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22-7-2008 - Being a Mommy

My mood while writing this blog: contemplative

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It occurred to me this morning while gazing at my beautiful son that every mother that gives birth is the first woman to ever give birth in a way. Because no matter what everyone tells you about the experience, you are always going into it blind, not really sure what to expect. In that sense, it is similar to death. You can believe what you will about the experience, but you will never actually know until you get there.

But of course, having a baby is a much happier experience than death. It is the beginning of life and it is something that is truly worth celebrating. When I feel that now familiar feeling in my heart when I am with my little one, I am amazed that there are women out there that are not totally head-over-heels in love with their child. How does that happen? It is so obviously natural to feel love for your baby. It goes without saying that you will think your baby is the most lovely, the most wonderful, the most perfect. It is supposed to be that way. While cradling our son, my hubby has commented incredulously, "How can someone abuse or shake a baby?" It is something that those of us that feel the bond could never imagine.

I am convinced now that my life would not have been complete without the experience of giving birth to my child. I'm glad it was a vaginal birth too, because that seems so much more fundamental and earthy than giving birth surgically, although I'm sure either way results in the same feeling of wholeness and somehow being complete as a woman for the first time ever. I'm not implying that a woman can't live a full live without having a child, but I know that personally, my life would not be full without it.

There is something about the experience that is an awakening. You learn what it is like to go through a medical ordeal, what it is like to incubate and introduce life into the world, and what it is like to love more than you knew possible. Pregnancy is so slow while it happens and then seems like it was over in a blink once it's done. And the first years of our baby's lives will be the same way. We must treat each day with the importance of that first day and cherish our little ones and what it is to be Mommy.

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15 Comments on Being a Mommy


MILITARY~MOMMY - Wednesday, 14 Jan
Lol, YOU DID! except it is now labeled for me Second trimester with darwin...

MILITARY~MOMMY - Wednesday, 14 Jan
Did you send me this twice?


SunshineBaby1 - Tuesday, 13 Jan
For those who wonder - it IS SOOOOOOO worth posting so you can read it! SOOOOOO true! Thanks for sharing with us, TBT!

SunshineBaby1 - Tuesday, 13 Jan
I'm posting so I can read it.... apparently that works... ?

MILITARY~MOMMY - Tuesday, 13 Jan
Beautiful- My personal thought on women who don't connect with their babies.... Give them to someone who will! I know so many wonderful ppl trying to adopt, it breaks my heart to know there are those who don't love the bubs they have!

MILITARY~MOMMY - Tuesday, 13 Jan
lalala, aparently need to post to see it...

colombianmama - Tuesday, 13 Jan
I can't see it

kirra82 - Tuesday, 13 Jan
I think I am seeing the wrong blog.... Something weird is happenin :)

kirra82 - Tuesday, 13 Jan
Cant see it....

soon2be3 - Monday, 12 Jan
I can't see it either...hopefully I will after I post this.

charleston - Monday, 12 Jan
I can't see your blog either...whats up??? You doing the baby dance over there????

nmck - Monday, 12 Jan
Weird, I can see it after I posted that! Very well said!! I really do pray that next time, I can at least be awake for the delivery of the baby. Bobby and I both feel like we missed out on something.

nmck - Monday, 12 Jan
I can't see it either! Boo!

cherryb0m - Monday, 12 Jan
wierd - i cant see your blog???

HillaryB - Wednesday, 23 Jul
Thank-you. That touched my heart.