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23-7-2008 - dont even know how to hold a baby!

My mood while writing this blog: scared!

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ok so im hoping some of you ladies can help me out here. my midwife is utterly useless!! she cant get me onto any antenatal classes so ive gotta go to some stupid "parent craft" day. this is my first pregnancy and im going to be having TWINS! trouble is i really do not know a thing about how to look after a baby let alone 2! well...i can change a nappy bt that really is all.

what would you say are the things i REALLY need to know about and how do i do them? im getting really scared becos im going to have them in less than 5 weeks time, and i dont know what im goign to do! i intend on breast feeding but i dont know how im supposed to do that or when i need to feed them, its all well and good the midwife saying "go with your instict" but what if im wrong, what if i "go with my instict" on bath temperature and end up burning my babies??!!

all this panic set in cos a lady brought in her baby today, hes 4 weeks old and ppl were passing him around like a parcel and i hate that, so i REALLY didnt want to hold him. but they MADE me hold him, and all eyes were on me and ppl saying "wow, if you dont like holding one wuts it going to be like when you have two! how will you cope!" blah blah blah. i hate it. HELLLLLPPP!!!!

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9 Comments on dont even know how to hold a baby!


Debra - Monday, 4 Aug
i wrote down all my tips on my VIP page- especially the stuff on breastfeeding and what you need to get started to do it correctly and efficiently. After feeding, make sure baby is burped and changed. If they are sleeping, get some rest. Don't be afraid to put them down and get away from them as well! and if they like being held, the moby wrap I recommend also is a good twin baby carrier. or you can hold one easily. Getting a good back pack carrier for when they get older is fantastic as well. I've been trialling the ERGo carrier lately and have also been trying the 'olives and apple sauce' mai tai/ structured carrier. Its great for having baby on your back and having hands free. It will save your back to have a good carrier. With two, you will probably be guarenteed to be picking up at least one of them all the time. Don't be afraid to ask me for any advice, I'd love to help out any way I can!

trinity - Thursday, 31 Jul
i took a prenatal class and i do not think it helped. you will truely know what to do when you get in the position. i have so much trouble with breast feeding. use the lactaion consultant or midwife to help you with that. it is not as easy as you would think for something so natural. i was only able to do it for 4-6 wk with each of my children do to allergies. but that is also when i finally started to get the hang of it. i have a friend and she nursed two children with no problems. but use the help when you have it. you are your babies everything so just holding them any way will calm them. and they should give you papers on breastfeeding and other baby care. but you will do just fine. it will all come to you, just wait and see.

babybuddy - Friday, 25 Jul
sorry message is late just got out of hospital just do what ive done get bath therm lol the rest im sure will come natural mothers instinct will kick in

Nouna - Thursday, 24 Jul
Hello dear
Dont worry all will be fine ..they say when you will deliver ,these will come automatically...i wish you all the best and relax.. me and my hubby is coming to UK most probably by mid of sept 08.(if we get the visa)Will let you know ..We willl be in greenwich..is it far from your place ?

purplepug - Thursday, 24 Jul
u kidding!! ul get dem babies in ur arms and itl b the most naturaL thing in the world!! ul even b able to juggle em after a month :o) kidding.. but ul manage.. if i did u can too..had to get about on buses for the first year til i got my car. my family have only started taking them recently and theyr 5 now.. so no.. u wont go mad.. or lose ur mind.. ul b tired, but full of love xx

4sAcharm - Thursday, 24 Jul
Just be calm is the main thing. If you are calm they will be also! If they cry change them feed them hold them. All the things you would think to do and something will work. You will be just fine I know it!!!

M.M.Masi - Wednesday, 23 Jul
I agree with jenniferlynn - don't worry about it. I don't like holding others babies either unless they are a very close relative. I'm sure you'll do fine. Mothering comes on naturally, you may have some good days and some bad, but we all will it won't have anything to do with your experience. Bathing the babies, is the same as testing the formula on your wrist, if it feels to warm or hot on your wrist then chances are the water/ formula is to hot for the baby. Hold them how ever you feel comfortable. I remember a friend of mine trying to hold her newborn the way she was taught in the hospital and she looked so akward doing it. I asked her "are you comfortable" and she of course said no. So I told her to find a way were she felt right and that would be the best way to hold the baby, she did and she's now a great mom. Good luck. Feel free to ask me anything you want. I have a 10 yr old and 6 nieces and nephews and my twins are coming in the next 2 weeks.

jenniferlynn5366 - Wednesday, 23 Jul
Sib it all comes natural.....as soon as you have your baby you will know exactly what to do. You dont need those classes. its all a mothers instinct. God would not give you anything he felt like you cant handle.....good luck girl!!!!

babydoll24 - Wednesday, 23 Jul
aww, congrats on the twins!!!
i have twins myself (girls). i had them when i was 19 and i was completely alone from the start but i did it!!!
i felt and thought the exact same way you do. i knew absolutely nothing about babies and was so scared i was going to do something wrong,,,,,but as soon as i held my babies in my arms, all those feelings of being scared and not knowing what to do just went away....its hard to explain but once you hold your babies you'll know exactly what to do.
and if a time comes that you don't know what to do about something, just ask someone.....(family, friends, your doctor) they're all a great help!!!!
but don't worry. you'll know exactly what to do when the time comes!!!!!
my gitls are now 5 and the loves of my life. raising them alone from babies was the hardest thing i'll ever have to do, but in a weird way, it was also the easiest.
good luck with your little one's.