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28-7-2008 - Food For Thought

My mood while writing this blog: annoyed

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I had to get this off my chest. I recently saw a friend of mine from school that I havent seen in a while. She just had her 3rd daughter, she asked how I was doing. I told her about my m/c from November. She had the nerve to say to me that I shouldnt be so upset I wasnt pregnant enough to miss the baby. And to salt the wound a little further she had the nerve to bring up the fact that she had lost a baby at 29 wks. I'm tired of feeling guilty for being sad just because I was only 6wks along, isnt my baby just as special as hers or any women who losses a baby no matter what week. Well needless to say I told her where to go, and what route she could take. Lots of us here have suffered losses, so instead of comforting each other we're now competing for who was more pregnant. All our babies are special and missed whether we are 6wks, 15wks 20 wks or even 40wks , we are carrying a life , a baby that we wont get the chance to hold until our time on earth is over. I'm allowed to be sad and not compared to someone elses situation and be told I have to reason to cry. I miss both of my babies, and tear up even now as i write this. I think we all need a little more understanding in this world. I pray for all the mom's and dad's who have had to endure any loss.

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2 Comments on Food For Thought


firstmommy08 - Tuesday, 29 Jul
I meant thoughts in your mind but it wouldn't let me edit.

firstmommy08 - Tuesday, 29 Jul
You're exactly right! Ohh! That makes me cringe. I've had that experience a few x's in the 6 weeks that it's been for me since my loss. Even my dentist said to me 2 weeks ago, "well my wife lost our baby at 20 weeks" but he was saying it like 20 weeks was worse that 13 weeks. Then I had a friend say to me, "well, atleast you didn't carry the baby to near full term and this happened". Like you said, "WHAT DOES THAT MATTER?!?" We all had hopes and dreams for our little babies growing inside of us. We all wanted to love those babies and hug em' and kiss on em'. We never got that. It was stolen from us. No matter what week we were on, we all are still suffering. I know exactly the lots that were in your mind.