03-1-2010 - Problems with family

My mood while writing this blog: pissed/stressed

Well, let me start by saying that this may be a little long. We flew out to my parents on New Year's Eve which is in CA. Everything seemed great that night and Friday. On Saturday my mom and sister was throwing me a baby shower and we had finished getting everything that day and got the house ready. My youngest brother Tommy, who is an adult (21) came to me and Sean and wanted to change his clothes and do his hair. Which isn't a big deal but Aydan was playing in the water and was in nice clothes anyways. We had told Tommy no that he didn't need to be changed and he was fine. He didn't understand that Aydan doesn't like his diaper changed let alone clothes. Tommy had already been drinking by 2pm and had a least 4 drinks which Sean and I seen. We weren't going to let him try and change him after drinking that much and he decided to tell us that he is his nephew and he will do it if he wants too. That is went we told him that he won't be taking him anywhere no matter what. The babyshower started at 3 pm and there was a big fight right before with the whole ordeal on Aydan. Tommy then proceeded to bitch to everyone at the babyshower. Everytime we turned around we could hear him going on about it to someone different and would come back to me or Sean and start again that he was going to change him. By the time the end of the babyshower I was so stressed and ready to leave for home. I was looking at what it would cost to change our flight. The only reason I didn't is because of seeing my parents. We had several family members from my mom's side that heard the whole story of what happened and agreed with Sean and I that it is our right to say no and he should repect our choice.

Sunday, it still hasn't changed much and Tommy is just being a complete ass to me and with all that had happened yesterday. He is pissed that my mom had us stay in his room and he is bunking on the couch or with our sister. They usually play the wii and end up falling asleep on the bed together anyways. Plus he has a truck which he could drive but doesn't want to because the inside is messed us of which he was the one to do that. He had usually been using my grandma's Cadi but that is the only car that we can use because it has a back seat. My parents only have 2 seater cars. We were going to rent a car but my parents said there was no need because they have plenty of cars and for us to use the Cadi.

We were thinking of trying to get back out here to see them around Easter because school has a 4 day weekend but at this point it is going to be at least a year before we come back out unless my sibling can behave themselves. I told my parents last night that it sucks to be so far away from them and grandma but I am glad to be 2,000 mi away from my brother.

I know that I am pregnant and hormonal but I think that they need to respect what we say with our children. They don't have kids and is only around Aydan when I bring him out to see the family. They are not with him everyday to understand how he acts and what he likes and doesn't like. I am sorry for ranting but I would just like to know from other moms their thought on if we were right with this.

Also the stress from the last couple of days have been bad, I don't even have this much stress at work and I have to work on people and deal with their families if we can't get them back again after they have died.