11-7-2009 - Baby Shower Nightmares

My mood while writing this blog: Ok

Ok, so this is how it all got started. My best friend was the first person I told I was pregnant, I was shocked and freaking out and not sure if I should tell my BF because I knew he would flip. Well, my best friend thought I should tell him, but she was also very excited that I was pregnant. She said she couldn't wait to throw me a baby shower. Well as time passed and it got closer we just kept talking about it, she talked about it all the time. We agreed on a date, I told a few people when and said she just had to pick a place. Well, The beginning of June I went out and got invitations, we sat down and made a list of people to invite and created a menu of food we would serve. All she had to do was pick a place. She said to give a couple days to decide where to do it. I waited about a week and sent her a text and said well did you decide where to do it? My best friend sent me a text back saying that her and her boyfriend were buying a house and she needed all her money for that, so she really didn't think she could throw me a shower anymore. I was heartbroken, but told her to just forget it. She didn't want me to be mad so she said she would do it eventually, she just didn't know when. I said forget it. I called my 22 year old son and told him to call his friends mom and tell her it was cancelled.

Well, my sons friends mother thought it was sad, she figured I was heart broken. I have known this women for about 16 years, and she decided that she would throw the shower at her house. On July 18th she is having a graduation party for her son so she will have a canopy that covers her entire patio, all the tables and chairs and everything set up, so she offered to have a shower at her home on the 19th. I almost started to cry. She even has two other women that I have been friends with for the same amount of time that will help to cater the entire thing. They invited my family and friends, people I work with and a number of people from church. Before I said yes, I did text my best friend to see what she thought and thought it would be great. Well, once the invitation came in the mail my friend got upset, she assumed that she was still in charge and doing everything. I left it alone and did say anything to that. Well the shower is next week so I asked my BFF if she is coming. She said I don't know when is it? I told her but she didn't respond. I asked again (texting) she said of course, where is it? Mind you she got an invitation.... Then she sends me a text message that said "Sure I will go to the shower I was supposed to throw for my best friend but got stiffed on."

Did I miss something? How am I the bad guy in all this. She is mad at me, when she is the one that after 6 months of planning decided she couldn't do it. I can't tell you how often I get blown off at the last minute. We were supposed to be going today to take a tour of the labor & delivery area of the hospital, we talked about it twice last night before I went to bed. This morning I just kept calling and she never answered the phone. The tour started at noon, at 12:15 she finally answered her phone and I never even mentioned it. Am I the one that is nuts here? Please comment.