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25-8-2009 - Raising Teenagers HurtMy mood while writing this blog:
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As many of you know, I created this profile to take the place of another after my 19 year old son searched this site to find my profile and then read a VERY personal blog I had written about my BF. Today my son and I had an arguement because he wanted access to my cell phone account online. I refused to allow him access because I have all my credit card information and everything on that account. He wanted the information to try and find out who had called him recently. I told him Alltel doesn't list phone calls made in the current month. My son feels he has the write to view the account because he has a phone on my account. I said no.

I should mention that my son has recently become unemployed and I am paying his cell phone bill. I am also giving him a very expensive china cabinet when I move. My son told me what a horrible person I am and brought up things from the blog I wrote just to try to hurt me. He said very nasty things about 2 of his brothers and was just plain mean. He also said that everyone knows strep B is something you gt by having oral sex with someone who has strep throat. While that made me laugh because it is SOOOOO stupid, it was mean and hurtful. He was trying to say I have strep B because I sleep around. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 1/2 years. I have to tell you it took everything in me not to say anything mean back.

My son was with his GF for a month when she got pregnant. At the time she got pregnant, she was 17 and already has an 18 month old with someone else. I told him since she is pregnant again and knows about it, he should ask her about strep B and quit being an ass to me. I told him he needed to shut up while his phone is still on, because I could very easily have it turned off since he thinks I am so impossible to deal with. I should also mention that after my son was kicked out of my house when he turned 18, I allowed him to come over and use my computer, he put a password on it to prevent me from accessing certain things. So, thee is a reason I don't trust him to give him my password for an online account.

I am very hurt and angry about the things he said to me, and I know he will never say he is sorry, because he isn't. I am no longer speaking to him, but I am sure in a day or two when he wants or needs something, he will call me up and act like everything is fine. He thinks I just need to grow up because he is the mature adult and I am the spoiled child. I would really be interested in knowing if anyone thinks I should allow him access to my account. I won't demand an apology because I would never get one, but I think I deserve one.




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Kelkari - Wednesday, 26 Aug
YMM - Do not give him access to your account information...ever. He has no business asking or expecting that information. If he wants you to research a number for him, tell him you will after the move is done, but he'll have to wait or he can get his own phone. He is acting out like a spoiled little boy, stomping his feet and being mean and hurtful. I am sorry he is doing this to you at a time when everything is so stressful. You have been accomodating to him with the computer usage and phone, but if he continues to act like this I would consider elimiating his access to both. I know it is all easy for us to look in and give our opinion - but with you emotions and a history impact your decisions and approach. We don't always like are kids, but love them nonetheless. Wish I was there to give you a hug, help you move and offer more support. Let me know if I can do anything from here!

KeepinTheFaith - Wednesday, 26 Aug
First off, I'm sorry that you had to go through this with your son. My children are still small so you may think I can't relate but I was raised with 7 brothers and watched my own mother go through very similar type situations with some of them as they got older. I really think that it's simple immaturity and disrespect and I absolutely wouldn't allow him access to your account (or any other account for that matter). I don't blame you for not countering back with all the things wrong with his situation but I would be firm and try to send the message that he can't walk on you. That's something my mother never did with her sons and now she is gone and they have FINALLY realized just exactly how big of jerks they really were when they THOUGHT they knew everything. Good luck hun, I'll be thinking of you.~Wendy

eve2ndbaby (blue) - Wednesday, 26 Aug
There is no way you should give him access to your account. He is still your child and you are his mother, therefore he shouldn't be questioning or asking anything like that. You are already generous enough with providing a phone in the first place. It is horrible that he is saying those hurtful things to you. Hopefully over time he will regret what he has said and you will get an apology. You absolutely deserve it! I'm sorry you have to deal with this during your exciting time with your move and all. Hopefully he will grow up soon.
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