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23-7-2009 - Babies Grandparents

My mood while writing this blog: unsure and confused

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Okay - any of ye ladies have any advice on Martin telling his MOTHER ?..
im 21 weeks pregnant and still he hasn't told his mother about me being pregnant and that she is going to be a grandmother for another time as she has something like 18-19 grandkids (big big family.. 8 kids)
My parents are wanting to meet her as they haven't before.. knor have i meet her before as me and martin were only together for about 6 months..
I'm just getting confused what i should do - anytime i have mentioned it to him he just said oh i will and makes up an excuse is to why he hasn't told her...I'm tired of this and after my holiday i have only really 15 weeks and at that i could go early or anything... i just think if he told her now before the baby is born she will have ''calmed'' down or relaxed about Martin being a father.
Martin's dad John died 3 years ago. Both my parents are still alive.. and are so excited of another grand child..

I just think he is more afraid of telling her he is going to be a father and we are not together than him just being a father!!! I have thought of writing a letter or calling Cisse ... but I'm worried of the out come.. I just would like to involve her in her grandchilds life and as do i want my child involved in his/her grandmothers life?...
Please can ye ladies advice me please :)

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7 Comments on Babies Grandparents


ilovemypeanut - Monday, 27 Jul
I agree with telling him you will be advising her of the baby. And if he comes out with some..." You are forcing it" type of thing.... It's a BS saying. You are prego with his baby and if you want babies granny to know then I think it's nice that you atleast let her know of babies existance. You can always just ask how involved she would like to be as well. =) I was only with my baby's daddy for a month (!!!!!) Still together.. makes it easier ofcourse in my situation. But hey..!!! this is your baby!!! you are excited.. its hard to keep it in!! =)

barbi - Monday, 27 Jul
umm..you are so hot and sound like a great girl, what is that guy thinking? He is going to come crawling back to you, I just hope you don't take him back.

claire louise - Friday, 24 Jul
Agree with all the above. What is he waiting for ??????x

EllaG - Friday, 24 Jul
I hate to say it hon, but it sounds like Martin may not be all that interested in being an active father. I agree with avasmomma - tell him that if he doesn't man up and tell her by a certain date, that you are going to tell her - but I would tell her in person rather than over the phone or a letter. Especially as you say that you want her to have a part in this baby's life. Best of luck!

sarah grogan - Thursday, 23 Jul
But i have given him warning.. Plenty... like nearly 22 weeks pregnancy warning!!!!! i keep at him to tell her.. i nearly miscarried at 10 weeks so we said we would wait till after 13 weeks.. and he didnt.. and still hasnt... im now 22 weeks pregnant tuesday and just tired of it...
So should i ring her or write a letter and insert copies of the scan?!?!?!
oh god :-s

mamalvs4 - Thursday, 23 Jul
i agree give him fair warning and if he hasnt told her then you need to

-avasmama- - Thursday, 23 Jul
that's a tough one. I think I might tell Martin that if he does not tell her by a certain date, that you will. Maybe that will get him moving...and then if he doen't follow thru then by all means tell her! Then he can't say you didn't warn him.