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Oliver Joseph Behagg Sex: boy Born: 16 September, 2008 Age: 0 years & 80 days Birthday in: 285 days Starsign: Virgo Development: See the 2 months page. Biggest achievement so far: -

Oliver Joseph Behagg

7lb 15oz

00:46

Delivery- Vaginal, Episiotomy, Ventouse with pain relief

I was admitted on sunday the 14th Sept for induction. They did an internal exam to see if i needed a pessary to start contractions. Unfortunatly i was 3cm dilated so they said they would break my waters the next day. It took 3 attempts to break my waters but when they finally did at 10.20 am i went into strong back to back labour with contractions coming every 5 mins for 30 mins and every 3 mins for the next 5 hours, because of the pain i opted for pethidine at about 12 o'clock. By 3 o'clock i started to need to push. Something was very wrong. They checked me and i was only 8 cms dilated and was involuntary pushing on my cervix. This was causing it to swell instead of dilate further. The pain had been ridiculous throughout because he was OP (back to back). They decided an epidural would be best to slow things down. Which it did. This gave my cervix a chance to dilate further and for Oliver to turn round. The pressure and pain was gone within an hour!! It took a further 7 hours to get to a stage where i could start pushing. Unfortunatly i couldn't feel any of my contractions anymore so when i had been pushing for 2 hours with minimal progress they decided intervention was required.

The gave me an epsiotomy and used ventouse to help get him out and with the next to pushes and pulls he was out...

Olivers apgar was 8 at 1 minute and 10 at 5 minutes. At no point was he in any severe distress he was perfect all the way through apart from the bit where he was back to back.

Now the fun began. The doc was trying to stitche me up for a good 30 minutes and i lost 600mm of blood. They had to get the reg surgeon in to finish the job because they could not stem the bleed. Once that had been done i could cuddle my little one. I was shattered and in shock but mostly okay.

The next day i felt sick, couldn't eat and very very weak. My HB had dropped to 7.3 so they decided an emergency blood transfusion was needed. I fainted everytime i got up and couldn't wash or clean myself. I was desperate for a bath or shower yet they couldn't allow it because i kept fainting and my BP was low.

Oliver was perfect through all of this and was breastfeeding beautifully. On the second day i was feeling better and opted to go home. Only the blood loss was so great the transfusion only bought my HB up to 8. Still determined to go home they prescribed a strong dose of iron tablets and lots of rest.

The first night was a nightmare. Baby wanted the breast every 2 hours for 30mins and my husband was violently sick a few times. Ifelt awfully weak and not well but was determined to carry on independantly. By the next day and several ibuprofen and paracetamol later i felt able to manage it. The midwife came round but was more pre-occupied with my breastfeeding than my health. That night i had finally managed to drop to sleep when i woke up with a terrible fever. I had soaked my t-shirt and felt awful. I went to the bathroom and noticed a funny smell coming from my pad. My stitches had split and were leaking pus. I felt like sh*t and baby really needed a feed. I plucked my last ounce of energy and phoned the Keydoc they had me in immediately. My temp was soaring and i felt faint.

When the doc checked me they put me on 48 hours of IV anti-biotics and and washed and flushed the wound with saline. All this time my little man had been hungry. We made the decision to stop breast feeding and went on to formula. The episiotomy wound has split open right from the bit near the bum to the base of my vagina along the perineam and now has to heal from the deepest part upwards. I finally got home 6 days after giving birth but have been told not to expect to heal much quicker than 3 months but i should feel some relief when the nerve endings have healed over in 2 weeks or so. I am also on 14 days worth of tablet antibiotics and a huge dose of iron to keep me going.

Apart from a little bit of dry skin, Oliver is an absolute dream to look after and at 9 days old he already only wakes 2-3 times a night for a feed. Everyone says he's a pretty boy but to me he's a handsome little man.

Not sure right now whether to expand my family but it will almost certainly be in the distant future.

Oliver was 100% worth it!!

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