (2010, 01, 03) my family  (2010, 01, 03) my kids (2010, 01, 03)

Children
issiah-bhana (2005) natalia-bhana (2007) jai-jeram-bhana (2009)

Latest blogs
08-12-2009 - been awhile
17-3-2009 - i had him
30-1-2009 - getting to know each other better
27-11-2008 - dreams
26-11-2008 - arghhhhhhhhhhhh
02-11-2008 - just dont feel as pretty as i ought to
21-10-2008 - i wonder if this is true
20-10-2008 - to all who replied thanks
19-10-2008 - hubbys a pig tonight

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