06-7-2008 - JAMIES 1ST DAY TASKS

My mood while writing this blog: OK

So today was Jamie first day with Harrett, occupational therapy, she comes to a home visit for an hour or so! Doing things with Jamie, she brought a bag of good toys with her today as an idea for us as parents what Jamie should play with and for us as parents to spent at least 20 mins a day full attention to Jamie so say about an hour!

Playing with finger puppets, books, reading story cd you play to them, and a book visualizing thing, where you get child to close there eyes as you read book and for them to visualize the story that there in the story and feel wind on there face etc! Hear the ocean.

When playin with your kids to be really goofy!! and let your self go get up dance with them that a "NO NO" for me now lol 4 wks to till due date ha ha!

So today when Harrett was gone, i made out 5 tasks on Jamies rewards chart that he had to do and if he did he got a glittery smiley sticker on his chart! So my 5 tasks for him was like this:

1- Put your dirty clothes into laudry basket, 2- Put your plates etc into dishwasher when you are finished your meals, 3- not to get mad with yourself, 4- tidy your room, 5- Get ready for bed first time your asked!

So by end of the day he got 4 smiley stickers!! He did not get a sticker for no.3 as he did get mad a few times with himself today and arguements with me his dad and his 4 year old cousin! So he could not get a sticker for that but he did everything else great!

SO was a good start and it will probably take a good while to get his temper calmed! As that the biggest problem we have with him! He can go into a wild rage over simplest things and argue with everyone! Its very stressful for everyone around him.

we were also advised to read him a story every night b4 bed! so i did tonight, Scare crow secret ha! he enjoyed it but was short story so he wanted another.

I was stressed today after Harrett going as the bf had to go buy skirting for house, and jamie was the oh im bored thing! so i did the time book with him and his puzzle book so was ok and he only watched 1 hr of tv today with was excellent! Myself the bf and Jamie went to Johnnys sisters house then there was his cousins there so he played away! For couple of hours! Had 1 outburst there but was ok.

A aguement with his dad when we got home, as after all we did for him today he came up with that line again im bored what i play with! I do nothin like! and fighting over his daddy tellin him we have to get rid of our dog as she too big and not trained! So Jamie and his dad had bit of a roar, but calmed down.

Were not meant to raise our voices it s all about looking into child s eyes at there level and tellin em what they did wrong and that it made you upset etc! Instead of raising your voice! Which is hard but were learning too! First day. Plus sending child to its room if bold and let em scream away and you just go to other part of house and take few breathes and relax! Tell child why there been sent to room and how made you feel what they did, and think about what they done, and when they ve stopped crying calmed down to come back down to you to say sorry!

I did this before and took a good half hour to 45mins for Jamie to calm down as he was in a right state, temper screaming howling but did him all the good to get it out of his system! and he was grand then for rest of the day! Its like saying no to child that dont like word no,and really sticking to your word wen a child knows you as a pushover for last few years they know oh ill do this mama will break and ill get what i want! If i scream cryin as it always work! But now its the time for you as a mama to take charge and not the kid! and wen you say no you mean no and it will break your heart and very hard, but you have to stick to it. and not give in to him!

If you keep lettin child have its way all the time your doomed for the future be no control over child as he sees you as soft!

So were doing everything possible for Jamie now! in school people visiting and our work as parents! We will make this work for my little boy! hard road but has to be sorted now as woman said leave it go any longer and there be no hope!

Ps video games and more than 2 hour and 30 min s of tv is bad for them! That to get your kids out playin ball, go to playground with them as often as you can and involved in sports Jamie does hurling! And plenty of healthy snacks in the house i got bannanas, strawberrys, satsumas, cereal bars, dairylee cheese stick snacks, for in between meal times as before he eat what ever was in fridge and that would be chocolate tayotos sweets all bad food and soposely these foods make a child hyper and mad!! not to mention constipated! Also switched to healthy drinks for him bottled water!! and a dash of sugar free dilute if needed! Its also good for us as a family to have healthy food in the house as we can pick away too at bad foods wen there! and if you have to have some naugthy food just lock high up and away from kids ! That maybe the wknds your child can have a naughty snack but not everyday!

Thatch!