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15-2-2009 - Arghhhhhhhhh

My mood while writing this blog: so upset

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I am going to make a long story short......my sister had natural fraternal twins in August. In a conversation I had with her recently, I said when people find out Im having twins they always ask me "oh so do they run in the family"......and I say well as a matter of fact they do, (as coincidently my sister just had a set) sometimes if i want to get into the conversation Ill say mine were conceived through ivf, but most the time I just answer their question-as it is true-they DO run in the family. I am not ashamed that my twins were conceived through IVF-its just a not needed conversation to have with a stranger. WELLLLLL my sister got so upset because she said she is proud that hers were natural and that Im taking away from her by not telling people mine were done through fertility.............so I remind her I am not disclosing it mainly because its none of anyone business-and it becomes a long discussion in a short elevator ride. N E Who I said your entitled to feel that Shannon, but it really doesnt matter-and she went on and on and on saying she is insulted yada yada............I am am so upset about this......please tell me howyou feel about this.........I will also remind you like I did my sister that Rylan my first born was one of two (naturally conceived twins) that I had vanishing twin syndrome with-2 sacs at 8 weeks- only one at 12 weeks.....not that that is nneither here nor there.

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18 Comments on Arghhhhhhhhh


annas-momma - Monday, 23 Feb
I think she should be happy for you, no matter how your twins were conceived. And I think its totally justifiable that you don't feel the need to tell everyone that you conceived through IVF. Its not their business!! It doesn't matter how they got there... what matters is that they are there! Shes probably just upset because she liked having the spotlight on her kids, and now some is being taken away. When I had my daughter, my sister got VERY upset and said that attention was taken away from her 20 month old son. She got pregnant again the same month I had Anna. Some people are just that way, I guess. Either way, CONGRATULATIONS!!!! :) :) :)

utopianite - Saturday, 21 Feb
awww.... Your sister should be happy for you. It's really amazing that you both have twins, and it doesn't matter at all how they were conceived. Hopefully the two of you will be closer again after your babies are born.

buffyhaving twins - Monday, 16 Feb
I think that's a huge tick off!! Too bad she can't be happy for you. Who really cares how you ended up with 2, the fact is your having 2! This is your pregnancy and I agree that you don't have to tell people everything!

Just♥Mommy - Monday, 16 Feb
Wow, I'd be seriously ticked off at her. How dare she!! Especially knowing what all you've been through to get these babies!! She should be singing you praise because it takes a lot out of a woman to go through what you have gone through and natural or not -- these twins are coming from you. Wow, that is insanely rude and inconsiderate of her. I'm so sorry hun. That seriously makes me so angry to read. She should be very happy for you guys and be completely understanding. Sounds to me that she may be just a little bit jealous! Of what, I have no idea (considering she has her own set) -- but still... have some decency.

iowajamie80 - Monday, 16 Feb
I agree with everyone else. She is JEALOUS because she has babies and now your babies are going to be the new ones!!! I would just kinda throw it back at her!!! i would say something like yeah it will be nice when i have the babies cuz everyone is going to want to hold them and yours are going to be all over the place!!! LOL!! Make it a fun situation!!! And who cares if you had IVF what would of happened if you had like 3 or 4 babies?! She would be upset either way!! It doesnt matter about the IVF and that is a personal decision to tell anyone and frankly it is not going to have any bearing on anything at all!!! People are just happy that you were able to get pregnant!! And congrats again. Dont let people frustrate you on stupid little stuff like that!!! And we all love you on here soooo... Hope things get better and she realizes that she has been a complete witch! TTYL

**MOLAR**SURVIVOR!! - Monday, 16 Feb
I think it sounds like your sister a little jealous now that she had her babies, her spotlight has faded and it is now focused on you. I dont feel it neccesary to give your life history to strangers when it is besides the point. The point is your pregnant with twins and it doesnt matter to you and your heart how they got there. Family can be the most hurtful of anyone, in my experience and I will always believe that.

Donna (Blue) - Monday, 16 Feb
Sounds like shes braggin that she had twins by natural birth. Its nothing to be proud off a baby is a baby 1, 2 or more. Who cares how they were concieved. If it was my sister ill tell her to shut her mouth and be happy you both have kids... full stop.

mommie-2-2 - Monday, 16 Feb
Sounds to me like she's upset youre in the spotlight, youre getting all the attention!! She will realize that! I have two sisters, I know all about this! Hang in there.

minkymoo78 - Monday, 16 Feb
It certainly doesn't matter how you came about conceiving your twins! You are carrying an absolute miracle and can tell people what you want. You're not lying when you say they run in the family and you're right, it's no one elses business. xx

mrs.leyva - Monday, 16 Feb
Its very dissappointing to hear your sister acting this way towards you. I hope she opens her eyes and sees how mean she is being. You just stay focus on having healthy beautiful babies.

Danni74 - Monday, 16 Feb
How your children were conceived is nobody's business. You should be proud and excited to have twins and there shouldn't be an asterisk next to them because they were conceived through IVF. Maybe your sister is jealous that she's not the only one with twins!

byrdi - Sunday, 15 Feb
sounds to me that she was used to all the attention b/c she had twins....whether or not they were conceived naturally doesn't matter, you are still growing two people. tell her to get over herself and try to be supportive of someone other than herself!

vicki--mommy of 4 - Sunday, 15 Feb
Your twins are just as natural as hers. Both of your eggs did not HAVE to implant. But with God's love and miracles, your babies are growing and nurturing. Don't let her give you crap hun. If God didn't want you to have 2 right now then you wouldn't, the same as her. Oh my goodness, I feel fired up right now. I'm sorry, I'm sure you love your sister and I mean no disrespect but how she could think her twins are any different than yours, I don't know. Take care hun! I'll stop ranting now. :-) (((HUGS)))

RubyLove - Sunday, 15 Feb
I also think ur sis doesn't feel "special" anymore, since she's used to getting the attention as the mother of twins. I would be really hurt, and it's a little hard to ignore. I think I would give her a piece of my mind. Ull feel better once u get it off ur chest!! THEN u can ignore :)

tto - Sunday, 15 Feb
It's like she feels that her children are more real or legit because it was natural. Twins are twins- how they are conceived means nothing. Think of the definition of twins. It is only your business and she's acting very jealous- like your stealing her lime light. She sounds either immature, or insecure.

~ I luv my boyz ~ - Sunday, 15 Feb
It does not matter how they got there your having twins congrats girl!!!!
And I Agree u should not have to tell everyone details and make drama out of it you have every right to have others say wow good job lol!
who cares how they got there I agree tell her to kiss your belly lol!!!!good one Taren C!!!!lol

shelly32 - Sunday, 15 Feb
so does she feel like her children are somehow "better" than yours because they were conceived the old fashion way? that's just silly and it is no one's business. I would tell her to stop belittling you and she should just hope that they are healthy no matter how they are conceived. i would be very upset if i were you. i think any pregnancy is a blessing and a miracle in itself and she shouldn't try and take that feeling away from you!!

Abigails Mommy - Sunday, 15 Feb
aww hon I'm so sorry she has to be that way. You're not answering untruthfully when you say they do run in your family. THEY DO!!! I think you're right when you say it's noone's business how this set of your twins came to be. Babies are babies.. twins are twins.. doesn't matter how they got here. The fact is they ARE. *HUG* I don't feel like your sister should be so upset.