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27-1-2009 - unfair double standards

My mood while writing this blog: irritated

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Ok, this is about the safest place I can imagine to safely vent and have this not get back to my mother! Let me tell you all a little story, and you tell me if I'm being unreasonable here. My family has a vacation house about 7 hours away from where we all live. We have had "said" house since I was 9 years old, so this has always been a fun family destination away from home and a nice skiiing oasis of sorts. Over the years we have used this house often as a family and my oldest sister has used this repeatedly with boyfriends and various friends over the years and currently still does. My husband and I asked for the very first time if we could go and stay at the house for a weekend in April for a special bike race for him. We also asked if my brother in law and sister in law could accompany us. My mom tells me that the rules are that no one who isn't family can stay in the house unless they are present. Keep in mind, I'm 29, my husband is 42, and my sibling in laws are 41 and 44 (and they are family for us)...we aren't a bunch of young teenage punks. My husband and I are welcome to stay at the house that can sleep 9, but no one else. If the rules had always been no one outside of my biological family I could understand this...but my sister re-counted over a dozen times in the past 10 years she has been there with friends...or friends of hers have stayed there with friends...people my parents have NEVER met! I'm a slight bit annoyed at this double standard...especially when I'm the one that has the closer relationship with my parents in comparison with my older sister...ugh...thoughts?

Am I being unreasonable and in general crabby prego? What's the point of owning a family house if we aren't allowed to use it...and now will have to spend close to $400 on a hotel for the weekend?

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